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(1,819 posts) Sun Jan 18, 2015, 05:17 PM Jan 2015

Some people should never be allowed to be doctors! [View all]

A friend of mine is in the process of losing her mother. She has been in the hospital for two weeks and is getting weaker daily. She is on high volume O2 to breathe, and today her so called doctor told my friend if she would "allow him to turn the O2 down from 12 liters to 5 liters, her mother would die faster".
I know when my mother was dying I would have done anything to stave off her dying as long as possible and if I had not I would drown in guilt for the rest of my life. My friend is already in a bad way, I hesitate to think what she would do if she followed his advice. I told her to tell him to go fuck himself.

I don't know what kind of heartless scumbag he is but I hope sometime he gets a dose of his own medicine with as much humanity as he shows.

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Some people should never be allowed to be doctors! [View all] abakan Jan 2015 OP

Geez onecaliberal Jan 2015 #1

You need to learn a little more about dying. easychoice Jan 2015 #2

that is what I was thinking.....if the ONLY life I had left was languishing in a bed.... VanillaRhapsody Jan 2015 #4

Respiratory distress is such a fun way to go. GeorgeGist Jan 2015 #5

Not if the patient is comatose Nt newfie11 Jan 2015 #34

The Dr. needs to learn a bit more about bedside manner treestar Jan 2015 #24

Thank you abakan Jan 2015 #27

"When I posted this I never thought I would have to defend myself or my friend." SMC22307 Jan 2015 #60

You are still wrong...But by all means keep beating that horse if it makes you feel any better. abakan Jan 2015 #64

I didn't get that impression at all. Mariana Jan 2015 #29

i agree. nt DesertFlower Jan 2015 #56

Is she in pain though? VanillaRhapsody Jan 2015 #3

No she is not in any pain. abakan Jan 2015 #6

How do you know that? VanillaRhapsody Jan 2015 #8

I don't think she is in pain because they have her on pain meds... abakan Jan 2015 #10

there you go....there IS pain..... VanillaRhapsody Jan 2015 #13

You definitely made a judgement on your friend and put pressure on her Divernan Jan 2015 #14

she had already had her conversation with him abakan Jan 2015 #19

I'm sorry, but enlightenment Jan 2015 #15

+1 n/t tammywammy Jan 2015 #18

No I stated abakan Jan 2015 #21

The point remains. enlightenment Jan 2015 #38

Your friend's mother isn't coming back, is she? Does she have any quality of life now? pnwmom Jan 2015 #50

"If all you want to do is ..." dumbcat Jan 2015 #31

The point I was trying to make is.. abakan Jan 2015 #40

so sorry honey elehhhhna Jan 2015 #51

I should add that I posted with all due compassion,respect and sympathy for your friend. easychoice Jan 2015 #7

I don't see anything wrong with what he said. tammywammy Jan 2015 #9

Then we will have to disagree. abakan Jan 2015 #12

You can't take your situation and apply it across the board. tammywammy Jan 2015 #16

I agree with you newfie11 Jan 2015 #37

Would YOU want to artificially draw out your own death like that? Divernan Jan 2015 #11

I have my advanced directive abakan Jan 2015 #17

If that doc IS a jerk, hospice can run interference for your friend. Divernan Jan 2015 #20

I've had the advanced directive in my will for a long time... CTyankee Jan 2015 #22

I have answered that question abakan Jan 2015 #25

Your friend should contact hospice mcar Jan 2015 #23

She is taking her home and hospice is coming to her house. abakan Jan 2015 #26

That's good mcar Jan 2015 #28

She'll also get help with things like bathing her mother Warpy Jan 2015 #35

My MIL was only on for a weekend mcar Jan 2015 #52

Yes, I had to fight to get my own mother on it. Warpy Jan 2015 #58

I have been in these situations, and the one thing they had in common TreasonousBastard Jan 2015 #30

Oh. While I was typing that you mentioned she is going to hospice at home... TreasonousBastard Jan 2015 #32

Yeah, he stepped on his tongue Warpy Jan 2015 #33

I would not presume to make her decisions abakan Jan 2015 #42

Do you know what you call the person who finished last in their medical school class? MohRokTah Jan 2015 #36

You have your opinion and the doctr had a different one. 99Forever Jan 2015 #39

this was never about points of view... abakan Jan 2015 #44

I have to say when My mother was in the hospital and all the senior doctors were talking about how hollysmom Jan 2015 #41

I understand, but the doctor is trying to help your friend's mom. Avalux Jan 2015 #43

A wonderful response to the OP KMOD Jan 2015 #55

That doctor lacks compassion. Ykcutnek Jan 2015 #45

Thank You for getting it. abakan Jan 2015 #46

What is the quality of life for the mother? LisaL Jan 2015 #54

Thank You for asking abakan Jan 2015 #59

Difficult decisions Fluothane Jan 2015 #47

Even if the doctor said exactly the words you quoted, Ms. Toad Jan 2015 #48

Thoughtful post. (n/t) SMC22307 Jan 2015 #61

As long as she is on a lot of pain medication and is comfortable is what should matter Ramses Jan 2015 #49

Sounds like the death is inevitable. LisaL Jan 2015 #53

when my husband was terminal (brain tumor) the DesertFlower Jan 2015 #57

Were you there at the time? Did you hear the doctor actually use those words? magical thyme Jan 2015 #62

I understand how difficult this is for your friend. Heidi Jan 2015 #63

Death is a funny thing AndreaCG Jan 2015 #65