Two evenings ago,
I shaved off my goetee which was the result of a short-lived full beard that I had not quite twenty years ago. I left the mustache that I have had for 30+ years. There was a little too much gray showing and I just shaved it to see what I looked like. My wife did not notice the change for about two hours that evening (should I let that bother me?) Finally, she said "holy shit, what did you do? I told her I thought the goatee was making me look old. She said she liked the way I looked with the hairy chin.
Tonight I double-downed. I shaved off the mustache. I grew that shortly after we began dating. The kids had never seen me clean shaven. Apparently, the shock was enough so that I was ordered to get rid of my razors TFN. (I forgot about the scar on my chin from a football injury.)
My dad did something similar when he was a bit older than me. I was feeling nostalgic. I can always grow it back. (I hope it does not come back with even more gray. Shit, I should have thought of that.)
And apparently I didn't notice for 24 hours. He handed me an envelope and it was inside. That's when I noticed. Maybe that's why we're no longer married...
There must have some other things going on between the two of you. It would not have occurred to me to save the disgusting whiskers from when I shaved. (My wife has never saved her 'whiskers' either.)
So far, we're all good, as long as I stop shaving for a while. (For some reason, the daughter was particularly bothered. She sometimes overthinks things.)