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Duncanpup

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120. If it comes across as victim blaming

Reply to redqueen (Reply #93)

Sat Mar 9, 2024, 02:00 PM

Mar 2024

I never meant for it to sound that way it’s just I find something paddling cruel.

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Florida student says she felt sexually assaulted in school paddling..18 year old woman paddled alone by two men [View all] BlueWaveNeverEnd Mar 2024 OP

They were allowed to paddle an adult woman? RandySF Mar 2024 #1

yep.. Florida BlueWaveNeverEnd Mar 2024 #2

Corporal punishment is still allowed in Arizona schools too. AZLD4Candidate Mar 2024 #7

Yes, adult woman. But if she were underage? thesquanderer Mar 2024 #31

It would have better if she was younger? Voltaire2 Mar 2024 #73

They shouldn't be allowed to paddle any student PatSeg Mar 2024 #122

She needs to SUE!!!!!!!!!!! Trueblue1968 Mar 2024 #141

I call that sexual assault. KarenS Mar 2024 #3

Unbelievable? Do you not understand The Florida? This place is hot garbage. SoFlaBro Mar 2024 #5

Republicans have made that place unlivable wolfie001 Mar 2024 #53

I just bailed out of Submariner Mar 2024 #127

Good for you!!! wolfie001 Mar 2024 #128

I just had a 30% increase in Missouri xmas74 Mar 2024 #129

When Senator Graham retired, it was all fucking downhill from there. MAGA fucked this place up. SoFlaBro Mar 2024 #145

Senator Graham? niyad Mar 2024 #150

Ex Florida governor and senator. SoFlaBro Mar 2024 #151

Sorry. I was looking at a list of senators from florida, and his name was niyad Mar 2024 #152

This was a while back. He was the governor then in the senate for three terms. Excellent executive and legislator. SoFlaBro Mar 2024 #153

Thank you. I do remember a little bit about him now. niyad Mar 2024 #154

Here's his Wiki: Judi Lynn Mar 2024 #155

Thank you. niyad Mar 2024 #156

I think there is a case to be made that this is sexual assault... at least DA should be involved hlthe2b Mar 2024 #4

Another sad aspect of this is moniss Mar 2024 #6

I understand your perspective. I don't understand if it minimizes her assault to compare the two littlemissmartypants Mar 2024 #11

Not to minimize in any way. moniss Mar 2024 #12

Dangerous times for sure! ❤️ littlemissmartypants Mar 2024 #61

Freaks .. she is an adult. Duncanpup Mar 2024 #8

they are freaks for paddling any teen. BlueWaveNeverEnd Mar 2024 #9

They are freaks for paddling any person under their control. niyad Mar 2024 #14

That's just creepy Farmer-Rick Mar 2024 #23

Creepy AF ! FalloutShelter Mar 2024 #109

Congratulations on your 10,000 post milestone. niyad Mar 2024 #110

Thanks niyad Farmer-Rick Mar 2024 #137

Yes. Delphinus Mar 2024 #25

I agree. Duncanpup Mar 2024 #10

How is it ok if she were 12? Voltaire2 Mar 2024 #74

It's not Duncanpup Mar 2024 #76

She had two bad choices. Voltaire2 Mar 2024 #77

Her other options would impact her application for college. redqueen Mar 2024 #93

If it comes across as victim blaming Duncanpup Mar 2024 #120

Being 18 doesn't suddenly transform you into making adult choices. Oneironaut Mar 2024 #126

See post 92 and see what you think. niyad Mar 2024 #138

I completely agree with the entire post, tbh. Oneironaut Mar 2024 #147

Thank you. niyad Mar 2024 #148

This State's legacy is embarrasing. Baitball Blogger Mar 2024 #13

That makes sense since the official state color is "embarrassment-red with a tinge of bruise-blue",........... jaxexpat Mar 2024 #18

It's not just Florida. I added a map here... littlemissmartypants Mar 2024 #81

Those two... GiqueCee Mar 2024 #15

And we know...... MyOwnPeace Mar 2024 #20

Sad but true... GiqueCee Mar 2024 #106

That is so fucking creepy. Scrivener7 Mar 2024 #16

agreed. yet Florida GOP is worried about kids being exposed to Drag Queens BlueWaveNeverEnd Mar 2024 #56

