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zeemike

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39. What is this MRA thing, the basis for the next witch hunt?

Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:18 AM

Dec 2013

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I guess I don't brows DU enough, or in the right places, because I don't see it.

Do we now have to be careful with our words least we be called a MRA spreader of memes?
Can't we just give it up for the holidays and let it rest?

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At the risk of annoying a lot of DU females [View all] malaise Dec 2013 OP

Good luck. Puglover Dec 2013 #1

LOL and Thanks malaise Dec 2013 #2

Nor is anyone being asked to live in a sanitized world... Ohio Joe Dec 2013 #3

Well said. Brickbat Dec 2013 #4

+1 redqueen Dec 2013 #12

+1...the "completely sanitized world" comment destroys any good will suggested by the post alcibiades_mystery Dec 2013 #29

very well put. exactly right. BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2013 #36

Did you like attention like that from strange men on the street pnwmom Dec 2013 #49

no, not the creepy kind BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2013 #122

+1. n/t pnwmom Dec 2013 #123

What is this MRA thing, the basis for the next witch hunt? zeemike Dec 2013 #39

It's a form of tourettes. n/t lumberjack_jeff Dec 2013 #128

No, it most certainly is not a form of Tourette's Syndrome. n/t Foolacious Dec 2013 #151

Are you going to be hunting basses next? LWolf Dec 2013 #163

OK if fixed it. zeemike Dec 2013 #169

Persecution complex at best, MRA agenda at worst. NuclearDem Dec 2013 #41

What all this is, is a distraction. The OP is absolutely correct. Most women have no problem with sabrina 1 Dec 2013 #43

I was with the OP right up until the last sentence Ohio Joe Dec 2013 #46

yet another time we agree on something! Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #63

Yes, I don't remember it either. Someone should be taking notes. This is getting serious. sabrina 1 Dec 2013 #73

That simple malaise Dec 2013 #94

Well said. n/t lumberjack_jeff Dec 2013 #129

I think there is a big difference between admiration and sizing you up like a slab of beef. Rex Dec 2013 #5

Sizing up is sexist malaise Dec 2013 #6

Sexual attraction is completely normal and part of our nature. panader0 Dec 2013 #7

Precisely malaise Dec 2013 #9

But it's not normal... seattledo Dec 2013 #21

I'm surprised someone needs to explain to you the difference between being admired and harassment. BainsBane Dec 2013 #8

I know the difference n/t malaise Dec 2013 #10

Then why would it even occur to you to write this OP? BainsBane Dec 2013 #11

Well said. Brickbat Dec 2013 #14

I was just going to remark on the music. mimi85 Dec 2013 #37

Why would anyone need to write an OP about something that most women already know? sabrina 1 Dec 2013 #44

It was not for women. Bonobo Dec 2013 #53

Well everyone knows 'rude' when they see it. Strong women know how to deal with that, in men AND sabrina 1 Dec 2013 #72

To me, THAT is what a strong woman sounds like. Bonobo Dec 2013 #74

Thank you. She sounds wonderful. Certainly not a victim as women are painted here. sabrina 1 Dec 2013 #77

No, she is someone who bends the earth around her. Bonobo Dec 2013 #79

I agree malaise Dec 2013 #96

Thank you, Malaise. Bonobo Dec 2013 #97

Wow. Talk about victim blaming. KitSileya Dec 2013 #82

If you want to create a society where it is unacceptabe for peope to behave so boorishly, then STOP sabrina 1 Dec 2013 #84

Women at 35 have 25 years of this behind them KitSileya Dec 2013 #91

Well, that's the poing, as you say, 'most women know the risks'. That's exaclty my point. And no, sabrina 1 Dec 2013 #131

I said fun with *it* KitSileya Dec 2013 #132

+100. nt raccoon Dec 2013 #111

Very well said. HappyMe Dec 2013 #112

I don't think those who keep bringing this up are trying to paint women as victims Major Nikon Dec 2013 #113

Thank you, that is exactly the problem with all of this, 'trying to paint all men as predators' sabrina 1 Dec 2013 #130

and do you think others do not or something? trying to understand your point here. bettyellen Dec 2013 #42

Since the OP apparently doesn't know the difference (as you've suggested) hughee99 Dec 2013 #15

Each person can determine their comfort level on their own Harmony Blue Dec 2013 #23

