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arely staircase

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Sat Mar 16, 2013, 07:13 PM Mar 2013

i hold doors open for everyone [View all]

since this is now the benevolent sexism underground, i thought i'd get on the record. now the rest of you can too.

My door opening policy can best be described as (and the poll is based on the assumption that we are talking about men opening doors for women, it would have taken too many questions to get women's policy regarding opening doors for others, though it would be interesting, so feel free to comment):


34 votes, 1 pass | Time left: Unlimited
(Men) I hold the door open for everyone coming from a relatively close distance
24 (71%)
(Men) I hold the door open for only women coming from a relatively close distance
0 (0%)
(Men) I hold the door open for everyone coming from any distance
0 (0%)
(Men) I open the door only for women coming at any distance
0 (0%)
(Men) I hold the door open for everyone (repeat, but can\\\'t delete since someone voted)
0 (0%)
(Men) I hold the door open for nobody
1 (3%)
(Women) I find men opening the door for me to be a simple courtesy
9 (26%)
(Women) I find it to be sexist when a man opens the door for me, even if benevolently so
0 (0%)
It is much more complicated than that, I will explain in the comment section (added at 7:05 CST)
0 (0%)
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i hold doors open for everyone [View all] arely staircase Mar 2013 OP
I'm still waiting for Lindsey Graham to come out of one. TheCowsCameHome Mar 2013 #1
If I get to a door before someone else coming behind me, Blue_In_AK Mar 2013 #2
+1 Mass Mar 2013 #3
that is my policy precisely arely staircase Mar 2013 #4
The issue is benevolent sexism, and how it ties into rape culture. Not doors and who opens them. redqueen Mar 2013 #9
Right marions ghost Mar 2013 #22
one way to get people to take rape more seriously is to not pretend that everything is about rape. Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #34
the poll is not about rape but rather arely staircase Mar 2013 #44
I know. Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #56
i know you know arely staircase Mar 2013 #60
I know that you know. Did you know I knew?? Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #77
Or to quote Zen Master Rumsfeld, there are known knowns and unknown knowns Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #96
Is that Known? Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #98
No Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #99
The issue is what the OP stated it is pintobean Mar 2013 #51
I missed all those discussions so I was just responding to the poll. Blue_In_AK Mar 2013 #59
The issue is really about Summer Hathaway Mar 2013 #76
except it was in this study about boobs, a thread for men to play in. this OP brought up benevolent seabeyond Mar 2013 #81
what in god's name are you talking about? arely staircase Mar 2013 #89
I don't think you really need anyone, for you to make feminist issues look silly Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #78
Same here. I consider it common courtesy. nt jazzimov Mar 2013 #10
+1 I always thought everyone does just this karynnj Mar 2013 #65
AND as a woman I open doors for others n/t NMDemDist2 Mar 2013 #5
I have mobility problems. greatauntoftriplets Mar 2013 #6
I have some minor mobility issues SouthernLiberal Mar 2013 #21
for you, i always will arely staircase Mar 2013 #70
the options for women in your poll are rather limited fishwax Mar 2013 #7
i cover that (i thought) arely staircase Mar 2013 #20
More options for men than women marions ghost Mar 2013 #23
yes i was well aware of it and anticipated it would be noticed arely staircase Mar 2013 #37
You'll get the answers you want marions ghost Mar 2013 #38
I see your point, though it still puts the focus on an individual act fishwax Mar 2013 #28
please see recently added choice 9 em arely staircase Mar 2013 #40
you thought wrong, LOL. bettyellen Mar 2013 #31
I am a woman who holds doors open for women and men. I think it's just a njce gesture! Walk away Mar 2013 #8
Agreed 100% Myrina Mar 2013 #35
Me too TexasBushwhacker Mar 2013 #48
This whole door opening on DU lately comes across as nothing more than the discussions of old when RC Mar 2013 #11
I hold the door open for everyone coming from a relatively close distance Duer 157099 Mar 2013 #12
i think that is what most people do arely staircase Mar 2013 #15
