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Cha

(294,937 posts)
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 02:32 PM Aug 2023

Dear DUers, I have Heartbreaking and shocking

Last edited Sun Aug 27, 2023, 08:25 PM - Edit history (1)

news to share..

My Friend and Fellow DU member "Me" has passed away.

I can't believe I have to write these words.. I'm still in shock. She was an Outstanding, Compassionate Democrat.. And a Kind and Supportive Friend for Many Years on DU.

I never met her in person.. she lived in Manhattan but we sent Birthday and Christmas cards to each other and she'd be there with Compassion and Empathy whenever I needed her. And, I was there for her.

I will miss Her more than I can say. Hug your Friends and Loved ones.

https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=profile&uid=146947

ETA~ So Sorry I had left the "r" out of FRIENDS! AS in Hug Them!

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Dear DUers, I have Heartbreaking and shocking (Original Post) Cha Aug 2023 OP
R.I.P. ............................ Lovie777 Aug 2023 #1
Mahalo, Lovie🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Aug 2023 #6
My condolences to you, and to Me's family and other friends. spooky3 Aug 2023 #2
Mahalo Spooky.. Cha Aug 2023 #10
Oh no. Such a wonderful person. blm Aug 2023 #3
Mahalo for your Kind words for "Me", blm Cha Aug 2023 #14
I'm so sorry. onecaliberal Aug 2023 #4
Mahalo onecalliberal.. this Cha Aug 2023 #21
Mahalo Cha, it absolutely helps to know you're not alone. onecaliberal Aug 2023 #24
I'm so sorry to hear that, and for your profound loss wendyb-NC Aug 2023 #5
Mahalo wendyb-NC Cha Aug 2023 #25
So sorry, loss of a friend is so hard to bear Walleye Aug 2023 #7
Yes it is, Walleye.. really hard. Cha Aug 2023 #29
I'm so sorry to hear this. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2023 #8
Dear Great Aunt.. Mahalo nui loa.. 💕 Cha Aug 2023 #43
Thanks for the info. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2023 #45
Mahalo Great Aunt.. Cha Aug 2023 #115
Thanks again, Cha. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2023 #122
Aloha.. I sent the email with Cha Aug 2023 #135
Thanks for emailing him. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2023 #144
It's Amazing to me that i Cha Aug 2023 #148
That happens around here. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2023 #150
Oh no! I'm so sorry for your loss. This is a loss to all of DU. yardwork Aug 2023 #9
I know what you mean, yardwork.. Cha Aug 2023 #48
She was so thoughtful, kind - and funny. yardwork Aug 2023 #81
Yes.. Thank You! Cha Aug 2023 #84
DU has a unique way to bring new friends together. calimary Aug 2023 #11
I don't know anyone here personally, but I feel I've learned a lot from these friends. erronis Aug 2023 #17
Some of the members here have been blm Aug 2023 #38
Mahlo for your sweet kind Cha Aug 2023 #51
I'm really sorry to hear this - a loss for you and all of us at DU. Ocelot II Aug 2023 #12
Aloha and Mahalo, Ocelot... Cha Aug 2023 #53
Oh no; cha so sorry; peacebuzzard Aug 2023 #13
Mahalo for saying that, peacebuzzard... It is Cha Aug 2023 #60
I am so very sorry Cha. Thank you for your post mahina Aug 2023 #15
Mahalo & Aloha, mahina Cha Aug 2023 #63
So sorry, Cha gademocrat7 Aug 2023 #16
Aloha and Mahalo, gademocrat Cha Aug 2023 #66
I'm so very sorry mzmolly Aug 2023 #18
Mahalo, mzmolly..💕🤷‍♀️ Cha Aug 2023 #67
Oh Cha -- I'm so very sorry for your (and DU's) loss. Thank you for letting us know.... Hekate Aug 2023 #19
Aloha & Mahalo nui loa, Hekate.. Cha Aug 2023 #69
My deepest condolences to you on Me's passing💔 virgdem Aug 2023 #20
Mhahalo, virgdem.. Cha Aug 2023 #200
May she rest in peace. sheshe2 Aug 2023 #22
Mahlao & Aloha, she.. Cha Aug 2023 #71
That is good, Cha. sheshe2 Aug 2023 #80
Me was so Loved & Still IS.. Cha Aug 2023 #83
. BootinUp Aug 2023 #23
Mahalo, BootinUp.. 🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Aug 2023 #73
I am sorry for the loss of your friend mercuryblues Aug 2023 #26
Mahalo & Aloha Mercuryblues. Cha Aug 2023 #74
. Think. Again. Aug 2023 #27
Mahalo, Think. Again. Cha Aug 2023 #76
I am so sorry to hear this. My heartfelt condolences to her family and friends. She will be LoisB Aug 2023 #28
Yes Me will be so Missed, LoisB... Cha Aug 2023 #77
She sounds like she was a wonderful person. I am sorry for your loss as well as her families. BoomaofBandM Aug 2023 #30
Me was a Wonderful person, BoomaofBandM Cha Aug 2023 #79
So sorry for your loss. Sogo Aug 2023 #31
