DeSantis: Is this guy for real? Like really this tone deaf?

[speak easy]

19. No.

Not intended. 'a cross dressing fetish' does not mean someone is gay.. And no - having some experience in BDSM relationships - being top or bottom, dom, domme or sub is nothing to be ashamed of - but treasured. But my own experience, when I was scening, is that cruel bullies were likely to be sucessful tops or doms, but could thrive in a release from responsibility.

Anyway I apologize. I have deleted the comment It would be better if I stayed away from pop psychology - for all concerned.