Coming out.
My significant other died last month. 30 years.
Coming out as a lesbian was not easy for me. My parents, who I love, were very hurtful and judgmental about it. They still seem very ashamed of me. They offered, and offer, no support whatsoever. Your typical MAGA, conservative Catholics. They have pretty much ghosted themselves from my world. That totally sucks. And the death of my loved one sucks. One day, far too late in my life, I came to the realization that I need to be who I am. I probably went a little over the top with being so visible about it. Anti-war demonstrations, pro-choice events, gay pride - I was, and still am, totally invested in these issues. To anyone thinking of coming out, please do. It can be difficult and hard but, ultimately, it is very liberating.
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I had that happen in 2004 and I still think about her every day, and dream about her so often.
Your parents should be embarrassed about shunning you, and when their nasty tempered Catholic God calls them to account for their un-christian behavior, they will finally "get it".
I had 3 NDE's for a total of 45 minutes on August 7 1998 and can boldly say that they're going to be surprised to find just who God is. Even Jesus said not to be holier than thou & hung out, (as a homeless man who was an undocumented alien as a babe in arms with his mom and step-pappy), with what was perceived to be the "scum" of the Earth. 
From my perspective, you can never be over the top being who you are. You are allowed to exist and take up space. I'm thinking of you. I know these are hard hard days. 
You enjoyed thirty years of living life with the one that you loved. That is wonderful despite your parents attitude.
Blessing to you.
You have people here who care about you.
… and my your loved one’s name be a blessing. 
I'm sorry to hear about your loss, Kath2.
When my daughter came out, she had my full support. Her father kept texting me and was complaining about it. I basically said, "Put your big boys pants on, accept it and support our daughter."
It shut him up about it.
❤️
Whether we're gay or straight, we're WITH YA!!!
all your losses.
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It is so disheartening to hear how your own parents have shut you out of their lives.
I hope in the days, weeks and years ahead you will find peace and loving support from others who are or will be in your life.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
May you, in time, find peace and comfort in your memorie. I so admire your strength, and support you in being true to yourself.
Condolences on the loss of your life partner.
I am sorry for your loss and the way your family is treating you. I grew up Catholic and was initially disowned for being a lesbian.
My wife and I have been together for 30 years and I can’t imagine the pain of your loss. Combine that with your parent’s behavior and it could be devastating. Your strength is amazing! Keep standing tall and know that we are with you.
comfort you and bring smiles. May your SO rest in peace.
I'm sorry your family wasn't more supportive but you're right you have to be true to yourself.
yup coming out is hard . my mum knew all the way along. i didnt tell my right wing wacko dad at all.
May the memories of time spent together give some comfort to you in the coming months. Try to take a few minutes each day for a breather from the stressors; a walk, some music, quiet reflection, let the tears flow, whatever works for you.