Mahalo Sogo.. I really Appreciate All Cha Aug 2023 #86
May your good memories rise to help you through this time of grief. Hermit-The-Prog Aug 2023 #32
Mahalo Hermit.. they have been.. Cha Aug 2023 #88
Very sad. H2O Man Aug 2023 #33
Oh wow.. Mahalo for telling us Cha Aug 2023 #131
I've got to order H2O Man Aug 2023 #143
Yes, you do! Me sent a copy of Cha Aug 2023 #146
I am so sorry for your loss, Cha! We will all miss Me. nt pnwmom Aug 2023 #34
Mahalo, pnwmom.. Cha Aug 2023 #90
Oh no this is terrible Saoirse9 Aug 2023 #35
I love her, too, Saoirseg9.. Mahalo Cha Aug 2023 #93
H20 Man said she had some health issues Saoirse9 Aug 2023 #121
I didn't know until she had been in hospital for 10 Cha Aug 2023 #132
Bless you Cha. Saoirse9 Aug 2023 #217
It does help, Saoirse9.. I wish Cha Aug 2023 #218
So sorry. sinkingfeeling Aug 2023 #36
Mahalo, sinkingfeeling.. Cha Aug 2023 #96
I'm so very sorry, Cha. femmedem Aug 2023 #37
Mahalo, femmedem Cha Aug 2023 #98
That will mean the world to them. n/t femmedem Aug 2023 #104
It will.. Thank You All So Much!🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Aug 2023 #105
Cha! I'm so sorry about this news! Me was one of my Nixie Aug 2023 #39
Mahalo, Nixie! Cha Aug 2023 #100
Very disappointing news PJMcK Aug 2023 #40
Mahalo, PJMcK.. It all seems Cha Aug 2023 #101
This is so sad, Cha, for you and others on DU. brer cat Aug 2023 #41
I will, brercat.. I'm sending this Cha Aug 2023 #107
I am so sorry hear about the world losing Me. And so sorry for your loss. emulatorloo Aug 2023 #42
I know, emulatorloo.. A world Cha Aug 2023 #106
It is sad, and she will be missed JohnSJ Aug 2023 #44
Mahalo, John.. Aloha Cha Aug 2023 #108
Thanks Cha. JohnSJ Aug 2023 #130
. DinahMoeHum Aug 2023 #46
Mahalo Dinah.. Cha Aug 2023 #110
So sorry the DU choir has lost such a kind voice. FailureToCommunicate Aug 2023 #47
Sweet Kind Words for Me, FailureToCummincate.. Cha Aug 2023 #111
We mostly have to be satisfied with virtual hugs, Cha, but they are none the less... FailureToCommunicate Aug 2023 #126
Ohh That's a Beautiful Peaceful Meaningful Cha Aug 2023 #134
... FailureToCommunicate Aug 2023 #147
Oh no. I'm so sorry, Cha ancianita Aug 2023 #49
Mahalo ancianita... I Cha Aug 2023 #112
I am so sorry mgardener Aug 2023 #50
Mahalo mgardener... Cha Aug 2023 #113
"" AllaN01Bear Aug 2023 #52
Mahalo, AllaNO1Bear Cha Aug 2023 #116
My heart goes out to you & her family. William769 Aug 2023 #54
It's so hard.. I know you know, William.. Cha Aug 2023 #117
Oh, no. I'm so sorry. Scrivener7 Aug 2023 #55
Mahlo Scrivener7 Cha Aug 2023 #199
Mahalo, Cha. Scrivener7 Aug 2023 #215
Aww Cha Aug 2023 #216
Condolences to all who knew Me. pat_k Aug 2023 #56
Mahalo, pat k.. & for Helen Keller's Cha Aug 2023 #118
Damn, that's terrible news. Elessar Zappa Aug 2023 #57
Mahalo, Elessar Zappa.. So true.. Cha Aug 2023 #119
I'm so sorry Cha. May the memories of your friendship livetohike Aug 2023 #58
Mahalo for the Sweet words of Love, livetohke Cha Aug 2023 #120
'Me' was a really lovely person whose posts I always took time to consider hlthe2b Aug 2023 #59
Mahalo for your kind & Thoughful Cha Aug 2023 #137
I am so sorry, Cha UpInArms Aug 2023 #61
Mahalo UpInArms 🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Aug 2023 #138
I'm so sorry. Solly Mack Aug 2023 #62
Mahalo, Solly🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Aug 2023 #139
Oh, no. So sorry. ❤️ littlemissmartypants Aug 2023 #64
Mahalo, pants💕🤷‍♀️ Cha Aug 2023 #140
... littlemissmartypants Aug 2023 #156
I really enjoyed Me's posts LetMyPeopleVote Aug 2023 #65
Mahalo, LMPV... Yes Me Will Be Missed! Cha Aug 2023 #141
Much love to you, Cha. pandr32 Aug 2023 #68
Aloha & Mahalo,, pandr🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Aug 2023 #149
Oh no. BumRushDaShow Aug 2023 #70
Mahalo, BRDS.. I think she did cross Cha Aug 2023 #151
So sorry yobrault1 Aug 2023 #72
Mahalo, yobrault1.. There's Cha Aug 2023 #153
I'm sorry Cha. It's very hard to lose a good friend. Take care. n/t Greybnk48 Aug 2023 #75
Yes it is, Greybnk.. Mahalo for that.. Cha Aug 2023 #154
Wow, that is such sad news. Ferrets are Cool Aug 2023 #78
Mahalo & Aloha, Ferrets are Cool..🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Aug 2023 #155
I'm so very sorry for your loss, and our loss. Ilsa Aug 2023 #82
So true, Ilsa.. this is what happens Cha Aug 2023 #157
yeah, I've been here since just after Ilsa Aug 2023 #169
So sorry for the loss of your friend WestMichRad Aug 2023 #85
Mahalo & Aloha, WestMichRad Cha Aug 2023 #158
I'm so sorry to hear this sad news. Alliepoo Aug 2023 #87
