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In reply to the discussion: This killer that went on a rampage shooting [View all]AnnieBW
(11,009 posts)They aren't.
Seriously, I had to learn this the hard way when I was in my early 20's. Unfortunately, the nice guys that I was attracted to weren't all that nice when I got to know them. The thing is, I did eventually find a REAL nice guy, and I held on to him. He wasn't "hot" or traditionally attractive, but he treated me like an intelligent human being. But I held on to him for dear life, and he's been a part of my life for almost 30 years, and we've been married for 20.
I may be pushing 50, but I remember my early 20's all too well. Women at that age are attracted to the "bad boys" because they're pushing the limits, rebelling against their parents, acting out, etc. My best friend at the time was one of them. She consistently picked up guys who were "bad boys", and wound up getting pregnant twice and having abortions. Once she got out of college, she settled down with a decent man and has two wonderful kids.
Frankly, Rodgers sounds like a kid who needed an older man to sit down and tell him what to REALLY look for in a woman. She doesn't have to be "hot" or a "10", or even remotely attractive, as long as she's a good person. It all comes down to RESPECT. Respect yourself, respect women, and don't treat them like they're accessories. Or, if you're a woman, respect yourself, respect men, and don't act like they're your sugar daddy.