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In reply to the discussion: At almost age 76, I just announced my retirement. [View all]Blue_true
(31,261 posts)That HAD to remove a huge amount of potential mental stress for you. It looks like your parents had pre-planned somewhat, that had to help you in the roll that you were entrusted with.
Take care. Some of the mental well-being issues likely still have to be resolved. You will only start experiencing them now that things have slowed down some. Dont worry, those feelings are normal. Give yourself some space and spend time doing things that you love to do, that will be healing.
I know for me, it took almost two years to become mentally whole after my Mom passed. I had the estate stuff and I plunged back into my career work immediately after her death. I did not give myself time to heal fully and the issues with the estate debates only made matters worse. It got so bad that I worked out a deal to take a leave from work and just vanish, fortunately my boss understood and worked as best possible to have my roles filled until I returned.
My advice to all parents is to set up a well defined will and how their assets will be distributed after the last parent passes. That just makes things far easier for the person who has to handle their estate, that person very likely being a child who is going to have his or her own emotions to deal with.