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In reply to the discussion: Love at first sight? [View all]RFKHumphreyObama
(15,164 posts)Even at the age of 31, I've had a few of these experiences in my life. The most intense was about two years ago. I'm not sure I can even find the right words to describe my emotions in words
I was in a hospital-type facility recovering from an ailment a few years ago when this patient was wheeled into the bed next to me. His wife came in shortly later and, even before I had seen her, even from just hearing her voice from behind the curtain, there was this instantaneous and and quite powerful sense of attraction. I can't explain it but I believe it was somewhat similar to what you were describing here and there was absolutely no discernible reason or understanding behind me. I then met her in person and the feeling kept growing and growing and getting more overwhelming and overpowering to the extent that sometimes I felt quite uncomfortable being in the same room with her because that feeling was just so intense. And it seemed to go beyond way beyond lust or even a crush, it seemed to be something much deeper and much more soulful and intense, as if she was a soulmate of mine. As if we were spiritually connected or meant to be together or something. As I said, it's hard to describe in words. And it's ironic, even as I felt uncomfortable being around her, the more I seemed to be drawn to her
Usually when I come into contact with a married woman, for obvious reasons, I immediately try and suppress it and talk myself out of it. But with this one I couldn't. No matter how well I thought I'd contained it, it would keep exploding. This feeling was so powerful and intense it kept me awake for most of at least one night and for weeks and perhaps months after I'd met her, she was consistently in my thoughts day in and day out and on quite a powerful level. I hated myself for feeling the way I did obviously because there's nothing I hate more than feeling a strong sense of attraction to a married woman. And I never acted nor would I ever act on those feelings because of her marital status and circumstances (and her husband was a really wonderful guy). But they were definitely there and I doubt as if I'd felt anything as powerful in my life. It was just like a force or entity that was impossible to suppress
I spent a long time trying to comprehened and decipher what I was feeling. Why did I feel this deep attraction, this deep spiritual connection. Was it something from a past life? Was it something supernatural? Did she feel it too? Certainly when we talked to each other, we seemed to have some sort of bond there and we got along very well (she's still a Facebook friend of mine).
Actually I have many of the same questions as you do so I probably can't give you any sort of theory or explanation on it. It is probably the most bizarre thing that has happened in my life and it felt so wrong and yet so wonderful. It was a passion and a love beyond anything I can remember experiencing.