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In reply to the discussion: The rape threads point to a larger need...revolutionary change in what it is to be "a man". [View all]Victor_c3
(3,557 posts)I would call a "man" a person who will do anything that needs to get done while treating others with respect and dignity.
I like to think that I'm more "manly" than most out there because of my proven ability to stand up in any situation and take care of what needs to get done. My toddler is sick and throwing up in the night. What does a man like me do? Does a "real man" wake up his wife to get her to deal with it or does he get up, hold his daughter while she is crying and throwing up on his shoulder and chest, clean her up, and fall asleep with her in his arms?
A real "man" doesn't have to prove anything to anyone. Driving a big truck and wearing work boots might present a certain image of toughness, but real toughness and fortitude isn't displayed by looks. A real man doesn't have a frail ego that is damaged when he doesn't get his way.