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In reply to the discussion: Why the "My bad sex wasn't rape" editorial is so utterly, utterly vile. [View all]LiberalLoner
(9,762 posts)The most jaw-dropping statement from a law officer. He said "let's be honest, all men have fantasies of illegal sexual activity, but most of us don't cross the line from fantasy into action."
It struck me...if all, or even just most, men have fantasies about illegal sex (rape and child molestation) and we tell our stories about how we have been harmed by those activities, then we really are making them uncomfortable, aren't we? If they know or believe all men fantasize about, say, child rape, doesn't it truly seem like we ARE bashing all men when we say those activities are wrong and harmful and shameful?
Maybe they are thinking all men are born naturally wanting to rape women and molest children, and if we say they shouldn't do that, we are denying their sexuality, basically.
Maybe our stories cause a decline in the effectiveness of their masturbatory fantasies.
If that is true, NO WONDER they want us to shut up and go away and see this as an attack on all men!
Maybe human sexuality is a much darker and uglier thing than we might wish for it to be...
What I wish I couple say to anyone with illegal sex fantasies...whatever gets you off is fine. Just don't cross the line into actual rape or molestation because that stuff is SO NOT COOL. And I'm sure you know that. And don't support the kiddy porn industry either because that is just a photo of a crime, of a child being harmed for life.