Mahalo, Alliepoo.. 🤷‍♀️ Cha Aug 2023 #159
So sad for your close loss Cha. I started to hum riversedge Aug 2023 #89
So Sorry about your Mom, rivers... Cha Aug 2023 #160
Sad news indeed. Me was one of the 1st DUers I interacted with The Polack MSgt Aug 2023 #91
Aww.. she would love this Cha Aug 2023 #161
My Condolences Blue Owl Aug 2023 #92
Mahalo Blue Owl.. Yes Me Will.. Cha Aug 2023 #162
Hug your friends and loved ones...wise words. PortTack Aug 2023 #94
❤️ ✿❧🌿❧✿ ❤️ Lucinda Aug 2023 #95
❤️ ✿❧🌿❧✿ ❤️ Lucinda Aug 2023 #97
Mahalo & Aloha, Lucinda🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Aug 2023 #163
Cha so sorry your good friend and DU companion ME has passed. Fla Dem Aug 2023 #99
Mahalo & Sweet Advice, FlaDem Cha Aug 2023 #165
I am so sorry for your loss. spicysista Aug 2023 #102
Mahalo, spicysista💕🤷‍♀️ Cha Aug 2023 #166
Sad news BigmanPigman Aug 2023 #103
Mahalo, BP🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Aug 2023 #167
I am so very sorry to hear this. She was a loved and valued member of niyad Aug 2023 #109
Mahalo niyad..🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Aug 2023 #168
{{{{{Cha}}}}} I'm so sorry Me. has crossed over. Condolences to you and all highplainsdem Aug 2023 #114
Ohh.. now I'm crying again and Cha Aug 2023 #170
I'm so sorry, Cha. May she rest in peace sueh Aug 2023 #123
Mahalo, sueh Cha Aug 2023 #201
I just saw this DFW Aug 2023 #124
Mahalo, DFW... it's been Cha Aug 2023 #171
Thank you for the update. I am really sorry. LisaM Aug 2023 #125
Yes it can, LisaM.. Mahalo🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Aug 2023 #173
Mahalo. LisaM Aug 2023 #196
I know what exactly what you Cha Aug 2023 #203
I am so very sorry for your loss, Cha. Silver Gaia Aug 2023 #127
Mahalo & Aloha for your Sweet Cha Aug 2023 #174
I'm so deeply sorry to hear this news, Cha! herding cats Aug 2023 #128
Mahalo, Cat.. Me did madke a Cha Aug 2023 #175
So Sorry, hang-tough, it's always a lose when a person with Democratic (Loving Human) Values passes. 2live is 2fly Aug 2023 #129
Mahalo 2live is 2fly 🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Aug 2023 #176
So sorry to hear this, Cha! BlueMTexpat Aug 2023 #133
Mahalo BlueMTexpat 🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Aug 2023 #178
Sorry to hear it. Grumpy Old Guy Aug 2023 #136
Mahalo G O G Cha Aug 2023 #179
May her memory be a blessing Cary Aug 2023 #142
Mahalo, Cary🤷‍♀️ Cha Aug 2023 #180
Holding a light for Me flamingdem Aug 2023 #145
Mahalo, flamingdem.. 🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Aug 2023 #182
My sincere condolences. babylonsister Aug 2023 #152
Mahalo babylonsister💕🤷‍♀️ Cha Aug 2023 #183
Please accept my condolences on the loss of Me. MontanaMama Aug 2023 #164
Mahalo MontanaMama & Yes I Cha Aug 2023 #184
... 2naSalit Aug 2023 #172
Mahalo, 2naSalit🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Aug 2023 #185
Yes, hug your friends, they are precious, as was Me. SunSeeker Aug 2023 #177
Mahlao, SunSeeker..Me is so precious.. Cha Aug 2023 #186
Oh no, Cha peggysue2 Aug 2023 #181
Mahalo, PeggySue.. Yes heartbreaking Cha Aug 2023 #187
So hard to hear, Cha peggysue2 Aug 2023 #192
Aloha PeggySue.. Cha Aug 2023 #202
Now you're making me cry, Cha. peggysue2 Aug 2023 #219
I think crying is good for us when we're sad.. Cha Aug 2023 #220
Well, if crying is a virtue . . . peggysue2 Aug 2023 #221
May she rest in peace burrowowl Aug 2023 #188
Me did know that, burrowowl.. Cha Aug 2023 #204
🕯 Lady Freedom Returns Aug 2023 #189
Mahalo Lady Freedom Returns 🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Aug 2023 #205
RIP Me. Prairie_Seagull Aug 2023 #190
We did, Prairie_Seagull.. Than You Cha Aug 2023 #206
Thank you for posting this, Cha. lapucelle Aug 2023 #191
You're So Welcome, lapucelle.. Cha Aug 2023 #207
Mahalo, my friend. lapucelle Aug 2023 #213
I just saw that Me is in DU's Memoriam..🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Aug 2023 #214
Sorry for the loss of your friend. Peace and love. SYFROYH Aug 2023 #193
Mahalo, SYFROYH.. I appreciate that.. Cha Aug 2023 #208
R.I.P. Me. Niagara Aug 2023 #194
Yes it is, Niagara.. Mahalo Cha Aug 2023 #209
Peace and strength to you and "me's" family. kairos12 Aug 2023 #195
Mahalo, kairos.. Cha Aug 2023 #210
RIP IronLionZion Aug 2023 #197
Mahalo IronLionZion Cha Aug 2023 #211
I am so sorry for your loss senseandsensibility Aug 2023 #198
Mahalo senseandsensibility.. It Will! Cha Aug 2023 #212
Oh my, this is such sad news. Dark n Stormy Knight Sep 2023 #222
Thank You So Much, Stormy.. Cha Sep 2023 #223

