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(71,370 posts)371. all night, every night. without even a phone.
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sure you have 'rights' as a landlord & who you lease to have rights also. Not sure where you live,
Sunlei
Jun 2014
#434
+1 This is one of the most cruel threads I have ever read on DU. Maybe on the internet. The op is
Ed Suspicious
Jun 2014
#464
a ten year old is there, and it's not enough for you? kids must hang out with you why?
bettyellen
Jun 2014
#301
WOW, someone blew their first hidden post on little old me! I have been popular lately- thanks
bettyellen
Jun 2014
#400
They're more likely to just take her kids from her. The kids would probably rather be
pnwmom
Jun 2014
#27
A 10 year old and a 5 year old home alone all night is not safe. Period.
DeadLetterOffice
Jun 2014
#526
you called the cops hoping the kids were alone and figured the cops would what?
uppityperson
Jun 2014
#270
But there is a huge difference between a 5 and a 2 year old, and a 10 and a 5 year old.
pnwmom
Jun 2014
#451
How will the kids "be alone when she is home"? Parents who work night shift need to sleep
uppityperson
Jun 2014
#53
If she ends up with a black mark on the record for this, it might backfire with Section 8.
pnwmom
Jun 2014
#28
Calling the police on a parent for child neglect and you had no fear of it getting to foster care?
uppityperson
Jun 2014
#56
I can't fathom someone not realizing that the kids could be removed .... ?
etherealtruth
Jun 2014
#173
But that was because the roommate was there. You said they were often left all night
pnwmom
Jun 2014
#267
"chicago requires landlord to pay attention to what is going on in their units"
Cal Carpenter
Jun 2014
#500
What is so ridiculous about CHA code? I read the inspection checklist. Seems reasonable.
PeaceNikki
Jun 2014
#103
The self-inspection checklist is based on HUD's Housing Quality Standards form
Gormy Cuss
Jun 2014
#174
so they missed 1 appointment and you missed 2 appointments, but it's all their fault
magical thyme
Jun 2014
#440
You do know preschool is optional, don't you? Again, it can be frustrating but reporting him for not
uppityperson
Jun 2014
#261
"he used to go" yet you also say "he is in a public school program". Which is it?
uppityperson
Jun 2014
#417
I thought you said the 5 yr old isn't in school, that was a complaint of yours.
uppityperson
Jun 2014
#249
You are right, the kids should have a phone. I would have bought them a cheap one
pnwmom
Jun 2014
#410
Criticizing for turning down an "offer" makes it seem less of an "offer" and more of a demand.
uppityperson
Jun 2014
#416
It isn't about hism spending time with you, just about being outside spending time with you?
uppityperson
Jun 2014
#419
I agree. Not sure how this could be arranged but maybe rewrite her lease so that it requires a
MillennialDem
Jun 2014
#10
I'm not a lawyer, but I don't know that that rises to the level of discrimination - but I still
MillennialDem
Jun 2014
#236
you won't evict her, but look down on her for driving her kids to a school that isn't right there,
uppityperson
Jun 2014
#252
"i have tried to hook her up with some help, but she is pretty, well, not working it."
Brickbat
Jun 2014
#12
"I gave her a list of agencies that can help, and I can't believe she hasn't changed her lifestyle"
Brickbat
Jun 2014
#57
yeah, its hella easy to judge poor single mothers, because truly they do not have the resouces
La Lioness Priyanka
Jun 2014
#61
And with all the studies that have come out regarding the effects of stress and swing-shift work on
Brickbat
Jun 2014
#67
so, the poor should not have kids at all-because they won't be catapulted into the middle class?
bettyellen
Jun 2014
#257
Sorry if I misunderstood. I have seen it suggested here, that people who are not rock solid
bettyellen
Jun 2014
#304
No apology necessary -- you're right, a lot of society seems to think that being poor means you're
Brickbat
Jun 2014
#365
The poor do have kids. I think the implication, not made by Brickbat, but by the people who I think
Ed Suspicious
Jun 2014
#455
Well said. And even more importantly, children are often not a choice like a pet who can be pawned
Ed Suspicious
Jun 2014
#454
You are quite the well intentioned busybody already stretched thin, but maybe you could find it in
Ed Suspicious
Jun 2014
#456
So then telling their mother that the kids come first was a lie in order to get the coveted
ScreamingMeemie
Jun 2014
#381
If she loves them and they know it, I'm not sure they'll be better off in the system.
pnwmom
Jun 2014
#26
No we're not supposed to 'believe in the system'. We are supposed to have compassion
sabrina 1
Jun 2014
#235
She has a crappy (literally) job, 2 kids and no man, RENT PLUS UTILITIES, and doesn't want her kid
WinkyDink
Jun 2014
#35
The person has responded to a couple of posts AFTER that question was asked.
NCTraveler
Jun 2014
#40
What a terrible mom, working a job to try and support her children by herself might I add.
dilby
Jun 2014
#60
did you guys have a fallout? because people accept help unless the help came with too many strings
La Lioness Priyanka
Jun 2014
#309
I am not feeling any sort of "affection" past or present from you toward anyone but the
ScreamingMeemie
Jun 2014
#378
go look in the mirror. a long hard look. you clearly have no idea how you're coming off
cali
Jun 2014
#333
I think she did that because she thought you had a heart and because you hold all
arthritisR_US
Jun 2014
#514
"i think she is a bad mom for keeping a kid in a dark, cold apartment when they could be helping..."
uppityperson
Jun 2014
#421
no, i think she is a bad mom for refusing an offer of help that would have been
mopinko
Jun 2014
#493
as a home health aid she may not have a lot of choice about working graveyard
magical thyme
Jun 2014
#47
Small children don't need a lot of hot water--she can heat some up on the stove and add it to a bath
MADem
Jun 2014
#509
I don't see how this helped in the long run.... seems like it'll hurt more than anything
uponit7771
Jun 2014
#50
The OP is the property owner. The OP essentially shut off the utilities by not giving a break on
WinkyDink
Jun 2014
#193
I have to agree with the others that you probably made things worse. How old is the other child?