Exactly. Scrivener7 Mar 2024 #99

Schools in the South still rely on 'paddling' as a form of punishment. 70sEraVet Mar 2024 #17

Why do they call it paddling? Farmer-Rick Mar 2024 #24

What is the difference? The practice is abhorent, sadistic, sick, by whatever name. niyad Mar 2024 #27

Paddling sounds more benign Farmer-Rick Mar 2024 #37

Thank you for your response. I see the use of an instrument as escalating niyad Mar 2024 #41

Good point Farmer-Rick Mar 2024 #55

Hear! Hear! littlemissmartypants Mar 2024 #67

huggggggs, my sister. I am so sorry for what you and that boy poor boy niyad Mar 2024 #89

Thank you. ❤️ littlemissmartypants Mar 2024 #91

My guess is they use an instrument, like a paddle, not hands. phylny Mar 2024 #28

I think the idea is, spanking is with the hand, paddling is with an instrument. 70sEraVet Mar 2024 #30

Yeah, you are right Farmer-Rick Mar 2024 #39

Hitting a child with a board is so much nicer. Voltaire2 Mar 2024 #79

Hitting would be even more accurate. WhiskeyGrinder Mar 2024 #32

Yes, you have hit the nail on the head Farmer-Rick Mar 2024 #38

This. All euphemisms need to stop. Hitting people is wrong. redqueen Mar 2024 #94

Assault. niyad Mar 2024 #115

I think in spankings, they use their hand viva la Mar 2024 #40

Maybe because... littlemissmartypants Mar 2024 #80

Yikes! Baitball Blogger Mar 2024 #83

Apparently, they called it "licks" to her. vanlassie Mar 2024 #124

They use a paddle xmas74 Mar 2024 #130

The use of an object called a paddle is what makes it paddling. Never heard of a girl getting it. Hekate Mar 2024 #135

Possibly due to the paddle? Roxi Mar 2024 #144

Spanking is usually done with a hand. usedtobedemgurl Mar 2024 #149

How is it less perverse if she's 13? Voltaire2 Mar 2024 #78

Thugs Old Crank Mar 2024 #19

If anyone has any doubts about paddling, he/she/they should read "Death at an Early Age." barbaraann Mar 2024 #21

I got a bit of paddling in Jr high & High school. BUT parents can say no oldsoftie Mar 2024 #22

Not Excusing Any Of This... ProfessorGAC Mar 2024 #26

From the article: WhiskeyGrinder Mar 2024 #33

Thank you. niyad Mar 2024 #34

When I was 13 Farmer-Rick Mar 2024 #52

Thanks. I Missed That ProfessorGAC Mar 2024 #63

She may have an open campus and a schedule where she can work part-time during the day. WhiskeyGrinder Mar 2024 #66

I've read stories like this before. Honor students are pressured into choosing the beating. yardwork Mar 2024 #49

The paddling might not show on her academic record. redstatebluegirl Mar 2024 #62

Sickening, Indeed ProfessorGAC Mar 2024 #64

I'm against this form of punishment for a kid and at 18 it's veering into S&M territory. Vinca Mar 2024 #29

I don't see how it's any better if the victim is 17 or younger. yardwork Mar 2024 #50

I'm surprised by these responses. Voltaire2 Mar 2024 #75

Frightening! eom littlemissmartypants Mar 2024 #85

Did you read my post???? "I'm against this form of punishment . . ." Vinca Mar 2024 #102

It's not. Did you read my post? It says I'm against this form of punishment. Vinca Mar 2024 #100

I truly didn't mean to imply that you thought it was ok. yardwork Mar 2024 #140

I don't see how the post you're responding to kcr Mar 2024 #121

This has never been ok. mn9driver Mar 2024 #35

Pity that assault and battery charges probably cannot/will not be brought niyad Mar 2024 #36

public shaming? Tim Davis (former prof baseball player) did the paddling, Eric Willis watched. BlueWaveNeverEnd Mar 2024 #42

