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In reply to the discussion: Cynthia Nixon (Sex & the City) says being gay is a choice [View all]yardwork
(61,703 posts)It won't help us win more rights. That's been proven by the utter fail of "just don't call it marriage" as a strategy for obtaining equal rights. The bigots aren't protecting the word marriage. They're enshrining marriage between a man and a woman as the only relationship that is protected and privileged. The idea that we could win equal rights if we let them have the word marriage was a complete take-in, as many of us recognized.
It's the same with the "choice" issue. We can retreat and retreat, letting the bigots and haters have the privilege of defining terms and deciding how we will identify, but that accommodation won't win us rights. It will simply empower the haters.
I choose to define myself in my own terms. The haters don't get to decide that for me.