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80. Exactly! And enlisting bystanders

Reply to distantearlywarning (Reply #78)

Tue Jan 29, 2013, 11:43 PM

Jan 2013

We all know that guy. Nobody likes that guy. Men can speak out about rape. Don't be that guy, and don't let that guy be that guy.

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'Don't Be That Guy' ad campaign cuts Vancouver sex assaults by 10 per cent in 2011 [View all] Recursion Jan 2013 OP

Good idea & obviously effective marions ghost Jan 2013 #1

Bill O'Reilly would say she was asking for it NewJeffCT Jan 2013 #2

Limbaugh would be saying it over and over. sakabatou Jan 2013 #13

Yup. Only that he'd throw in the word "slut" for good measure JackBoik Jan 2013 #85

Sadly, so would some right here on DU etherealtruth Jan 2013 #59

Kick! Heidi Jan 2013 #3

Putting the burden where it belongs. AtheistCrusader Jan 2013 #4

I like that a lot better than that snarky 10-point poster that keeps popping up here. Nye Bevan Jan 2013 #5

it's certainly mild enough to offend men less, shying away from using the word rape bettyellen Jan 2013 #10

... BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2013 #71

I love that poster tavalon Jan 2013 #91

so snark offends you more than the whole meaning of that poster? Whisp Jan 2013 #11

No, snark does not offend me in the least. Nye Bevan Jan 2013 #14

I suppose if we saw results of both posters LanternWaste Jan 2013 #108

It's not snarky, it's brutally honest tavalon Jan 2013 #92

Where they place the posters may be as important as what they say. JDPriestly Jan 2013 #6

It does a lot knightmaar Jan 2013 #9

Great explanation! BlueMTexpat Jan 2013 #99

+ Infinity! Odin2005 Jan 2013 #7

Rec. progressoid Jan 2013 #8

Nicely done derby378 Jan 2013 #12

+1 nt Nye Bevan Jan 2013 #15

"That guy"? Too vague fishiefish Jan 2013 #16

No, not really. Just that guy. Recursion Jan 2013 #17

Who the hell is "that guy"? fishiefish Jan 2013 #19

"that guy" that would rape "that woman". nt seabeyond Jan 2013 #30

In this case, mythology Jan 2013 #49

probably you Skittles Jan 2013 #87

It's vernacular jollyreaper2112 Jan 2013 #104

How does specifying "that guy" indict all men? gollygee Jan 2013 #18

Nope. "Don't be that guy" is actually extremely specific. (nt) Nye Bevan Jan 2013 #20

define "that guy" fishiefish Jan 2013 #21

That guy who would see that girl and rape her gollygee Jan 2013 #22

Then they should say "Don't be a rapist" fishiefish Jan 2013 #23

Their marketers decided to take a different route gollygee Jan 2013 #24

"Don't be that guy" is a phrase in standard usage. "Don't be a rapist" is not. Recursion Jan 2013 #25

Thank you for proving my point fishiefish Jan 2013 #26

Well, no. In "PCU" it specifically meant Recursion Jan 2013 #28

Oh urbandictionary fishiefish Jan 2013 #35

Oh well by all means if one man is offended gollygee Jan 2013 #37

Here Recursion Jan 2013 #40

Not to me, it doesn't. "Don't be that guy" has a very specific meaning. yardwork Jan 2013 #29

Do me a favor and specifically tell me what flickr means here in their TOS fishiefish Jan 2013 #39

It means that they don't want anybody to "harass, abuse, impersonate, or intimidate others." yardwork Jan 2013 #44

define creepy fishiefish Jan 2013 #45

You know what? You're being that guy. yardwork Jan 2013 #46

So now you are calling me a rapist... fishiefish Jan 2013 #47

I'm pretty sure that they were using this definition of the phrase that guy mythology Jan 2013 #52

yes, which is extremely vague fishiefish Jan 2013 #53

+1 XemaSab Jan 2013 #106

Nothing is creepier than the guy... Recursion Jan 2013 #58

You tavalon Jan 2013 #94

A little trouble with Predicates and Objects of the Adjectives? LanternWaste Jan 2013 #109

