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In reply to the discussion: On this date, 4/17/1963, Adults entered into a contract that limited my rights without my permission [View all]question everything
(47,841 posts)Being a woman, and a mother yourself, can you not put yourself in her position?
In 1962 single mothers were rare and abortion was life threatening. She probably was a young woman, a girl, maybe, who just wanted to have this sad episode behind her. To start anew. Is this so bad?
She signed the adoption papers with a promise of secrecy that this birth would never come back to haunt her.
If it is only about a birth certificate, can one be issued, with all the details covered?
Yes, today we are all for adopted children to find their original family, for, at least, find out medical information, a bone marrow donor if needed.
I think that in many cases, the adoption agency contacts the mother and if she agrees, then there is a meeting.
And what about your adoptive parents? I hope that they were loving, caring ones. I hope that you've considered themselves your real parents. Parents are the ones who nurture us, who mold us, who are there when we fall and who cheer us when we fail.
I feel sorry for you and for your adoptive parents if you've carried this anger for all your lives. And, yes, I think your children and grandchildren deserve a better appreciation of what a parent is.
Yes, I can sympathize with your anger and a sense of helplessness, but I can empathize with your birth mother. Sorry.
It is your birthday, why not let it go, determine that, yes, life is to short to continue wallow in this anger?
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