Ding ding we have a winner malaise Dec 2013 #24

Thank you! Harmony Blue Dec 2013 #28

Exactly ... n/t sabrina 1 Dec 2013 #45

Spot on. a la izquierda Dec 2013 #118

I don't know the answer to your question malaise Dec 2013 #101

Of course a harmless comment is harmless. The issue iswhen does that comment become uppityperson Dec 2013 #134

Do you often comment on other people's appearance? Brickbat Dec 2013 #13

No but I know folks who do malaise Dec 2013 #16

Not in actuality nolabels Dec 2013 #164

Partly it is culture as you said nadinbrzezinski Dec 2013 #17

Happy Holidays sis malaise Dec 2013 #18

I don't mind when told I have beautiful eyes (that is simply complimentary) etherealtruth Dec 2013 #19

I've seen several posters say that they find a compliment on something they have no control over hughee99 Dec 2013 #20

Thanks! Polite people rock! grahamhgreen Dec 2013 #22

I have to wish you Merry Merriment! n/t hootinholler Dec 2013 #25

Back at you hootinholler malaise Dec 2013 #30

Pfft. Good luck getting through to that crowd. Jester Messiah Dec 2013 #26

I love DU - it's not a joke to me malaise Dec 2013 #107

And to you as well. [nt] Jester Messiah Dec 2013 #109

There is power in beauty, and from my observations, it Eleanors38 Dec 2013 #27

Same to you Eleanors38 malaise Dec 2013 #31

This message was self-deleted by its author delrem Dec 2013 #32

Happy Holidays delrem malaise Dec 2013 #95

Some will definitely pipi_k Dec 2013 #33

In my culture if no one paid you a compliment malaise Dec 2013 #102

A good point, actually... pipi_k Dec 2013 #120

You don't have that problem in Jamaica malaise Dec 2013 #137

+1 LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #34

I never trash threads malaise Dec 2013 #103

It somewhat makes Jamaal510 Dec 2013 #35

It's okay to look... liberalmuse Dec 2013 #38

I agree malaise Dec 2013 #105

this was about a PSA in india. it is a little more than what you are suggesting. i am glad you have seabeyond Dec 2013 #40

It bugged me. It bugged me that strangers felt welcome Luminous Animal Dec 2013 #47

Wow, you sound friendly! nt Logical Dec 2013 #48

I am. You know.. I watch my 23 year old daughter go through what I went through... Luminous Animal Dec 2013 #50

Ok, I will stop saying hello to anyone! FFS, there are a lot of damn rules! nt Logical Dec 2013 #51

Do you say hello to all the middle aged women you pass? Matariki Dec 2013 #54

I say hello to almost everyone, but fuck, they could be thinking and I..... Logical Dec 2013 #55

Okay, that's great. How do you react if someone ignores your hello? Matariki Dec 2013 #65

Like a normal human! Ignore it! Nt Logical Dec 2013 #66

Well there you go. You're civilized. Matariki Dec 2013 #69

What's worse... Inkfreak Dec 2013 #116

Good idea! nt Logical Dec 2013 #119

It is common courtesy. If you make eye contact with a man or a woman that you don't know, Luminous Animal Dec 2013 #58

No, I will continue to say hello like I have for 40 years.... Logical Dec 2013 #62

I think I would be gawking at your daughter, too .. BellaKos Dec 2013 #59

maybe if she were smart, she'd put ear buds in her ears. Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #60

another suggestion to stay inside, LOL. WOW. bettyellen Dec 2013 #78

one option out of about 4 or 5. your selective hearing Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #86

no, presenting staying inside as a good "option" is fucking ridiculous. bettyellen Dec 2013 #87

for concentrating on her songwriting? uh, no it's not. Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #88

for any reason. she wants out, she should be able to go out bettyellen Dec 2013 #89

ok. you win. Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #90

how dare she not converse with every young man who wants her attention instead of doing what SHE bettyellen Dec 2013 #92

My daughter is 6'2' and model beautiful. She is harassed constantly and she hates Luminous Animal Dec 2013 #83

and here people will tell you she is a stuck up princess for not stopping to talk to all the dudes.. bettyellen Dec 2013 #93

They say "hello"to her and interrupt her thoughts? Vashta Nerada Dec 2013 #61

I would say inconsiderate. Not creepy. And I do believe that people, both men and women, Luminous Animal Dec 2013 #68

Yeah, god forbid people from being nice and exchanging pleasantries. Vashta Nerada Dec 2013 #70

