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(11,557 posts)
Mon Mar 4, 2013, 10:56 AM Mar 2013

Open letter to my President

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Dear Mr. President,

How was your weekend? Shall I tell you about mine? It was spent getting my 92-year-old mother-in-law settled in the new digs at the Friend’s Home. She has just enough income to cover her one spare room. Want to know a secret? If chained CPI for SS were currently in place, she would not be able to afford this “luxury”.

While helping her move my husband and I slept on the floor of our son’s rented home. My son and daughter-in-law work seven days a week in their dry-cleaning business. A couple of years ago they sold their home in hopes of buying something a little bigger… three bedrooms instead of two, to fit their growing family. That’s when the market crashed and suddenly, they were not able to get a loan. So, they are renting. Recently, my daughter-in law’s mother moved in with them since her job as a mortgage broker dried up and she went broke. Next week she will go into the hospital for a knee replacement and will recuperate on the kid’s couch while her geriatric gentleman friend (also in poor health) takes her room in order to nurse her back to health. Good times.

My parents are both suffering a variety of ailments that have them constantly in and out of hospitals and I know soon, I will have to deal with their future housing. They are 80 and 85- SS is a big part of their independence. With chained CPI in place they would be running through their savings at an Olympic pace.

When our parents die, they will likely leave very little in inheritance, even though they all worked solid jobs in aeronautics, library science, and retail management. They did not live lavish lifestyles. They just never calculated that living to a ripe old age would impoverish them and their children in turn. Inheritance is what created the middle class and the end of inheritance will wipe it out. Chained CPI means the longer you live the less you get, and likely you will deplete your savings chasing immortality through the miracles of modern science. I am already living that reality.

You often talk about the need for fairness and that everyone should have “Skin in the game”. Let’s explore this notion.
Five years ago, exactly two weeks after the economy hit the fan, my husband was made an offer he could not refuse… take a one third cut in salary or hit the bricks. He stayed. There are no jobs for men over 55 unless, of course, you are already at the top of the corporate ladder or in Government, in which case one can apparently fail upwards indefinitely. I am an artist of some little note with two published books under my belt and a wall full of awards. Last year was stellar for me. I made
$12,000.00 selling art. That is the most I’ve made in over ten years, Whoo-hoo. We are hanging on by our fingertips, but at least we can still feel them. My husband’s sister is not so lucky. In January 2009 her husband murdered her with a single bullet to the head as she slept. He then turned the gun on himself. They were facing foreclosure on their home. They were both highly educated. He had a masters degree from Stamford and worked for the State of California in Minority Contracting. She was okay with the coming change to their lifestyle; he could not handle it and took matters into his own hands. Most of their friends were in DC attending your first Inauguration when the tragedy occurred and we postponed the funeral to accommodate their travel home. So, I guess what I’m saying is that I think I already have enough “Skin in the game.” I don’t feel the need to peel off any more.

Mr. President. I’m certain you think that getting a GRAND BARGAIN is going to enhance your legacy. I am here to ask,
for whom is this “Grand” and for whom is this a “Bargain”? I am a fan. I never stopped defending you during this last election cycle. I am done.

The Republicans may hold that gun to the head of the middle class and they may have loaded the chambers, but it is your finger on the trigger.

Will you be playing golf next weekend? Have fun.

Your Pal,

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Open letter to my President (Original Post) Zoonart Mar 2013 OP
Mr. President, Barack Obama: Please read this letter. raging moderate Mar 2013 #1
I hope he reads your letter CountAllVotes Mar 2013 #2
Thanks for your support Zoonart Mar 2013 #3
Glad to be of some support CountAllVotes Mar 2013 #4
don't forget to enclose a check nt msongs Mar 2013 #5
well ain't that the truth!!! CountAllVotes Mar 2013 #6
Sorry, you're not welcome in our group.. Our Mission Statement.. Cha Mar 2013 #7

raging moderate

(4,243 posts)
1. Mr. President, Barack Obama: Please read this letter.
Mon Mar 4, 2013, 11:10 AM
Mar 2013

This is really true. Please don't give in to those monsters.


(20,834 posts)
2. I hope he reads your letter
Mon Mar 4, 2013, 11:21 AM
Mar 2013

It is concise and to the point.

Very sad to read about your two relatives that are now DEAD because of all of this financial crap that has been coming down. It is doing me and most other people out there no good at all.

I have no more "skin" to put into this sicko game either!

Good for you and as I say, I hope he reads your letter.

When I wrote to him I got a robo letter that was certainly not from him (I hope).

& recommend!!


(11,557 posts)
3. Thanks for your support
Mon Mar 4, 2013, 12:51 PM
Mar 2013

The wonderful thing about DU is that when you just feel that you need someone to talk to, DUe-rs are always there for you. Loosing my husband's sister and brother-in-law in January of 2009 was really heartbreaking. The local detective who secured the crime scene told my hubby and I that their case was one of four Murder-suicides that had occurred in Alameda, CA within a two week span.

One conversation you don't hear much is about the relationship between gun ownership and murder suicide when the parties are going through economic hardship. I think women are more easily adaptable when it comes to loosing something like a house. Many women feel they can feather a new nest elsewhere. For men, it is totally emasculating. They connect the ideal of homeownership as the fulfillment of their ability to protect and care for loved ones. When that is threatened they spiral down into despair. They despair and they pick up the gun.


(20,834 posts)
4. Glad to be of some support
Mon Mar 4, 2013, 01:03 PM
Mar 2013

and yes, I hear you re: the gun issue.

I don't think anyone should have a gun around if they are depressed or if they have others in the household that are having similar or other psychological/psychiatric problems. Also, this applies to having children in the house as well.

No matter how well Daddy hides his piece, that kid will always find that gun if it wants to do so.

I was a kid at one time too and I could always find things "hidden" from me.

As for the rest of it, I'm not sure that it would be so much a woman v. a man issue.

If it were me that this happened to, I'd be the one to take it hard as I am and always have been the main supporter of this household. My husband never really latched on to a good job of any sorts and now he is on SS. He receives a whopping $450.00 a month and is a veteran, something that I believe scarred him for life, hence the fact that he never got a great job. I think he has PTSD by don't tell any one about it.

So sick of this "generation" that never wants to "talk" about "things". They just crumble away in the corner while people like myself carry the load for them if they are lucky enough to find an idiot like me to do it for them.

I'm doing God's work some say.

I say fuck that and give the person what they need to live on instead of having to hope to hell that they don't end up with zero in the end which is indeed my own fear.


(66,979 posts)
5. don't forget to enclose a check nt
Mon Mar 4, 2013, 01:12 PM
Mar 2013


(20,834 posts)
6. well ain't that the truth!!!
Mon Mar 4, 2013, 02:00 PM
Mar 2013


(294,473 posts)
7. Sorry, you're not welcome in our group.. Our Mission Statement..
Mon Mar 4, 2013, 02:22 PM
Mar 2013
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