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In reply to the discussion: On this date, 4/17/1963, Adults entered into a contract that limited my rights without my permission [View all]question everything
(48,465 posts)This is what I was trying to convey. I was asking the OP to try to put herself in the birth mother position. First, the shock of finding herself pregnant, perhaps even being kicked out of home if she were a teenager. Then the shock of giving up the baby and trying to start a new life. We've heard many stories about young women who gave up their babies and were happy in their new lives and did not want to have this baby coming up to their lives.
But the OP is about the anger of being put up for adoption. An anger that has lasted for 53 years.
I am older. I have reached a stage in my life when keep nurturing an anger is destructive.
I feel bad for her son and grandchildren that have to live with such anger.
It is not about "getting over it," and this is not what I was trying to say.
It is about the peace of mind of the OP to set her own priorities. Is it really worth it nurturing this anger for the next 30 or 40 years?
If so, I can only pity her.