Why can't they be charged? viva la Mar 2024 #44

It's legal. eom littlemissmartypants Mar 2024 #86

her mother had opted out. so, no, it isnt. mopinko Mar 2024 #113

The school has discretionary rules... littlemissmartypants Mar 2024 #114

I'm thinking about how it would be for parents. viva la Mar 2024 #119

Please take a look... littlemissmartypants Mar 2024 #125

Civil suit MorbidButterflyTat Mar 2024 #132

I like the way you think! ❤️ littlemissmartypants Mar 2024 #143

I remember in 7th grade they would paddle you in front of class Tribetime Mar 2024 #43

Thank goodness we have moved beyond that mindset. Hitting children niyad Mar 2024 #48

Absolutely. Diamond_Dog Mar 2024 #54

That and the obligatory wet willie, right? JanMichael Mar 2024 #69

Lawyer up creeps. I'm betting they were both fantasizing about it for a while. 617Blue Mar 2024 #45

May all involved receive everything they deserve. niyad Mar 2024 #46

And then some!! littlemissmartypants Mar 2024 #87

No corporal punishment anywhere. Ever. marble falls Mar 2024 #47

This is nothing less than babaric DFW Mar 2024 #51

I had in mind something a bit more. . . Let's see. .two armed assailants niyad Mar 2024 #96

It seems like she could have had an attorney present. Hope22 Mar 2024 #57

An attorney? How does that obviate the sadistic, perverted cruelty involved? niyad Mar 2024 #95

In advance of the beating? Hope22 Mar 2024 #104

As bad as Florida is, in general, Liberty County is the rectum of the state. Chainfire Mar 2024 #58

Good to know! Wow! littlemissmartypants Mar 2024 #88

They want to beat the girl into being submissive Walleye Mar 2024 #59

Outrageous! Why is this still a thing? tulipsandroses Mar 2024 #60

She should sue them for sexual assault Johonny Mar 2024 #65

I fail to see why ISS couldn't have been scheduled to avoid the college class and work dsc Mar 2024 #68

Based on what I am seeing, it was/is, all about CONTROL. Based on niyad Mar 2024 #92

If that was my daughter Timeflyer Mar 2024 #70

Same here. niyad Mar 2024 #101

You are not alone. NutmegYankee Mar 2024 #123

Ugh... Mike Nelson Mar 2024 #71

My county in Florida made it to Democratic Underground!! rockbluff botanist Mar 2024 #72

Wow! Stay strong and encouraged, rockbluff botanist. ❤️ littlemissmartypants Mar 2024 #90

Thank you so much for this insight into the area. The physical niyad Mar 2024 #107

Woah! Stay Safe! Thanks for being a botanist. electric_blue68 Mar 2024 #146

When I was in elementary school in the early '60's Turbineguy Mar 2024 #82

How horrifying about that first teacher. I hope he was never allowed around niyad Mar 2024 #111

So. Fucking. Gross ismnotwasm Mar 2024 #84

This is ok with Two Moms and a Hubby for Liberty. keithbvadu2 Mar 2024 #97

Have them arrested for assault. Grins Mar 2024 #98

If it was for lying. Physical punishment would not be appropriate. LiberalFighter Mar 2024 #103

First off that was assault. onecaliberal Mar 2024 #105

What the student should have done. Female here) flying_wahini Mar 2024 #108

I am guessing that a high school student being pressured like that niyad Mar 2024 #116

"...Liberty County High School in the Florida Panhandle..." J_William_Ryan Mar 2024 #112

Eighteen? Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Mar 2024 #117

Holy muthafuckin crap I CANNOT BELIEVE THIS IS ALLOWED??????????HOW???????? nt GuppyGal Mar 2024 #118

And it happens more in schools along racial lines. When I was in kindergarten in the early 60's the principal walked debm55 Mar 2024 #131

That's horrible. MorbidButterflyTat Mar 2024 #134

If this was my daughter.... edisdead Mar 2024 #133

The fact that they're calling swats "licks" is creepy too. Bucky Mar 2024 #136

appzrently a phony infraction, at that. niyad Mar 2024 #139

This is SICK Takket Mar 2024 #142