Very bizarre response. I walk into a store expecting a hello. Luminous Animal Dec 2013 #76

So we have to quit saying hello to strangers on the street? FrodosPet Dec 2013 #141

Are you serious? Matariki Dec 2013 #52

LOL, someone saying hello is now a sexual advance? This place is now insane! Nt Logical Dec 2013 #57

I wish you would try a little bit to understand Matariki Dec 2013 #67

And it they say 'hello' to you and you don't say 'hello' back... you are unfriendly. Luminous Animal Dec 2013 #71

Being called 'unfriendly' would be the least of it Matariki Dec 2013 #75

XO, I so understand. Similar has happened to me and my daughter... Luminous Animal Dec 2013 #80

OMG yes, I have been there, and it sucks. I am very friendly with people who have reasons or bettyellen Dec 2013 #81

I am definitely unfriendly alarimer Dec 2013 #150

ROFL malaise Dec 2013 #99

The problem isn't saying the hello gollygee Dec 2013 #117

My private musings are never on the streets malaise Dec 2013 #98

This...I can't remember pipi_k Dec 2013 #121

Male colleague:"Sue, that's a nice blouse you're wearing." Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #56

As a rule, men should avoid commenting on the clothes their women colleagues are wearing. geek tragedy Dec 2013 #85

Never been a problem in my interactions with healthy humans:) grahamhgreen Dec 2013 #145

I've seen men do it twice at the office geek tragedy Dec 2013 #153

Sue: "Stop staring at my breasts" is the subtext there. Gormy Cuss Dec 2013 #127

Try this..."Hi Sue, how are you today?" uppityperson Dec 2013 #135

I agee with you, Malaise. BellaKos Dec 2013 #64

LOL malaise Dec 2013 #100

you obviously are comparing apples to oranges boston bean Dec 2013 #104

It's intentional. redqueen Dec 2013 #125

there are apples and then there are rotten apples. Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2013 #143

You're the bravest person I know. Happy holidays malaise!!! Scuba Dec 2013 #106

There are lots of brave persons here at DU malaise Dec 2013 #108

Rasta man video! B Calm Dec 2013 #110

Malaise, allow me to send Holiday Greetings to my proud sisters in arms, who have CTyankee Dec 2013 #114

Great post sis malaise Dec 2013 #136

LOL...You are brave! onpatrol98 Dec 2013 #115

Very nice post malaise Dec 2013 #138

Nobody is complaining about men saying good morning or that a woman looks nice. redqueen Dec 2013 #124

crickets Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2013 #142

Yeah, I'm shocked. Shocked, I tell you. redqueen Dec 2013 #160

and honestly -- Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2013 #161

Rasta's have always been the most respectful to me.. HipChick Dec 2013 #126

I agree re Rastas in general malaise Dec 2013 #139

The way you just explained it, I actually agree. Jamastiene Dec 2013 #133

To each her own - fine as long as I can have a malaise Dec 2013 #140

Happy worker's rest day, Comrade! Kurovski Dec 2013 #144

LOl with my gray hair to match malaise Dec 2013 #146

Good, Good. Clairol is a decadent western conceit. Kurovski Dec 2013 #152

Is dying one's hair less conceited if done in India or Japan? redqueen Dec 2013 #159

Narrow, nonsensical and irrelevant. Kurovski Dec 2013 #170

Bwaaaaaaaaaaaah hahahahha malaise Dec 2013 #162

Nuts, whoes, criminals, gypsies, vagabonds, pervs sorry yes, they are part of life, and studies in lonestarnot Dec 2013 #147

Ha malaise Dec 2013 #148

To you as well Malaise. lonestarnot Dec 2013 #149

I agree, Malaise. Blue_In_AK Dec 2013 #154

Happy Holidays Blue_in_AK malaise Dec 2013 #157

Happy holidays to you, too, my friend. Blue_In_AK Dec 2013 #158

there was a local story hfojvt Dec 2013 #155

LOL at thinking I was a dude malaise Dec 2013 #156

I think your is probably the majority opinion. NaturalHigh Dec 2013 #165

Of course most women like being treated like a human being... who wouldn't? boston bean Dec 2013 #166

I don't know what discussion you're referring to. NaturalHigh Dec 2013 #167

If you don't disagree with what I wrote, then we are on the same page. boston bean Dec 2013 #168

Happy Holidays NaturalHigh malaise Dec 2013 #171

Thanks Malaise. NaturalHigh Dec 2013 #172