Yep...I've heard "Don't be that guy" used for many years now deutsey Jan 2013 #97

lots of men get pissed with that one also, saying it is saying ALL men are rapists seabeyond Jan 2013 #32

I think that the 'Don't Be That Guy' ad campaign seems to be working Autumn Jan 2013 #36

Now YOU'RE being "that guy" bettyellen Jan 2013 #41

Thanks for proving my point. fishiefish Jan 2013 #42

You don't have a point, you're just playing stupid. bettyellen Jan 2013 #43

+1 yardwork Jan 2013 #50

Has anyone ever pretended to know what "that" means before? bettyellen Jan 2013 #57

"that" fishy one is. Sissyk Jan 2013 #62

Aaaaaaand he's gone. 23 posts. yardwork Jan 2013 #73

Amen Aerows Jan 2013 #65

proably you Skittles Jan 2013 #88

Really that guy = a rapist plain and simple Arcanetrance Jan 2013 #27

I disagree fishiefish Jan 2013 #31

calif guy means everyone male or female. so are they accusing everyone of being rapists? nt seabeyond Jan 2013 #33

Minnesota, too. Odin2005 Jan 2013 #101

yup... nt seabeyond Jan 2013 #103

Using your logic of societal conventions the ad is still appropriate Arcanetrance Jan 2013 #34

No. You're just making shit up, not fooling anyone. bettyellen Jan 2013 #63

Or a troll tavalon Jan 2013 #95

and i doubt it would offend anyone. although this being DU..... Kalidurga Jan 2013 #38

Incorrect. "That" guy = a certain type of guy/a member of a particular subset of guys. redqueen Jan 2013 #48

That guy is slang for a male outsider fishiefish Jan 2013 #51

What you just posted contains nothing remotely resembling logic. redqueen Jan 2013 #54

Are you a troll? Ellipsis Jan 2013 #55

Post removed Post removed Jan 2013 #60

fish away, fishiefish nt Incitatus Jan 2013 #61

Well look at that. An entire 15 posts on this OP before thucythucy Jan 2013 #76

I was happy for several posts... Recursion Jan 2013 #81

He's "That Guy". Odin2005 Jan 2013 #102

My thought precisely. thucythucy Jan 2013 #105

Nope, only that guy who takes a drunk woman as bait. tavalon Jan 2013 #93

Excellent, and it's one of many reasons I am proud to be a Canadian citizen. nt Nay Jan 2013 #56

Worthwhile Aerows Jan 2013 #64

Thankfully, the fishie has been caught. JBoy Jan 2013 #66

good to know justabob Jan 2013 #67

I sure would like to know how one reports BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2013 #72

Two ways to do that. yardwork Jan 2013 #74

And I checked the TOS and asked they look at the thread not just the post.... bettyellen Jan 2013 #75

The list of folks serving on MIRt is linked below. Just PM one of them. yardwork Jan 2013 #79

i know Skinner hates the obvious ones, so I went that route. Tks for the link. Bookmarked! bettyellen Jan 2013 #84

thanks yardwork BlancheSplanchnik Feb 2013 #110

You can read the PPR message if you click on him. Recursion Jan 2013 #82

I think they leave them as an example to all trolls tavalon Jan 2013 #96

Wow, an anti-rape campaign that doesn't put the onus on the victims; I'm impressed Posteritatis Jan 2013 #68

Me too. I loved this. Recursion Jan 2013 #69

Definitely. And it's actually connected to some real results, to boot. (nt) Posteritatis Jan 2013 #70

An effective message effectively placed. thucythucy Jan 2013 #77

Love it. distantearlywarning Jan 2013 #78

Exactly! And enlisting bystanders Recursion Jan 2013 #80

i think it's good to put out there, so there are expectations of baseline decency... i hate to bettyellen Jan 2013 #86

Excellent ad. Demo_Chris Jan 2013 #83

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They should try this around college campuses, too. tclambert Jan 2013 #90

That's impressive mythology Jan 2013 #98

So, looks like Evolutionary Psychology is wrong. Odin2005 Jan 2013 #100

i love you... lol. if that isnt a duh, huh? nt seabeyond Jan 2013 #107