5 Ways the Patriarchy Hurts Men Too
Male Victims of Domestic Violence are often not taken seriously either by the courts or by society itself. This is a fairly serious problem, because it means that a lot of victims are potentially falling through the cracks. This in turn reduces the likelihood that domestic violence against men will be reported, because men don’t want to be emasculated on the basis of being a victim. It’s not considered “manly” to be a victim.
Male Victims of Sexual Assault experience the same sort of problems that male victims of domestic violence do: people don’t necessarily take them seriously and society tells them that men are not men if they are sexually assaulted. This is also a big problem, because they are also unlikely to report instances of rape or sexual abuses, resulting in ongoing psychological harm and a lack of justice for the victims. On top of that, the original definitions of rape did not even RECOGNIZE that men could be raped-~-it’s only the modified and updated versions of rape law that acknowledge that male rape victims even exist.
Fathers During Custody Hearings are less likely to acquire custody of their children. Courts presume that the mother is the more suitable caretaker because the Patriarchy perpetuates the gender binary in such a way that masculinity becomes divorced from the concepts of care and nurture, while femininity becomes inherently tied to this. This also harms male children who may be better off with their father than their mother but are given to their mother based on this rigid gender divide.
Gay Men can also be harmed by the Patriarchy. As I discovered when I was doing my research on social networks and identity formation, the concept of gender correlates strongly with expectations of sexuality. Because of this, societies often emasculate gay men, based either on their sexual activities alone or based on preconceived notions of homosexuality. This in turn helps to perpetuate violence against homosexuals in many instances, and is used to justify other related prejudices. The harm is even greater in societies in which hypermasculinity is a problem, because it forces gay men to either behave in a hypermasculinized way that is also hypersexualized and heternormative, or suffer the consequences of deviating from this gender expectation (we see this, for example, in Mexico where machismo is a prominent social feature)
Men in General because the Patriarchy helps to promote a gender binary that categorizes displays of emotion as particularly feminine. This often results in a lack of or at least limited emotional literacy among men, and places men who DO show emotion in an uncomfortable position wherein their behavior is read as “unmanly”. Because of this constant suppression of emotion men often have problems rooted in miscommunication (especially with women). On top of this, studies have shown that most decision-making is rooted in emotion; but the ability to express the decision-making process often presents a challenge to men who lack this emotional literacy due to the norms imposed by the current gender binary.
http://theradicalidea.wordpress.com/2012/04/16/5-ways-the-patriarchy-hurts-men-too/
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this is just in short 5 examples, but there are many that i run into with both hubby and my two sons. all over the place
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