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In reply to the discussion: Update: My Father-in-Law has ended his life [View all]marym625
(17,997 posts)41. What a beautiful, heart wrenching, post
I am so sorry for your loss. This has moved me so very much. So very deeply.
I lost my dad on November 3rd 2013. He suffered with multiple health problems for decades, including Parkinsons. He ended up in a nursing home because we couldn't care for him and couldn't afford nursing care. He suffered. And he suffered. He lost his dignity. He lost his rights. He was in excruciating pain. And he looked at me, three weeks before he died and said, "Why do I have to die this way?" With pain and anguish in his voice.
Yes, please talk to your state representatives. Everyone deserves the dignity and choice your father in law had.
Thank you for sharing such a personal experience with us.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Glad your FIL got to make his decision... A difficult one for everyone involved I suspect..
Fumesucker
Feb 2015
#4
go in peace, fil. Best wishes to all and my condolences. Even if it was how he went, still can be
uppityperson
Feb 2015
#5
Man, BrotherIvan, you worded it so well - "the agonizing death of my mother that still haunts me".
calimary
Feb 2015
#52
Really you cant forsee problems with people not wanting to die being unwilling to drink a cocktail?
Egnever
Feb 2015
#28
I think it would be a real contribution for you to share this experience with a state
Hoyt
Feb 2015
#12
my sympathies to you and your wife as well as the rest of the family, I would urge you to share your
Bluenorthwest
Feb 2015
#14
My condolences. I would think that your FIL would likely want others to have the same option
winter is coming
Feb 2015
#15
Give it a few days. Maybe look around, and see if there's any organization already doing
MADem
Feb 2015
#18
He's dead, so there isn't a privacy concern, unless it's your wife's privacy you mean. Sharing the
Brickbat
Feb 2015
#29
This is new territory for me, still, my thoughts are with you and your family in this time of loss.
herding cats
Feb 2015
#64
Such mixed feelings about this. But dying in inches and on machines would not be m choice, either...
marble falls
Feb 2015
#70
Your FIL had a beautiful death, he called the shots up to the very end... Everyone should be
secondwind
Feb 2015
#76