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In reply to the discussion: i hold doors open for everyone [View all]pipi_k
(21,020 posts)I enjoy it when a man, for whatever reason, holds a door for me, or otherwise treats me a little differently than he would treat his male buddies.
Men: I'm not your buddy. I don't enjoy hearing you fart. I don't want to be called "asshole", "dickhead", or whatever favorite names you and your buddies have for each other. You want to play stupid practical jokes on each other? Great. Don't do it to me.
Women who think we shouldn't be treated any differently from men for whatever reason just because we're women: Am I perpetuating "benevolent sexism" by asking to be treated differently? Who cares.
Because here's the thing...unless you're all happy with being treated just like "one of the guys", then you're guilty of cherry-picking through this issue. "Oh, I want to be treated equally here...but not there". Sorry...that just doesn't fly.
And...for anyone who thinks my attitude perpetuates "benevolent sexism", I have a question...if you suspect a man is being a "benevolent sexist", do you immediately call him out on it? Immediately and very vocally?
Because if you don't, you are, IMO, enabling the behavior you profess to dislike so much.