When Your Mother Says She’s Fat

[redqueen]

Dear Mum,

I was seven when I discovered that you were fat, ugly and horrible. Up until that point I had believed that you were beautiful — in every sense of the word. I remember flicking through old photo albums and staring at pictures of you standing on the deck of a boat. Your white strapless bathing suit looked so glamorous, just like a movie star. Whenever I had the chance I’d pull out that wondrous white bathing suit hidden in your bottom drawer and imagine a time when I’d be big enough to wear it; when I’d be like you.

But all of that changed when, one night, we were dressed up for a party and you said to me, ‘‘Look at you, so thin, beautiful and lovely. And look at me, fat, ugly and horrible.’’

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Let us honor and respect our bodies for what they do instead of despising them for how they appear. Focus on living healthy and active lives, let our weight fall where it may, and consign our body hatred in the past where it belongs. When I looked at that photo of you in the white bathing suit all those years ago, my innocent young eyes saw the truth. I saw unconditional love, beauty and wisdom. I saw my Mum.

Love, Kasey xx


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[GladRagDahl]

1. Touching

[BainsBane]

2. My mother never referred to herself as fat

Just me.

[redqueen]

3. Sounds like the grandmother in this letter. nt

[ismnotwasm]

5. That sucks.

My dad bought my mother a beautiful bunch of expensive outfits One time-- in size 8. She was around a size 12 at there time. He was always doing weird stuff like that.

[ismnotwasm]

4. Nice

I remember one time I got so thin I really didn't look good. People were asking my husband if I was Ill ( just stressed out) It was women telling me "you look great"

No I didn't.