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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:03 PM

News of my death are

Not exaggerated. Yesterday I died (as posted by his wife), apparently peacefully and in little to no pain, while sleeping.

On Wednesday, Kirk was given a new pain medication script. Since he was in quite a lot of pain for quite a while, he chose to take the last of his hoarded stash of pain pills that he had received nearly two months prior, when discharged from the long term stay Nursing/rehab facility he had been in for months. He had recently also been experiencing more issues with waking up while sleeping, due to problems breathing, caused by sleep apnea. He had just taken a sleep study which confirmed that he needed a bi-pap, but it would take a week or two (at the time) before they would be able to get the results to a doctor, so that he could get a new machine. It's my opinion that, due to the small amount of pain pills that he took, he became so relaxed (from lack of pain) that he was unable to wake up when he stopped breathing while sleeping. I was dozing in a chair nearby, and thought it strange that it was so quiet. However, I was so tired that I ended up falling back to sleep before investigating. It wasn't until I woke up a second time and it was still too quiet. I became alarmed and checked on him. It was too late, he had been dead too long for emergency personnel to revive him.

I have located a recent video and picture of him, peacefully smiling at me a very special smile that he reserved for me alone. The video was regarding a power chair he was going to return, but it's a voice and image that I can keep forever to remember him by. I still don't know what I'm going to do, but I at least have the comfort of knowing that I can likely get assistance with getting him cremated. A friend of ours has already offered to let me stay with him while I get myself stabilized, so my cats and I have a roof when our rent comes due for July. I hope that Kirk has been helpful to people in this thread, and anyone is welcome to link this to any thread where this would be of interest.

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Systematic Chaos Jun 2015 OP
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Response to Systematic Chaos (Original post)

Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:11 PM

1. Oh, no. I'm so sorry for your loss. Peace and comfort to you.

:hugs:

I posted a link in General Discussion: http://www.democraticunderground.com/10026787131

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:14 PM

2. Condolences. n/t

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:14 PM

3. I am so sorry for your loss ....

Wishing for peace for Kirk

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:15 PM

4. I am sorry for your loss

There are no words.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:17 PM

5. Deepest sympathy

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:20 PM

6. My condolences...

 

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:22 PM

7. RIP, will miss you

 

and condolences to Systematic Chaos's family, may you not know more pain.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:24 PM

8. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:26 PM

9. My heart is with you and yours,.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:27 PM

10. My deepest sympathies.

My own husband passed two weeks ago, so I have a sense of what you are dealing with.

It does get easier - little by little, day by day. Don't be afraid to rely on friends and family, or to ask for help when needed. I have found that my friends are anxious to be of assistance; it is their way of honouring their friendship with him as well.

Peace to you and yours,
--- Nance

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:29 PM

11. I am so sorry for your loss.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:34 PM

12. I am so sorry

 

Wishing you peace and comfort during this difficult time.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:45 PM

14. so sorry for your loss.

RIP
Kirk

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:46 PM

15. condolences. nt

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:47 PM

16. .

 

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:49 PM

17. ((hugs))

Totally wonderful guy. I'm so sorry to hear this.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:52 PM

18. Damn...

 





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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:01 PM

19. I am so sorry for you. May you find peace.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:02 PM

20. I am so very sorry.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:05 PM

21. We should all be so lucky to have our dearest love next to us when we draw breath no more.

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You were right there with him...that must have meant the world to Kirk.

Wishing you some peace and rest in the coming days. Caring for someone so ill takes a hugh toll that only later becomes apparent.

Rest, and know you were loved. DU will miss your dear friend also.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:12 PM

22. I am so sorry for your loss...

 

godspeed Kirk.

Peace to you and all of Kirk's family and friends.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:13 PM

23. ...



Peace for Kirk

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:15 PM

24. I'm so sorry to hear this.

He'd worked so hard on his health for so long. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:18 PM

25. Aww jeez. I'm so sorry.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:21 PM

26. So so sorry

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:21 PM

27. I am sorry for your loss

 

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:24 PM

28. My condolences

I have to say, it's been a rough year for DU members.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:32 PM

29. My deepest sympathies. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I hope you can find peace.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:41 PM

30. Condolences to you and all who loved him.

I'm so sorry for you sudden loss.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:46 PM

31. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:50 PM

32. My sincere condolences.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:54 PM

33. He shall be missed...

...and I'm so sorry Mrs. SC. Please take care.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:58 PM

34. My condolences

Peace to all those that loved him

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 08:59 PM

35. ***

Peace on your journey, Kirk.

And for you, his life partner, thank you for sharing this with us.




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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 09:01 PM

36. I'm so sorry for your loss


My thoughts are with you and your family

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 09:06 PM

37. so very sorry eom

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 09:08 PM

38. I'm so terribly sorry for your loss.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 09:10 PM

39. So very sorry

But if there is a way to help donate toward cremation, I would like to help. I am sure others on DU would as well. My sincere condolences to you.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 09:12 PM

40. I'm so sorry for your loss, Mrs SC

Thank you for letting his friends here know of his passing.