Agree. Duer 157099 Mar 2013 #19
me too, and i am a man arely staircase Mar 2013 #25
I'll hold the door for either if they're close by. Common Sense Party Mar 2013 #13
the ways off door hold arely staircase Mar 2013 #17
I do the "sprint ahead" door hold for people with... Walk away Mar 2013 #43
the sprint ahead! arely staircase Mar 2013 #47
Especially since I don't sprint like I used to!...nt Walk away Mar 2013 #80
That means you are only sexist half the time madville Mar 2013 #14
Oy what ever happened to manners ? olddots Mar 2013 #16
For women, any distance. For men, if they're right behind me LittleBlue Mar 2013 #18
yes the heavy load! arely staircase Mar 2013 #30
I might add, I open the door for everybody as well nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #24
If someone is right behind me I'll hold the door long enough for them to hold it lunatica Mar 2013 #26
I always hold the door, but do it differently for some people. ZOB Mar 2013 #27
I think the "hand off" you use solves the male /male door hold problem! nt Walk away Mar 2013 #46
I know that I feel a little weird when a guy holds the door for me and lets me walk through first. ZOB Mar 2013 #49
You forgot a couple - Woman - I hold the door open for everyone Iris Mar 2013 #29
I do it for anyone at a close distance. NYC Liberal Mar 2013 #32
I think the close distance is critical eom arely staircase Mar 2013 #39
Me too. NYC Liberal Mar 2013 #41
Women, the elderly, and wheel chair bound, and people with other infirmities. Agnosticsherbet Mar 2013 #33
(Woman) If it's in my space to open the door, I open it for any or all to go through... Tikki Mar 2013 #36
... Apophis Mar 2013 #42
I voted "(Men) I hold the door open for everyone coming from a relatively close distance," but ZombieHorde Mar 2013 #45
So after all the accusations nobody has the courage to own #8? whatchamacallit Mar 2013 #50
nope arely staircase Mar 2013 #86
I just do it as common courtesy gopiscrap Mar 2013 #52
Much more complicated... cherokeeprogressive Mar 2013 #53
Lol! whatchamacallit Mar 2013 #54
that must take a flow-chart arely staircase Mar 2013 #55
Did anybody bother to tip you? pa28 Mar 2013 #67
I am a woman and I open doors for others, no matter their gender appleannie1 Mar 2013 #57
Wha? abelenkpe Mar 2013 #58
A DUer earlier gave opening doors for women as an example of sexism n/t LittleBlue Mar 2013 #61
aaddressed "women opening the door for men" scenario in the OP arely staircase Mar 2013 #62
It is simple courtesy Warpy Mar 2013 #63
+1 eom arely staircase Mar 2013 #73
Why no option for women to hold doors open? karynnj Mar 2013 #64
Fuck this poll! Quantess Mar 2013 #66
LOL Cali_Democrat Mar 2013 #75
As opposed to a pull poll pintobean Mar 2013 #82
awesome vid clip. eom arely staircase Mar 2013 #85
Wow. You folks are really enjoying this strawman gollygee Mar 2013 #68
person arely staircase Mar 2013 #90
The term comes from scarecrows gollygee Mar 2013 #91
that's it arely staircase Mar 2013 #92
I am impressed gollygee Mar 2013 #94
made fun of me and then arely staircase Mar 2013 #95
This message was self-deleted by its author gollygee Mar 2013 #93
For everyone-but this takes me to the way-back machine TexasProgresive Mar 2013 #69
Other. LWolf Mar 2013 #71
Why did you have so many options for men compared to women? s-cubed Mar 2013 #72
i addressed that in thop arely staircase Mar 2013 #100
okay I voted that I find men opening the door a simple courtesy but I have to ask liberal_at_heart Mar 2013 #74
Why in the hell didn't you include the option for women to hold the door open for everyone? MotherPetrie Mar 2013 #79
Because holding doors open is so tortuously chivalrous it wouldn't even OCCUR to a woman! PassingFair Mar 2013 #83
i actually apologized to an older man the other day who chivalrously went to hold the door for me. seabeyond Mar 2013 #84
jeebus indeed arely staircase Mar 2013 #88
explained in the OP eom arely staircase Mar 2013 #87
Some thoughts... pipi_k Mar 2013 #97
Since I am 'mobility impaired', I find someone, man or woman, holding a door open for me PDJane Mar 2013 #101
I am a woman who believes in holding the door open for others. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #102
I've been known to want a door to hit someone in the ass on the way out. Spitfire of ATJ Mar 2013 #103
If I see a women coming, I push the door open as far as I can as I'm going through it Evoman Mar 2013 #104
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