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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]Bonobo
(29,257 posts)Now let me try that back at you.
In a man's rape fantasy, it also is not rape because he has created imaginary characters that will not be hurt or scared or damaged in any way. It is in his mind.
He MAY even imagine that the woman wants it. WHY? Because it is not rape.
This should be pretty simple. Do you get it?
There is no victim. Man gets what he wants with no one getting hurt. That is what makes it imaginary, what makes it a fantasy.
It is what separates it from rape.
It is why there is no connection other than that watching simulated rape would be appealing to real rapists, but it DOES NOT MEAN the opposite.
In exactly the same way that fantasizing about a man overpowering you does not mean that you want it to actually happen.
I don't see how you can't get that.