May you be comforted by knowing he is beyond pain now, and may his name be remembered for a blessing.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 09:12 PM

41. So sorry for your loss.

He was one of my favorites here. Rest in peace SC.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 09:25 PM

42. He's not gone... He's just on the other side of the tall grass.

 

The Great Spirit took him by the hand and led him there so he wouldn't have to fear the Journey.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 09:29 PM

43. ...

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 09:44 PM

44. I am so sorry that you lost your husband.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 09:44 PM

45. I am so sorry you have lost your husband, this is a hard thing to deal with.

I am glad you have a friend to help you at this difficult time.

I am glad he was not in pain.

Take care of yourself, :hugs:

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 09:47 PM

46. I'm so sorry for your loss

peace to you and yours.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 09:50 PM

47. Oh no. So very sorry for your loss.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 09:53 PM

48. So very sorry for your loss.

Please accept my condolences at this difficult time.

Please take of yourself and your furry friends.

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 10:16 PM

49. I am so saddened to hear this...

I have a good understanding of what you said, and it breaks my heart. May you be held by family and given comfort.

My condolences to you and all your family.

MMM

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Fri Jun 5, 2015, 10:36 PM

50. Wishes of peace

to the family of Systematic Chaos...

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 07:15 AM

51. So very sorry. n/t

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 07:48 AM

52. He was a good bloke. My condolences to you and yr family....

He used to play Rocksmith too, and I'd added him on x-box live. I don't think he liked the same music as me, though, from what I could see of the songs he was doing...

RIP Kirk

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 08:16 AM

53. I am so sorry for your loss.

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 08:54 AM

54. I'm so sorry

My condolences

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 09:04 AM

55. Although I did not know your Husband

my heart felt condolences go out to you and all of those that loved him.

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 09:06 AM

56. ((Systematic Chaos))

Peace to you, dear sir.

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 09:15 AM

57. Oh no ... I was wondering where Kirk was. Such a good friend

and I enjoyed talking to him so much.

Jeanette, I am so very sorry for your loss. You and Kirk endured so much together and through it all you loved one another so much.
Kirk was a font of knowledge and tried so hard to get healthy it just wasn't meant to be I guess?

Please do take care of yourself and message me anytime you want to chat.
I'm here.

My deepest sympathy and condolences for your loss and ours.

kesha.

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 09:19 AM

58. Terrible news.

My condolences.

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 09:20 AM

59. i'm so sorry for your loss.

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 09:30 AM

60. Sorry for your loss.

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 09:41 AM

61. this news came as a complete surprise to me this morning

While I knew he was in a great deal of pain recently, and had struggled with health issues over the years, I had no idea of this recent turn of events. My heart goes out to you while you are sorting out the myriad of issues and emotions that come with losing someone so precious. He was a very dear friend to me here on DU, as we were mods together for many terms. We also participated in several groups together here on DU and would PM one another, giving one another encouragement in our individual battles with weight. He was always someone who inspired me to stick to it, whatever the battle was. Life had presented him so many challenges, and he always seemed to rise above them, and yet deal with them head on.

His love for you J, was always evident and he felt so blessed by your presence in his life. He was very open about sharing how much joy and happiness and strength you brought to him. He seemed to be a caring and loving man, and I know he treasured your relationship. My heart breaks for you and this loss. Please know that you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers in this difficult time. I'm sending you LOTS of hugs.....

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 10:26 AM

62. My deepest sympathy

I am happy that you have a good friend to help you.

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 10:31 AM

63. Please accept my condolences. n/t

 

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 10:41 AM

64. Will be missed RIP

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 11:24 AM

65. requiescat in pace, kirk, and may there be peace and comfort for all your loved ones.

my deepest sympathies on your loss.

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 11:45 AM

66. Our deepest condolences so sorry

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 12:00 PM

67. My deepest condolences, that is terrible to hear.

I hope that you are receiving the love and support you need from family and friends.

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 12:23 PM

68. So sorry to hear this. My deepest condolences.

I'm so sorry to hear this. Dear Systematic Chaos. All our love. And to his wife - thank you for sharing this most difficult and heart-rending moment of yours with us. You do not mourn alone.

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 12:42 PM

69. I've watched a lot of death go by in others and have learned to appreciate when they

 

don't have to suffer.

You have our thoughts tonight. And I am really glad you have that video as a reminder.

Take care of yourself. And the cats.

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 01:15 PM

70. ........

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 01:37 PM

71. ...

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 02:34 PM

72. I am so sorry to hear this. n/t

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 02:48 PM

73. You have my deepest sympathies. nt

 

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 03:17 PM

74. I am so sorry. that is small comfort but know its true. I

send you all the love I have. Time is your friend. Nothing else will help. Please take care and know you and Kirk are so loved.

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 04:12 PM

75. I'm so very sorry.

 



Kirk/Systematic Chaos ...

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 04:44 PM

76. My best to his family and friends.

 

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Sat Jun 6, 2015, 05:30 PM

77. So sorry for your loss.

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