blm

(112,782 posts)
3. Oh no. Such a wonderful person.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 02:38 PM
Aug 2023

And a great member here. Through thick and thin.

I hope she had a peaceful passing. 🕯️

Cha

(294,937 posts)
14. Mahalo for your Kind words for "Me", blm
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 02:49 PM
Aug 2023

I know she was surrounded by People who loved her and she loved when she passed.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
21. Mahalo onecalliberal.. this
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 02:55 PM
Aug 2023

means a lot to be be able to share our loss of wonderful sweet member on DU

wendyb-NC

(3,214 posts)
5. I'm so sorry to hear that, and for your profound loss
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 02:41 PM
Aug 2023

May she R.I.P.. Hugs to you and her loved ones.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
25. Mahalo wendyb-NC
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 02:59 PM
Aug 2023

I really appreciate your kind words & and know "Me" would too.. and her Family & Friends in New York.

greatauntoftriplets

(175,591 posts)
8. I'm so sorry to hear this.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 02:43 PM
Aug 2023

My deepest condolences to you, Me's family and friends. Had she been sick a long time? I saw that her last post was more than a month ago.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
43. Dear Great Aunt.. Mahalo nui loa.. 💕
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 03:24 PM
Aug 2023

I PM her on June 25the because I hadn't seen her around for awhile and she replied that she was in the hospital for about 10 days. They didn't know what was caused it.. here I'll post Me's words..


To make a short response, I've been in the hospital for the last 10 days because of a chest xray that showed water on the lung hampering my ability to breathe. So i've been through 10 of tests whiled they stabilized my ability to breathe. They don't actually know what the problem is now even thought it might be liver. THey will have more results in 2 weeks

I sent her a Get Well card and she responded to that.. a few more PMs and then I never heard from her again on DU or anywhere.

So I sent another card to her home and told her I was really worried but never heard back. I was still hoping for the best.

And then I got a beautiful cared from her husband on August 23 that said our "Me" had passed.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
115. Mahalo Great Aunt..
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 06:09 PM
Aug 2023

I'm going to ask her husband when I send this link to him later today.. and I will let you know.

I always wonder why people had to go.. and Now Me had this mysterious illness that Docs didn't know why.. the last I heard.

💛💜💚💙💖

Cha

(294,937 posts)
135. Aloha.. I sent the email with
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 07:48 PM
Aug 2023

the link to this OP.. but I didn't ask because there was so much to say.

Maybe we'll find out someday what happened to our dear kind Me.

There are Heart of hers she posted and I'm sending them on..

💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙

greatauntoftriplets

(175,591 posts)
144. Thanks for emailing him.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 08:34 PM
Aug 2023

It's sad that you and Me were never able to meet, though you don't live anywhere near New York.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
148. It's Amazing to me that i
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 09:13 PM
Aug 2023

can feel this way about someone who I don't even know what they look like.

But that's the age of the internet.. Words are Powerful and over the years Kindness & Compassion make a Lasting Impact.

These are Me's hearts she's posted...

💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙

Cha

(294,937 posts)
48. I know what you mean, yardwork..
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 03:29 PM
Aug 2023

It's so hard. Me liked to post Angels & 💛💜💚💙💖

calimary

(80,279 posts)
11. DU has a unique way to bring new friends together.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 02:46 PM
Aug 2023

People you’d otherwise never meet, talk to, or get close to. It’s a “thing” about this place.

And we come together not just to gab, gossip, scheme, or commiserate, but also to mourn - many of us having never met the lost one, or each other.

Magic it is. And sometimes it’s sad magic. Thanks for letting us know, Cha. We’ll all miss her, too. Right along with ya.

erronis

(14,719 posts)
17. I don't know anyone here personally, but I feel I've learned a lot from these friends.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 02:51 PM
Aug 2023

Frequently I'm very surprised to learn that someone I've interacted with is a different gender/age/etc. than I originally thought. And usually I'm amazed to learn what some of you have gone through in life, over time.

Thanks for posting this heartfelt remembrance, Cha.

blm

(112,782 posts)
38. Some of the members here have been
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 03:18 PM
Aug 2023

Last edited Sun Aug 27, 2023, 04:13 PM - Edit history (1)

with me for most every stepping stone in my daughter’s life… she just graduated university and is preparing for next step - masters in museum studies.

Yes, it’s an extension of family.

The loss of Me. will be felt by her DU family.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
51. Mahlo for your sweet kind
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 03:33 PM
Aug 2023

words, calimary. It is Amazing what DU has done for all of us over the years.

I really appreciate it right now more than ever.

💛💜💚💙💖

Cha

(294,937 posts)
60. Mahalo for saying that, peacebuzzard... It is
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 03:44 PM
Aug 2023

a tragic loss for us and for her family and friends in New York.

💛💜💚💙💖

Hekate

(89,765 posts)
19. Oh Cha -- I'm so very sorry for your (and DU's) loss. Thank you for letting us know....
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 02:55 PM
Aug 2023

We grieve with you.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
69. Aloha & Mahalo nui loa, Hekate..
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 04:12 PM
Aug 2023

In the beautiful note her husband sent me to let me know.. he gave me his email address and I'm going to send this link to him so he will know how much "Me" meant to our Community.

💛💜💚💙💖

sheshe2

(82,908 posts)
22. May she rest in peace.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 02:56 PM
Aug 2023

A sad loss to our community, she was well respected here.

Love to her family and friends, I know how hard this is for them.

