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In reply to the discussion: Posting T&A threads helps to create a hostile environment for women here. [View all]Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)My ex was a part time model from her mid twenties to about forty and she was almost never harassed by men, in fact a lot of them seemed to be intimidated by her. Her day job for over a decade was managing a Florsheim shoe store, men's shoes only, all male staff except for her and she consistently had the highest personal sales and the most profitable and best run store in the district.
In fact I would never have even initiated a conversation with her if we hadn't been introduced by a mutual friend, she was way out of my league. It wasn't until I met her father that I realized why she liked me in the first place, we were very similar in personality and not that dissimilar in looks (very average).
Average looking men without a lot of money also feel like they are invisible to the opposite sex, it's easy to become cynical.
I have a gay friend (yes I know it's a cliche ) who is not stereotypically gay at all and I've had some discussions about attraction with him and he finds a lot of the same problems as many men have with women. He's into typical redneck guy stuff, hot rods, motorcycles, that sort of thing and he says it makes finding a compatible partner almost impossible, there's just very little he has in common with most of the gay men he meets.