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abelenkpe

(9,933 posts)
7. My best friend in high school and college was bulimic
Thu May 3, 2012, 02:16 PM
May 2012

She was always obsessed with fitting into her mother's size four jeans. She grew up with a perfectionist in a home littered with fashion magazines. She would literally survive on condiments for days then make a big show of eating something like pizza only to relieve herself of it later. She disappeared from college in her second year to get help. It was so sad because she was so very beautiful. She just suffered from this insanely low self esteem brought on from never feeling like she lived up to her parents expectations. I always wonder what happened to her. Hope she's OK now.

People are judgmental. Especially about food. Even when not dealing with an eating disorder. I had to request a different seating arrangement a few years ago because my cubie was always commenting on my lunch. He could not go one day without telling me how what I brought was too fatty, too creamy, or just somehow offensive to him. (I always bring yogurt and fruit for lunch) So I moved and now I'm sitting with a woman who also constantly comments on what others are eating. She's very health conscious and a vegan. I made a batch of cookies for a bakesale at work once with coconut oil and she lectured me forever about how fatty coconut oil is and how I'm an awful mother for using that in any food I'd make for my kids or to sell at a fundraiser.

My son is super skinny. He really only wants to eat black beans, rice and fruit. Sometimes a little chicken and waffles. He hates pizza, bread, candy, cake. So each week we have what we call Food Adventure Day where we try something new we've never had before. He's good about it, but he still just eats a few things. My cubie has waxed on forever about how I should force him to eat. I can't see that that would be sensible.

So I guess, after a bit of thought, you are completely correct that people are crazy judgmental about food. It must be a hundred times worse for those with eating disorders. I think this is why so many on the right worry about a single payer system thinking that other's will suddenly take more issue with what they eat not realizing that other's (businesses, insurance companies, schools, neighbors) already do. And really it is none of their business.

I know someone who is going through this. It all seems evidence that something profoundly patrice May 2012 #1
Employers dont discriminate abelenkpe May 2012 #2
but also on how they look nadinbrzezinski May 2012 #3
My best friend in high school and college was bulimic abelenkpe May 2012 #7
You were close to her nadinbrzezinski May 2012 #8
They discriminate on both rox63 May 2012 #5
Our society's constant equating of beauty and worth is so harmful Marrah_G May 2012 #4
"...be a firefighter. Take my word done the job." zappaman May 2012 #6
As long as we are consumers and not citizens Rex May 2012 #9
Eating disorders have zero to do with being a citizen nadinbrzezinski May 2012 #10
That was not my point. Rex May 2012 #58
I have had an eating disorder most of my life. a la izquierda May 2012 #11
Nope, but we need to learn as a society to treat it as what they are nadinbrzezinski May 2012 #12
moderation, moderation, moderation seabeyond May 2012 #14
Very true zappaman May 2012 #15
in the universal law area, i really do not believe it is so much about willpower. i have found seabeyond May 2012 #25
No, not really... read the OP nadinbrzezinski May 2012 #18
i will have to disagree with you. and could argue that it is NOT that simple because of all seabeyond May 2012 #23
I wish you were correct nadinbrzezinski May 2012 #24
I hope our society finally, one day, evolves. We really need to. seabeyond May 2012 #26
I have learned how to not let it control me. a la izquierda May 2012 #37
true. seabeyond May 2012 #40
What prompted this thread today? Skidmore May 2012 #13
the eating disorder associated with obesity is binge eating disorder Iris May 2012 #16
That is one form it can and does take indeed. nadinbrzezinski May 2012 #19
BED is also associated with anorexia. Drunken Irishman May 2012 #63
I have yet to see a scientifically controlled study hedgehog May 2012 #17
There are, and I even posted one yesterday nadinbrzezinski May 2012 #20
I am a bulimic JustAnotherGen May 2012 #21
Yes, I am familiar with the chemical dysfunction nadinbrzezinski May 2012 #22
Thanks so much for clearing it up! JustAnotherGen May 2012 #61
This is so full of half-truths and inaccuracies that it borders on the irresponsible. Brickbat May 2012 #27
I agree zappaman May 2012 #28
You know, you should just put me on ignore nadinbrzezinski May 2012 #35
Eating isn't the only thing that causes Obesity. Neoma May 2012 #29
wow zappaman May 2012 #30
I'm quite serious. Neoma May 2012 #31
I know you are and I agree zappaman May 2012 #33
I hate the argument itself though. Neoma May 2012 #38
You're right Neoma. polly7 May 2012 #46
Damn, I'm so lucky. Neoma May 2012 #48
Awww .... I'm sorry you have to take them, but I hope they're working for you. n/t polly7 May 2012 #49
They are. Neoma May 2012 #52
Actually no... there are vey rare cases nadinbrzezinski May 2012 #39
Or you could have your lymph nodes fucked up. Neoma May 2012 #41
Yes, there are very valid medical reasons nadinbrzezinski May 2012 #42
I guess I read what you said too fast. Neoma May 2012 #44
Yeah, I just removed the snark. nadinbrzezinski May 2012 #47
"But I am sure you probably did not know that." zappaman May 2012 #43
I'm used to it. Neoma May 2012 #45
Get over it ...fat girls are cool. L0oniX May 2012 #32
Firefighter. Cop. Nuclear expert. Codeine May 2012 #34
Just finished jury duty on this one. pintobean May 2012 #51
1-5 to LEAVE IT pintobean May 2012 #53
I want to marry juror #6 and have his or her babies. nt Codeine May 2012 #54
Not cool. zappaman May 2012 #36
My first thought when I saw this image was: LetTimmySmoke May 2012 #50
I came close to being obese Canuckistanian May 2012 #55
And when you innevitably plateau nadinbrzezinski May 2012 #56
I DID plateau Canuckistanian May 2012 #57
My wife has been diagnosed sarisataka May 2012 #59
Congrats on finding a program nadinbrzezinski May 2012 #60
The image of the anorexic makes me want to cry varelse May 2012 #62
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