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(11,030 posts)
Wed Feb 21, 2024, 12:23 PM Feb 2024

Whoa. Reached out to sisters former lover

ATH, she's violent as fuck, assaulted him, tried to drive them into an 18-wheeler to kill him, tried to drive over his lawn into his house, cut up screens to the point cops said he could press charges, AND was verbally harassing ANOTHER man she dated before , driving by his house with my minor niece screaming profanities. Holy shit.

Assaulted this lover, bad domestic scene, hoarding, shopaholism with items thrown into the garage not being used. Holy shit. Was banging on lovers door glass screaming to break it. Lovers frail mother started screaming at her and said she was going to beat sister with her cane.

That shed totally use me for money

ETA in an expensive gated community

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Whoa. Reached out to sisters former lover (Original Post) XanaDUer2 Feb 2024 OP
She needs medication.... Karadeniz Feb 2024 #1
Shes on a ton of meds XanaDUer2 Feb 2024 #2
I do my best to avoid drama multigraincracker Feb 2024 #3
Wow, so scary. Can she be 5150'd or Baker Acted? nt LoisB Feb 2024 #4
i wd bet yes. mopinko Feb 2024 #5
Ya know XanaDUer2 Feb 2024 #6
I'm not near her XanaDUer2 Feb 2024 #7
Let us hope she STAYS 500 miles away from you. LoisB Feb 2024 #8
Is there a reason the lover is not calling the police.? Someone should. debm55 Mar 2 #9
He told me he didn't want XanaDUer2 Mar 2 #10
PS they broke up yrs ago XanaDUer2 Mar 2 #11
Sorry about that. OldBaldy1701E Mar 2 #12


(11,030 posts)
2. Shes on a ton of meds
Wed Feb 21, 2024, 12:42 PM
Feb 2024

Including painkillers. Other sketchy stuff. If its personality disorder, meds won't help. Scary


(32,859 posts)
3. I do my best to avoid drama
Wed Feb 21, 2024, 02:26 PM
Feb 2024

I look at my watch and say “I’m late got to go”. I do that all of the time and it works for me.


(11,030 posts)
6. Ya know
Wed Feb 21, 2024, 03:02 PM
Feb 2024

I wonder if she has been. She wouldn't ever share that with me. When she's explaining a screw up to me, its in, what I call "word salad". Narcissists do it to confuse and deflect.

God knows. He told me keep geographically away bc she unstable and violent. This has been a gut punch to me. Disturbing as Hell. She's now sitting alone in her town home. Having some run ins with HOA people, as usual. She did have a friend visit. No idea her interactions with local neighbors i already have anxiety.


(11,030 posts)
7. I'm not near her
Wed Feb 21, 2024, 03:09 PM
Feb 2024

And cut off contact finally due to increasing criticism, aggression, bossiness, telling me how to handle my medical/dental issues "go cheap" and wanting me to co-sign a large, high-interest loan. She's 500 miles away, but was talking about moving up here on and off. She needed $5000 for a PODS. not my problem


(11,030 posts)
10. He told me he didn't want
Sat Mar 2, 2024, 04:49 PM
Mar 2

To tangle with her and told the cops just get her off the property. She has a gun and is a "loose cannon". The other man was so scared, hed drive around the long way to avoid driving by her house. Still no contact


(11,030 posts)
11. PS they broke up yrs ago
Sat Mar 2, 2024, 04:59 PM
Mar 2

I reached out bc he's the only person whos also dealt with her abuse. I wanted a reality check

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