Thank you for letting us all know, Cha.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
71. Mahlao & Aloha, she..
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 04:17 PM
Aug 2023

I just posted that I'm going to send this link to her husband so he will know how much Me meant to our DU Community.

💛💜💚💙💖

Those are Me's hearts she posted in a PM & I'm passing them on. 💕🤷?♀️

LoisB

(6,901 posts)
28. I am so sorry to hear this. My heartfelt condolences to her family and friends. She will be
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 03:02 PM
Aug 2023

missed.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
77. Yes Me will be so Missed, LoisB...
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 04:31 PM
Aug 2023

Mahalo for your Kind words of Sympathy. :groupohug: 💛💜💚💙💖

Cha

(294,937 posts)
86. Mahalo Sogo.. I really Appreciate All
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 04:53 PM
Aug 2023

this Kindness for Me.. I'm sending this link to her family in New York so they can know how much she is Loved. 💛💜💚💙💖

H2O Man

(73,079 posts)
33. Very sad.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 03:11 PM
Aug 2023

Me and I became friends on the Plame Threads. It turned out we were distant relatives.

H2O Man

(73,079 posts)
143. I've got to order
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 08:27 PM
Aug 2023

her children's book for my grandson.

It has been a strange ten days. I've had a number of old friends die. But this hits the hardest.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
146. Yes, you do! Me sent a copy of
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 09:05 PM
Aug 2023

the Hippo Book to my Granddaughter last year and I bought one for me.

Sorry about your other friends passing on.

This has been really shocking.. more so because we had been PM starting on June 25th about her being in the hospital and home again but feeling "weak".. and then I didn't[ hear anything more after I PMed the last time on July 30th.

I got really worried and sent another card to her home and still nothing until I got a card from her husband telling me she had passed.

Me's hearts she's posted..

💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙

Saoirse9

(3,655 posts)
35. Oh no this is terrible
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 03:13 PM
Aug 2023

what happened? I loved her. I am so sad to learn this.

Rest in peace lovely Me.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
132. I didn't know until she had been in hospital for 10
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 07:40 PM
Aug 2023

days and home again "weak".

These are Me's words in her first PM to me after I contacted her 'cause I hadn't seen her around..


To make a short response, I've been in the hospital for the last 10 days because of a chest xray that showed water on the lung hampering my ability to breathe. So i've been through 10 of tests whiled they stabilized my ability to breathe. They don't actually know what the problem is now even thought it might be liver. THey will have more results in 2 weeks and that might provide clues as to the origin of the illness. So, I'm home, weak but better than I was. I will say, it has been some king of experience but along the way, we've been treated with the most amazing expertise, kindness and generosity. I'm coming out of this part of the illness with an enitirly different head in some says. In an odd way, I'm not sorry. I'll be in touch but that's the story so far.

💛🌻

The last I heard they still didn't know why she was so ill.. thee are Me's hearts she posted in a PM..
💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙

Saoirse9

(3,655 posts)
217. Bless you Cha.
Mon Aug 28, 2023, 04:51 PM
Aug 2023

It helps to know what was happening. Maybe even gives me a little closure, which I needed.

I've known her so long, I guess I thought she would always be there and I took that for granted.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
218. It does help, Saoirse9.. I wish
Mon Aug 28, 2023, 04:59 PM
Aug 2023

I knew more but it doesn't feel right asking her husband now.

It's really nice to meet someone who was also close to Me on DU. I thought of her as always being there too.

💛💜💚💙💖

femmedem

(8,171 posts)
37. I'm so very sorry, Cha.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 03:15 PM
Aug 2023

She will be missed here by many, even though few of us knew her as well as you did.
Thank you for letting us know. Too often DUers disappear, and I fear they have passed but will never be sure.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
98. Mahalo, femmedem
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 05:17 PM
Aug 2023

I hadn't seen her around in awhile so I PM her June 25th. Turns out she had been in the hospital for 10 days.. but she was home then and "weak"..

Me's words..

To make a short response, I've been in the hospital for the last 10 days because of a chest xray that showed water on the lung hampering my ability to breathe. So i've been through 10 of tests whiled they stabilized my ability to breathe. They don't actually know what the problem is now even thought it might be liver.

I will be sending this link to her family in New York so they can know how much she is loved in our Community.

💛💜💚💙💖

Nixie

(16,867 posts)
39. Cha! I'm so sorry about this news! Me was one of my
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 03:18 PM
Aug 2023

favorites. I remember her posts especially from the Hillary campaign era where she came to my attention as a decent and common sense Democrat. She remained a favorite of mine. I’m shocked. 😢

Thanks Cha for posting this. I saw it on the front page and am glad I did because I don’t always check many forums.

And sorry for your loss, Cha. Sounds like you two had a very nice connection. She will be so missed.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
100. Mahalo, Nixie!
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 05:21 PM
Aug 2023

I'm grateful you know Me.. she was the best Hillary Supporter.. you can understand what a Heartbreaking unbearable loss this is for her Family & Friends.

💛💜💚💙💖

PJMcK

(21,755 posts)
40. Very disappointing news
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 03:18 PM
Aug 2023

I'm saddened to hear of Me's passing. May She find peace.

And to peace to you, too, Cha. I feel great empathy for you and Her family and friends.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
101. Mahalo, PJMcK.. It all seems
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 05:26 PM
Aug 2023

so surreal.. and all this outpouring of Love for Me is so Heartwarming.

I'll be sending this link to her family in New York.

💛💜💚💙💖

brer cat

(24,148 posts)
41. This is so sad, Cha, for you and others on DU.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 03:19 PM
Aug 2023

She was a sweet DUer who made life here much better. Please let her family know we share their grief.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
107. I will, brercat.. I'm sending this
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 05:46 PM
Aug 2023

link to her family in New York later today.

