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In reply to the discussion: Is there a lawyer in the house? QDRO [View all]southernyankeebelle
(11,304 posts)9. I have a friend whose husband was about 17 yrs older than his wife. She was a good
wife and gave him 4 sons. He did nothing around the house. She did everything plus work full time. When he retired he had it done where he didn't take anything out on retirement for his wife. I was shocked by that because they were married well over 30 yrs. It upsets me because he just didn't think enough of his wife to make sure she would be ok. I don't get men like him. In his younger years he was abusive towards her. Then I had another friend and when her husband retired from the army she didn't want him to set her up with the retirement in case he died. Her point was if she died she didn't want anyone getting her benefits. I told her she was nuts. The world can be crazy.
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I never heard of this. Is it for a divorce settlement? Just wondering.
southernyankeebelle
Feb 2013
#3
I have a friend whose husband was about 17 yrs older than his wife. She was a good
southernyankeebelle
Feb 2013
#9
He has been dead about 5 yrs now. She is retired herself now and is as happy as a
southernyankeebelle
Feb 2013
#55
Warning. I know too late. But accepting what the spouse says in a divorce? Sorry
LiberalFighter
Feb 2013
#39
I have seen this kind of thing in divorces where defined benefit pensions are being split
ProgressiveProfessor
Feb 2013
#15
Think of it this way: How much would both of you together get if you were still married,
Xipe Totec
Feb 2013
#53