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In reply to the discussion: I was kicked out my aunts house today.. [View all]Nay
(12,051 posts)used to be a social worker who visited the elderly. As some of them aged, they became paranoid, controlling (almost always the man becoming controlling of the woman), and very irrational. This is TEXTBOOK abusive behavior.
One man believed that the people who were parking at the large business across the street from his home were parking there just to purposely reflect the sun's rays from their windshields into his home.
Another man railed on and on every visit about how an aerial photo that had been taken of his farm had been doctored to make the roof look 'ugly.' I was also a trained photographer and was unable, by any logic, to convince him that the roof was a correct depiction of his actual roof. It gave me great insight into the degeneration of faculties that can come with age, and I have great pity for anyone who has to deal with this in their family -- it's time for the professionals when it gets to this point.
To the OP: Please, please contact your Council on Aging AND the local police to file reports. It's important that you start a paper trail. Make sure you get copies of the letter/report to any agencies you decide to contact, and keep their replies as well. Start a file folder.
Before you start contacting agencies and if you feel comfortable doing it (please, tell us how old you are -- not because we're nosy, but because us older folks can better tailor our advice to you), consider following your uncle to see where he is going. Take photos if possible, and document the dates/times. Keep copies of the credit card statements you saw; if the kitchen appliances were bought locally, you can possibly contact the store and see where they were delivered, under the pretense that they went to the wrong house. If you are uncomfortable with this, have a PI do this for you. If your uncle is doing ANYTHING AT ALL ILLEGAL, the police and council on aging can move to have your aunt and uncle separated (I believe) and give her a safe space.
Please tell us how you are doing with this. It's a terrible burden, but unless your aunt's relatives help, she may be in danger, esp as your uncle's delusions progress.