Me did make life better here in our DU community.. Mahalo for your kind words of love.

💛💜💚💙💖

Cha

(294,937 posts)
106. I know, emulatorloo.. A world
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 05:42 PM
Aug 2023

without Me in it is heartbreaking.. she would really be grateful for all this outpouring of Love, though.

Mahalo for your Kind words. 💛💜💚💙💖

FailureToCommunicate

(13,931 posts)
126. We mostly have to be satisfied with virtual hugs, Cha, but they are none the less...
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 06:59 PM
Aug 2023

heartfelt...

We'll all smile, a bit, when we think on some funny, kind post of Me's.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
134. Ohh That's a Beautiful Peaceful Meaningful
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 07:44 PM
Aug 2023

photo, FTC.. That's who we are.. Ohana!

Mahalo mui loa.. these are hearts Me left one of her PMs...

💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙

ancianita

(35,616 posts)
49. Oh no. I'm so sorry, Cha
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 03:29 PM
Aug 2023

My heart goes out to you. I remember Me. Thank you for sharing your sweet relationship.

DU family love and hugs to you, dear Cha.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
112. Mahalo ancianita... I
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 06:04 PM
Aug 2023

Thank You from the bottom of my heart for your kind Thoughtful words.

I'm sending this link to her family in New York today so they will know how much she is loved in our community.

💛💜💚💙💖

Cha

(294,937 posts)
117. It's so hard.. I know you know, William..
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 06:14 PM
Aug 2023

Mahalo for your Kind & Thoughtful words.

💛💜💚💙💖

pat_k

(9,313 posts)
56. Condolences to all who knew Me.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 03:39 PM
Aug 2023

What a loss.

All that we love deeply becomes a part of us. All the world is full of suffering. It is also full of overcoming. When it seems that our sorrow is too great to be borne, let us think of the great family of the heavy-hearted into which our grief has given us entrance.
-Helen Keller

Cha

(294,937 posts)
118. Mahalo, pat k.. & for Helen Keller's
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 06:18 PM
Aug 2023

comforting words.

All that we love deeply becomes a part of us. All the world is full of suffering. It is also full of overcoming. When it seems that our sorrow is too great to be borne, let us think of the great family of the heavy-hearted into which our grief has given us entrance.
-Helen Keller

💛💜💚💙💖

livetohike

(22,018 posts)
58. I'm so sorry Cha. May the memories of your friendship
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 03:43 PM
Aug 2023

always make you smile. Sending hugs and love. Rest in Peace Me .

Cha

(294,937 posts)
120. Mahalo for the Sweet words of Love, livetohke
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 06:24 PM
Aug 2023

And Yes.. Rest in Peace Sweet Me..

💛💜💚💙💖

hlthe2b

(101,342 posts)
59. 'Me' was a really lovely person whose posts I always took time to consider
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 03:44 PM
Aug 2023

I am so very sorry to lose her. My sadness is dwarfed by that of those who knew her best, but I send all who came to know her the hope that fond memories will sustain you.

Be at peace, 'Me' Thank you for your kindness to so many on DU.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
137. Mahalo for your kind & Thoughful
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 08:01 PM
Aug 2023

Wishes, hlthe2b.

Me is a Precious Loving Memory in so many Hearts & Minds.

These are Hearts Me posted and I'm passing them on..

💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙

Cha

(294,937 posts)
138. Mahalo UpInArms 🤷‍♀️💕
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 08:07 PM
Aug 2023
💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙

Cha

(294,937 posts)
139. Mahalo, Solly🤷‍♀️💕
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 08:08 PM
Aug 2023

💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙

Cha

(294,937 posts)
140. Mahalo, pants💕🤷‍♀️
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 08:12 PM
Aug 2023

💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙

The yellow and blue hearts are what Me posted in a PM and I'm passing them on.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
141. Mahalo, LMPV... Yes Me Will Be Missed!
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 08:14 PM
Aug 2023

💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙

Me posted these hearts recently & I'm passing them on.

pandr32

(11,369 posts)
68. Much love to you, Cha.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 04:11 PM
Aug 2023

I am so sorry you lost a friend and I am sorry we all lost a community member, too. We need each other.
Hugs all around.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
149. Aloha & Mahalo,, pandr🤷‍♀️💕
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 09:20 PM
Aug 2023
💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙 💛💙

These hearts are from a post of Me's.. passing them on.

BumRushDaShow

(125,905 posts)
70. Oh no.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 04:15 PM
Aug 2023


I hadn't seen her post in awhile (although she didn't post that much as it is).

So sorry to hear this. Hope she crossed gently.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
151. Mahalo, BRDS.. I think she did cross
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 09:26 PM
Aug 2023

gently.

In one of her PMs she said she was surrounded by loved ones and so grateful for it.

That was before I realized how serious it was but I know they were still surrounding her with Love and Support.

💛💜💚💙💖

Cha

(294,937 posts)
153. Mahalo, yobrault1.. There's
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 09:39 PM
Aug 2023

many years of Kindness & compassion to look back on.. I'm still in shock now and I know that will pass because it's happened before.

💛💜💚💙💖

Ilsa

(61,638 posts)
82. I'm so very sorry for your loss, and our loss.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 04:46 PM
Aug 2023

So many brave souls here on DU are aging and passing on. I'm so glad there are many younger DUers to take our place.

Peace to "Me."

Cha

(294,937 posts)
157. So true, Ilsa.. this is what happens
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 09:49 PM
Aug 2023

when the years go by.

