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In reply to the discussion: This killer that went on a rampage shooting [View all]yurbud
(39,405 posts)Many "nice guys" are not just being "nice" to get in a girls pants. They are decent people who treat everyone decently, and don't understand why it isn't as valued as some negative qualities in the dating arena.
Additionally, it is not just that younger women haven't "developed boundaries," but that they recognize "bad boys" bad behavior and are drawn to it rather than guys doing a Jekyll and Hyde routine.
There are certainly the Jekyll & Hydes out there, but when "nice guys" refer to "bad boys," they mean the ones that anyone should be able to recognize from a block away.
Part of the problem is both genders are looking for certain exaggerated characteristic: men for the super-attractive women, and women for the high status or at least hyper-masculine men.
Some percentage of both genders grow out of it.
But enough don't to keep family court and those unpleasant afternoon talk shows in business.