PeaceNikki
Jun 2014
#69
I definitely would've tried to work it out with her first before calling authorities.
Lex
Jun 2014
#76
The OP is the landlord, not a social worker. The only time any of that was their business
LeftyMom
Jun 2014
#81
As only you have first hand knowledge of the situation, I can't say if you did right or not
Kaleva
Jun 2014
#82
actually, the cops and the system fail the poor terribly. so we have to be careful when we involve
La Lioness Priyanka
Jun 2014
#99
yes, we can. we can say "am i just being judgmental because i dont like that the mother doesn't
La Lioness Priyanka
Jun 2014
#115
abuse or neglect aren't that subjective. if you gather 10 people together, you should get 80%
La Lioness Priyanka
Jun 2014
#125
no, i would rather not stigmatize poverty and pretend that the alternative for these kids is awesome
La Lioness Priyanka
Jun 2014
#157
You're assuming that the police and social services never make the situation worse.
pnwmom
Jun 2014
#285
the op has NOT presented anything close to convincing me that the mother is neglectful
cali
Jun 2014
#101
I agree, in one of her responses in this thread she stated that she had yet to see
arthritisR_US
Jun 2014
#515
If we have a STRONG suspicion, sure. We call the state child welfare agency.
Gormy Cuss
Jun 2014
#104
..."wound, injury,disability, physical or mental condition..."=standard not met here.
Gormy Cuss
Jun 2014
#132
What happened here, obviously happens and is NOT in the best interests of the child.
boston bean
Jun 2014
#151
calling cops and DCFS based on personal grievances, is ALWAYS wrong and not in the childs
boston bean
Jun 2014
#135
So you tried to help this working Mom by calling the cops on her. Why not cut her rent, landlord?
TeamPooka
Jun 2014
#95
Many others have said what I'd like to. So I'll just add that, as a working class single mom,
redqueen
Jun 2014
#111
plus, she is just not a good mom. i try to get her to let the little one hang out with me, and she j
CBGLuthier
Jun 2014
#126
Some parents have an irrational dislike of leaving their kids alone with adults they don't know well
arcane1
Jun 2014
#138
I hope this is fake because this is the most disturbing and shameful thing I've read today
kcr
Jun 2014
#144
I keep coming back to this and thinking, this must be some kind of epic trolling. Because WTF?
Brickbat
Jun 2014
#161
My mother was in this situation with me as a child, 30 years ago. It's not ideal, but I cannot even
AzDar
Jun 2014
#148
"temporary custody"? Therein lies the issue. AND you missed the 5 yr old was NOT alone.
uppityperson
Jun 2014
#184
your problem is you are far too involved and way to close to a situation that you cannot control.
Wash. state Desk Jet
Jun 2014
#185
You are upset that a mom won't send her child to preschool? or borrow your books?
uppityperson
Jun 2014
#244
no, i am telling you. i checked it out before hand, and confirmed it with the cops.
mopinko
Jun 2014
#463
You seem to be contradicting yourself now, either she doesn't allow her son to be around
Rex
Jun 2014
#256
She's trying to keep him away from you because you creep her out. She needs the rent money to move,
LeftyMom
Jun 2014
#295
" i try to get her to let the little one hang out with me, and she just wont let him. "
RetroLounge
Jun 2014
#206
When I volunteered with street kids, many of them were "veterans" of foster care
Lydia Leftcoast
Jun 2014
#228
Yeah! Why are people uncivil to the lady that called the cops on a poor, single mom?
CreekDog
Jun 2014
#331
if you do something douchey and then post on DU, people will call you out on it
La Lioness Priyanka
Jun 2014
#311
The older child is ten?!? That's old enough to watch a sibling. Mind your own business.
LeftyMom
Jun 2014
#288
That's not a legal minimum, it's the age under which DCFS will even take a complaint.
LeftyMom
Jun 2014
#352
You showed in your OP that you're not a good judge of whether the children are alone or not.
pnwmom
Jun 2014
#307
In Florida, it used to be that things had to be really horrible for kids to be removed
steve2470
Jun 2014
#319
What is your goal here? To make the mother unemployed? At least then she will be around her...
Humanist_Activist
Jun 2014
#409
Again, I want to know how you know what goes on in that house when the shades are drawn?
LeftyMom
Jun 2014
#430
you edited the OP and thanks you bolded what was edited and mentioned your 'pocket farm'
Sunlei
Jun 2014
#439
Those poor kids having to live with the fear of being taken away from their mother!
boston bean
Jun 2014
#446
There are many sad consequences of not having a living wage. When I say many
stevenleser
Jun 2014
#485
It is absurd, and disgusting, that in 2014 America, mopinko should be faced with a conundrum
Zorra
Jun 2014
#489
We don't know that he's not. The OP isn't exactly proving to be a reliable source of information.
LeftyMom
Jun 2014
#513
Is this a plan to force this family out so you can move your husband into the unit?
LeftyMom
Jun 2014
#527