Me's been here since 2004 and has left a lot of kindness & love in her path.

And, here we are almost 20 years later.

💛💜💚💙💖

Alliepoo

(2,156 posts)
87. I'm so sorry to hear this sad news.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 04:55 PM
Aug 2023

Rest in Peace, Me. My condolences to you Cha, and to all who loved her. Wishing you all comfort and peace.

riversedge

(69,383 posts)
89. So sad for your close loss Cha. I started to hum
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 05:00 PM
Aug 2023

the ABBA song

Fernado......

'Can you hear the drums Fernado?"....

....

"I could hear the distant drums"........



Peace CHA --this too will get easier. I lost my mom a few months ago-she had a long, busy life with kids, grandkids, greatgrandkids and even 2 great great grandkids. The drums were calling her.....

Cha

(294,937 posts)
160. So Sorry about your Mom, rivers...
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 10:00 PM
Aug 2023

and the comforting words.

I've been through this before, too.. at first and for awhile there's a Major shock to our Systtem and then the shock eases up.. and just beautiful memories but the loss is still there for me anyway.

💛💜💚💙💖

Cha

(294,937 posts)
161. Aww.. she would love this
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 10:06 PM
Aug 2023

thread.. reading all the memories people have of her.

Mahalo,TP Msg & Aloha.. 💛💜💚💙💖

Fla Dem

(23,183 posts)
99. Cha so sorry your good friend and DU companion ME has passed.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 05:18 PM
Aug 2023

It is never easy to say goodbye to someone who has been there for you and you for them. It does leave a hole in your heart.

Cherish the fond memories you have, and they'll never go away.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
165. Mahalo & Sweet Advice, FlaDem
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 10:18 PM
Aug 2023

Me was loved by so many... and all these beautiful posts are making it a lot easier to endure the shock of her sudden passing and I hope for everybody, too.

💛💜💚💙💖

niyad

(111,262 posts)
109. I am so very sorry to hear this. She was a loved and valued member of
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 05:48 PM
Aug 2023

our community, and will be greatly missed. May she cross gently.

highplainsdem

(48,519 posts)
114. {{{{{Cha}}}}} I'm so sorry Me. has crossed over. Condolences to you and all
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 06:08 PM
Aug 2023

her loved ones. She will be missed here.

You know my beliefs, though. I'm sure she's young and healthy again on the other side, reunited with her loved ones who are already there.

I knew I'd seen her post in Music Appreciation, and I just skimmed her messages there and found she loved Al Green. When Glamrock started a thread about Green's best songs five years ago -
https://www.democraticunderground.com/103410967 - she posted the video below.

The first line seems perfect now.

What a beautiful time we had together...




Cha

(294,937 posts)
170. Ohh.. now I'm crying again and
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 10:31 PM
Aug 2023

that's a good thing. I believe it's good for the soul to let it out.

Mahalo so much for the Vid and the link with Me's exchage there with Glamrock on Al Green!

It's Classic Me.. and I shall treasure it, hpd! I will listen to all of them later.. right now I more more replies to tend to.

💛💜💚💙💖

DFW

(53,795 posts)
124. I just saw this
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 06:49 PM
Aug 2023

Trying to sleep off my jet lag.

DU lost one of us, you lost more than just „someone.“

It‘s not easy, there is no consolation, only words and memories. May they last!

Cha

(294,937 posts)
171. Mahalo, DFW... it's been
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 10:34 PM
Aug 2023

really a blessing to be able to talk to people on DU about Me's passing.. so many feel the same way about her.

So Comforting 💛💜💚💙💖

LisaM

(27,716 posts)
125. Thank you for the update. I am really sorry.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 06:53 PM
Aug 2023

Online friends are real friends, and losing them can leave big holes.

LisaM

(27,716 posts)
196. Mahalo.
Mon Aug 28, 2023, 11:10 AM
Aug 2023

I will never forget when the people in the DU Hillary group were basically the only people I could turn to sometimes. Online friends mean a lot.

Silver Gaia

(4,483 posts)
127. I am so very sorry for your loss, Cha.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 07:01 PM
Aug 2023

I have lost online friends, too, and know that the loss is just as real and painful as people you can touch. We are all still REAL people. And it hurts to lose a friend, regardless of the circumstances of the friendship. My heart is with you.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
174. Mahalo & Aloha for your Sweet
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 10:40 PM
Aug 2023

words of Comfort, Silver Gaia🤷?♀️💕 It means a lot. 💛💜💚💙💖

herding cats

(19,530 posts)
128. I'm so deeply sorry to hear this news, Cha!
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 07:14 PM
Aug 2023

She will be deeply missed here and my heart is with you in your time of loss. hug: :

Cha

(294,937 posts)
175. Mahalo, Cat.. Me did madke a
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 11:00 PM
Aug 2023

powerful impact on DU and will be missed by so many who she's engaged over the years.

It does my heart so good to see all these wonderful heartfelt replies.

Won't be able to believe that she's gone for awhile but that's the way my mind works.

Aloha, Sweetheart.. 💛💜💚💙💖

BlueMTexpat

(15,332 posts)
133. So sorry to hear this, Cha!
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 07:42 PM
Aug 2023

We have lost too many good ones these days. Why do the not-so-good seem to thrive?

Cha

(294,937 posts)
178. Mahalo BlueMTexpat 🤷‍♀️💕
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 11:06 PM
Aug 2023

It's just so shocking when you're close to someone who suddenly passes on.

