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In reply to the discussion: Why the "My bad sex wasn't rape" editorial is so utterly, utterly vile. [View all]KitSileya
(4,035 posts)and say it is only not rape when each partner enthusiastically consents to sex. No consent given under duress, or by badgering is valid consent. If a woman says yes to sex in order to stop her partner from nagging her about sex, that's not valid consent. If a man says yes to sex because he knows that otherwise he will be treated to obnoxious behavior (for obnoxious behavior, read anything from days' long silent treatment to physical violence) it is not valid consent.
Valid consent can only be given by someone consenting of their own free will, without fear of repercussion, because they want to have sex.
In addition, I just want to say thank you, LiberalLoner, for sharing your story, and speaking out. It is bravely done of you, and I for one appreciate it. I know how difficult it is to share our stories, and so seeing others being courageous and matter-of-factly telling their stories fills me with awe.