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Showing Original Post only (View all)i hold doors open for everyone [View all]
since this is now the benevolent sexism underground, i thought i'd get on the record. now the rest of you can too.
My door opening policy can best be described as (and the poll is based on the assumption that we are talking about men opening doors for women, it would have taken too many questions to get women's policy regarding opening doors for others, though it would be interesting, so feel free to comment):
34 votes, 1 pass | Time left: Unlimited | |
(Men) I hold the door open for everyone coming from a relatively close distance | |
24 (71%) |
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(Men) I hold the door open for only women coming from a relatively close distance | |
0 (0%) |
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(Men) I hold the door open for everyone coming from any distance | |
0 (0%) |
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(Men) I open the door only for women coming at any distance | |
0 (0%) |
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(Men) I hold the door open for everyone (repeat, but can\\\'t delete since someone voted) | |
0 (0%) |
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(Men) I hold the door open for nobody | |
1 (3%) |
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(Women) I find men opening the door for me to be a simple courtesy | |
9 (26%) |
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(Women) I find it to be sexist when a man opens the door for me, even if benevolently so | |
0 (0%) |
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It is much more complicated than that, I will explain in the comment section (added at 7:05 CST) | |
0 (0%) |
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The issue is benevolent sexism, and how it ties into rape culture. Not doors and who opens them.
redqueen
Mar 2013
#9
one way to get people to take rape more seriously is to not pretend that everything is about rape.
Warren DeMontague
Mar 2013
#34
Or to quote Zen Master Rumsfeld, there are known knowns and unknown knowns
Warren DeMontague
Mar 2013
#96
except it was in this study about boobs, a thread for men to play in. this OP brought up benevolent
seabeyond
Mar 2013
#81
I don't think you really need anyone, for you to make feminist issues look silly
Katashi_itto
Mar 2013
#78
I am a woman who holds doors open for women and men. I think it's just a njce gesture!
Walk away
Mar 2013
#8
This whole door opening on DU lately comes across as nothing more than the discussions of old when
RC
Mar 2013
#11
If someone is right behind me I'll hold the door long enough for them to hold it
lunatica
Mar 2013
#26
I know that I feel a little weird when a guy holds the door for me and lets me walk through first.
ZOB
Mar 2013
#49
Women, the elderly, and wheel chair bound, and people with other infirmities.
Agnosticsherbet
Mar 2013
#33
(Woman) If it's in my space to open the door, I open it for any or all to go through...
Tikki
Mar 2013
#36
I voted "(Men) I hold the door open for everyone coming from a relatively close distance," but
ZombieHorde
Mar 2013
#45
okay I voted that I find men opening the door a simple courtesy but I have to ask
liberal_at_heart
Mar 2013
#74
Why in the hell didn't you include the option for women to hold the door open for everyone?
MotherPetrie
Mar 2013
#79
Because holding doors open is so tortuously chivalrous it wouldn't even OCCUR to a woman!
PassingFair
Mar 2013
#83
i actually apologized to an older man the other day who chivalrously went to hold the door for me.
seabeyond
Mar 2013
#84
Since I am 'mobility impaired', I find someone, man or woman, holding a door open for me
PDJane
Mar 2013
#101
I've been known to want a door to hit someone in the ass on the way out.
Spitfire of ATJ
Mar 2013
#103