Just takes time but so good to see so many heartfelt replies for Kind Supportive Me. 💛💜💚💙💖

flamingdem

(39,294 posts)
145. Holding a light for Me
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 08:57 PM
Aug 2023

and hugs to you!!!

Glad to know that you're heading to see your family soon Cha

Cha

(294,937 posts)
182. Mahalo, flamingdem.. 🤷‍♀️💕
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 11:13 PM
Aug 2023

Thank You for the Light for Me

Good point about seeing my family Florida soon.
💛💜💚💙💖

MontanaMama

(23,168 posts)
164. Please accept my condolences on the loss of Me.
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 10:12 PM
Aug 2023

Isn’t it amazing how much someone that you’ve never met in person can mean to you? That we can be good friends with a person we’ve never sat next to? I know exactly what you’re talking about. It’s proof that love transcends all.

I’m so sorry to hear Me is gone. May her crossing be gentle. 😔

Cha

(294,937 posts)
184. Mahalo MontanaMama & Yes I
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 11:24 PM
Aug 2023

think about that all the time. It's DU..a lot of us have been on here for a long time with so many kindred spirits.. And, fortunate enough to form lasting friendships.

I think Me's crossing was gentle.. she told me early on about it that she wasn't afraid to die and she had told her family and friends that, too.

That was before I knew how serious it was and didn't think that it would happen for a long time.

💛💜💚💙💖

peggysue2

(10,748 posts)
181. Oh no, Cha
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 11:12 PM
Aug 2023

I'm so sorry. I hadn't seen Me's posts in a while but thought nothing of it. Life gets busy for us all or gets in the way.

What terrible news for you. And for the group at large.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
187. Mahalo, PeggySue.. Yes heartbreaking
Sun Aug 27, 2023, 11:41 PM
Aug 2023

news for all.. I happened to be the one who PM & asked how she was because I hadn't seen her around.

I never expected such serious news that she had been in the hospital because there had been water on her lungs from an Xray.

That was June 25th.. & then we Pm a few times.. and I never heard from her again after my July 30th PM. So I sent another card to her home in Manhattan.. still nothing until her husband sent me a card that I got on August 23rd that she had Passed last Thursday.. It was so heart crushing and shocking.

How's your Granddaughter, Cassandra?

💛💜💚💙💖

peggysue2

(10,748 posts)
192. So hard to hear, Cha
Mon Aug 28, 2023, 08:15 AM
Aug 2023

And how unexpected. It must have been shocking for you. Thank goodness her husband managed to reach out.

As for Cassandra? She's finally on the donor's list after a lot of foot dragging from the insurance company. Their first response was a denial. Once again my daughter-in-law worked the phones demanding a peer-to-peer conference and had the denial turned around. It meant another two-week delay for a situation where time is of the essence. Honestly, I will never understand our screwed-up health system that allows insurance companies to play doctor in life or death situations.

As for Cassandra? She's her smiley-face self, has rebounded from the last round of chemo and is actually coming home while we await a call from the transplant surgeons.

Fingers crossed!

Take care of yourself, girlfriend.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
202. Aloha PeggySue..
Mon Aug 28, 2023, 03:38 PM
Aug 2023

In Me's husband's note he said Mary especially wanted me to get in touch with you to let you know.💕🤷?♀️ She knew.

That's encouraging news about your DIL getting things turned around with the insurance company.. A Miracle!

And, Cassandra being able to be at home while you all wait for the Call.

So gratefl for these important steps🤷?♀️! 💕🤞💕🤞

peggysue2

(10,748 posts)
219. Now you're making me cry, Cha.
Mon Aug 28, 2023, 08:31 PM
Aug 2023

Guess we'll be the crying duet. Aghhhhh. I hate when these things happen. I'm just not good at final endings. But you know, I do hope when my own time comes I have the presence of mind and enough time to reach out to those I've known, cared about and/or respected; there's something about closing the circle as best we can.

As for my DIL, she is the Warrior Advocate for this child. In fact, when I was telling a good friend about the problems, mishaps and general chaos Laura had handled, she said,"You know what? If something happens to me this is who I want going to bat in my behalf. Can I get my name on a list?"

LOL

Pretty impressive though.

Take care, Cha. Thanks for the note, too.

Cha

(294,937 posts)
220. I think crying is good for us when we're sad..
Mon Aug 28, 2023, 08:52 PM
Aug 2023
Many people associate crying with feeling sad and making them feel worse, but in reality, crying can help improve your mood - emotional tears release stress hormones. Your stress level lowers when you cry, which can help you sleep better and strengthen your immune system.Feb 19, 2021

https://www.northstartransitions.com/post/10-benefits-of-crying-for-mental-health#:~:text=Many%20people%20associate%20crying%20with,and%20strengthen%20your%20immune%20system.

Good on Laura.. how fortunate for your whole family for Cassandra to have a Mother who won't take No for an answer.. Gets It Done.. Makes It Happen!

💕🤷?♀️

peggysue2

(10,748 posts)
221. Well, if crying is a virtue . . .
Tue Aug 29, 2023, 08:27 AM
Aug 2023

I have a glide path to the Pearly Gates. LOL.

Saying that, I agree btw--crying, weeping, even shrieking is a mega release. Keeping all those emotions bottled up can kill you. It's also my daughter-in-law's secret power: strong during the day, a couple glasses of wine and tears in the evening.

Keeps the world in balance!

senseandsensibility

(16,384 posts)
198. I am so sorry for your loss
Mon Aug 28, 2023, 01:56 PM
Aug 2023

She sounds like a wonderful friend. I think it's cool that you were able to exchange Christmas cards and Birthday cards. May her memory be a blessing, Cha.

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