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RFKHumphreyObama

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12. I can exactly relate and would like to know as well
Thu Aug 2, 2012, 02:33 AM
Aug 2012

Even at the age of 31, I've had a few of these experiences in my life. The most intense was about two years ago. I'm not sure I can even find the right words to describe my emotions in words

I was in a hospital-type facility recovering from an ailment a few years ago when this patient was wheeled into the bed next to me. His wife came in shortly later and, even before I had seen her, even from just hearing her voice from behind the curtain, there was this instantaneous and and quite powerful sense of attraction. I can't explain it but I believe it was somewhat similar to what you were describing here and there was absolutely no discernible reason or understanding behind me. I then met her in person and the feeling kept growing and growing and getting more overwhelming and overpowering to the extent that sometimes I felt quite uncomfortable being in the same room with her because that feeling was just so intense. And it seemed to go beyond way beyond lust or even a crush, it seemed to be something much deeper and much more soulful and intense, as if she was a soulmate of mine. As if we were spiritually connected or meant to be together or something. As I said, it's hard to describe in words. And it's ironic, even as I felt uncomfortable being around her, the more I seemed to be drawn to her

Usually when I come into contact with a married woman, for obvious reasons, I immediately try and suppress it and talk myself out of it. But with this one I couldn't. No matter how well I thought I'd contained it, it would keep exploding. This feeling was so powerful and intense it kept me awake for most of at least one night and for weeks and perhaps months after I'd met her, she was consistently in my thoughts day in and day out and on quite a powerful level. I hated myself for feeling the way I did obviously because there's nothing I hate more than feeling a strong sense of attraction to a married woman. And I never acted nor would I ever act on those feelings because of her marital status and circumstances (and her husband was a really wonderful guy). But they were definitely there and I doubt as if I'd felt anything as powerful in my life. It was just like a force or entity that was impossible to suppress

I spent a long time trying to comprehened and decipher what I was feeling. Why did I feel this deep attraction, this deep spiritual connection. Was it something from a past life? Was it something supernatural? Did she feel it too? Certainly when we talked to each other, we seemed to have some sort of bond there and we got along very well (she's still a Facebook friend of mine).

Actually I have many of the same questions as you do so I probably can't give you any sort of theory or explanation on it. It is probably the most bizarre thing that has happened in my life and it felt so wrong and yet so wonderful. It was a passion and a love beyond anything I can remember experiencing.

Love at first sight? [View all] malthaussen Aug 2012 OP
Chemistry elleng Aug 2012 #1
Setting aside my reaction to that *ahem* article... malthaussen Aug 2012 #2
Interesting, and synchronous, that you posted this tonight. abq e streeter Aug 2012 #3
Go for it, dude. malthaussen Aug 2012 #4
Thanks...I hope I don't chicken out (my usual MO) once I get there (going to visit other friends) abq e streeter Aug 2012 #9
Go for it! WilmywoodNCparalegal Aug 2012 #37
I think it's lust and has nothing to do with love or even like. Booster Aug 2012 #5
Then why so rare? malthaussen Aug 2012 #6
It is the inexplicable Summer Hathaway Aug 2012 #7
Ah, 'tis my nature to try to explain the inexplicable, Summer. malthaussen Aug 2012 #10
Haha! Summer Hathaway Aug 2012 #44
I think it was GB Shaw who saw this phenomenon as the work of Voice for Peace Aug 2012 #8
Some call it gene pull flamingdem Aug 2012 #11
I can exactly relate and would like to know as well RFKHumphreyObama Aug 2012 #12
You do a great job of describing it in words. malthaussen Aug 2012 #14
This message was self-deleted by its author tridim Aug 2012 #27
It's an interesting notion... Ron Obvious Aug 2012 #13
So amazingly similar to my first encounter with this... malthaussen Aug 2012 #15
I think that's the key... Ron Obvious Aug 2012 #18
Mmm, I don't project here, because I'm attributing nothing. malthaussen Aug 2012 #19
You are thinking too much indie9197 Aug 2012 #16
But of course. malthaussen Aug 2012 #17
You never really get to know someone.. Fumesucker Aug 2012 #43
It happened to me 25 years ago in High School. Arctic Dave Aug 2012 #20
Great, but it leaves open the question at the bottom: malthaussen Aug 2012 #21
It happened to me and ohheckyeah Aug 2012 #22
Mutual for my husband and I as well. Instantly. Married 26 years. nt riderinthestorm Aug 2012 #28
I would say it was mutual. Arctic Dave Aug 2012 #32
Like this one: malthaussen Aug 2012 #40
Exactly. ;) Arctic Dave Aug 2012 #42
it happened to me at an art fair, tho not the same. more a flooding feeling of recognition. pansypoo53219 Aug 2012 #23
The boner works in mysterious ways. Son of Gob Aug 2012 #24
LOL! darkangel218 Aug 2012 #26
That's never happened to me. GaYellowDawg Aug 2012 #25
Yes. Twice. Tracer Aug 2012 #29
That's what happened with me and my wife - instant connection. HopeHoops Aug 2012 #30
Every time that has happened to me... MadrasT Aug 2012 #31
That happened to me once. hifiguy Aug 2012 #33
Well, it happened to hubby and I liberalhistorian Aug 2012 #34
I want to thank everyone for participating... malthaussen Aug 2012 #35
probably an instantaneous Shankapotomus Aug 2012 #36
Okay, but what's being assessed? malthaussen Aug 2012 #38
not necessarily the sub-conscious making the mistake Shankapotomus Aug 2012 #39
Yup, the interpretation is on the conscious mind. malthaussen Aug 2012 #41
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