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In reply to the discussion: A cartoon about rape culture and risk [View all]cui bono
(19,926 posts)that he would pick her up and bring her back to his place for drinks. How many times must a woman suggest an alternative before a man will listen to her? How could he not grasp from that that she wanted to meet somewhere public? They have never even met in person before, what do you want her to explain that isn't obvious?
At that point it's pretty obvious this guy is an insensitive and unaware oaf who is not deserving of her or any other self-respecting woman's time. I think that's the point of her not feeling like she should "share her position and thinking further". She already said she'd rather meet somewhere public, what more needs to be said? It's obvious what the concern is, this is a guy off the internet that she has never met in person before. What's to explain??? Why is he being so pushy??? His refusal to accept her suggestion the first time shows there is cause for concern right off the bat. If I were in that scenario and he ignored my request one time and repeated the suggestion of picking me up at my house and taking me to his house for drinks I would say never mind then. Do you really not see the danger in that?
Let's put it this way... what makes this guy deserving of any sort of discussion that you are suggesting? Why would this woman feel talking to this guy is worth her time and energy? You seem to really not like the fact that she decided it was over before it began, but the man ensured that by ignoring her very real and legitimate concerns for her own safety. That is not the kind of guy who would respond to any further discussion.