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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsWhat has someone borrowed from you and never returned? I had money borrowed, Will never do that
again. Books, clothes, money, tools. etc.
PJMcK
(22,110 posts)I've lost several friends because they didn't honor my generosity.
It won't stop me from helping people in the future. Just not those people who failed to account to me.
debm55
(25,797 posts)still you are a helpful person.
WhiteTara
(29,742 posts)634-5789
(4,175 posts)Historic NY
(37,469 posts)I might help out but I am not loaning.
lapfog_1
(29,251 posts)and some dishes that had the baked goods I sometimes give away... but I don't mind them keeping the dish.
KarenS
(4,117 posts)pretty but unmatched plates or bowls just for the purposed of making others food.
I thought that was a clever idea.
debm55
(25,797 posts)BlueWaveNeverEnd
(8,254 posts)taken with malice.
debm55
(25,797 posts)care. Some times the good stuff was returned, sometimes not.
ItsjustMe
(11,293 posts)and the list goes on and on.
Ziggysmom
(3,444 posts)debm55
(25,797 posts)sinkingfeeling
(51,514 posts)EYESORE 9001
(26,061 posts)The book was When Bad Things Happen to Good People, which seems serendipitous.
debm55
(25,797 posts)KarenS
(4,117 posts)we give money. Some of our kids 'borrowed' money and I felt really judgy about their lifestyles etc,,,, so now we give it,,,, it's easier on me that way,,,,
Eko
(7,437 posts)crud
(632 posts)He accidentally drowned that night. He was buried with it on his wrist. So just sad all around. I was 17 at the time. I don't think I have ever loaned a watch to anyone else.
debm55
(25,797 posts)BlueWaveNeverEnd
(8,254 posts)multigraincracker
(32,807 posts)I will say I dont make loans, but Ill gift you $10.
Saves me money and friends.
debm55
(25,797 posts)multigraincracker
(32,807 posts)Now they need $10 less. I've found most won't take the 10 and look else where..
Another way if they really want it and will pay it back, I'll ask if I can hold that 14K ring until they pay me back.
Ptah
(33,062 posts)debm55
(25,797 posts)Ptah
(33,062 posts)debm55
(25,797 posts)Phentex
(16,334 posts)I had a friend who would borrow it, return it, borrow it, return it but then one time never returned it. I figured she needed it more than I did. And then she moved before I could ask what happened to it. I am not sure why I had one but every once in a while it comes up and my husband will say "We used to have a staple gun..."
debm55
(25,797 posts)patio furniture instead of sewing.
kimbutgar
(21,323 posts)And she never did but I was ok with it because she was living in a homeless shelter and really down on her luck. She was diagnosed with cancer a while later which she survived but basically cant work anymore and is on social security disability and other social services. Luckily I could afford it.
And my husbands nephew wanted us to co-sign on a loan of $60,000 to attend an airline pilot school and I vehemently was against it and it almost jeopardized my marriage but eventually my husband agreed with me but it caused a minor rift with his sister. The nephew ended up getting his pilots license while working at a pilot training school. He now flies for a commuter airline working to get hours to fly a major carrier.
debm55
(25,797 posts)lpbk2713
(42,785 posts)When I asked about them after much time had passed, I got "what jumper cables?".
I wrote it off as a lesson learned.
debm55
(25,797 posts)piano recital. I just assumed she forgot to return it. One day I went to my friend's house and there was the dress in the trash heap. The side was riped. I asked my friend about it and she gave me a runaround answer. Never loaned her anything again. I just wished she would have been honest with me when it happened.
Wounded Bear
(58,828 posts)it was probably worth it.
debm55
(25,797 posts)Brother Buzz
(36,523 posts)then return it.
debm55
(25,797 posts)Mr.Bill
(24,394 posts)when ever I loan him something, it was a gift.
ProfessorGAC
(65,577 posts)It was 5 or 6 hundred, so not huge but not trivial. Guy got arrested for stalking his ex-wife, so it's probably best we didn't see him ever again.
The musical instrument was a Korg that simulated a Hammond B-3.
Guy in corporate analytical borrowed it for recording. Had it a couple months.
I went to England, and when I got back I heard he left the company for a job in a different state. Never heard from him again.
OilemFirchen
(7,143 posts)Loaned it to a friend - local jazz guitarist. It had the most amazing action and tone, especially for a cheap guitar - so much so that it became his go-to for about five years. Finally got it back and, in the midst of a move, stored it in another friend's church, where it got "lost". Up his nose, I've always assumed.
I miss that axe bad.
niyad
(114,180 posts)were to give money, I would understand that it was a gift.
debm55
(25,797 posts)BlueWaveNeverEnd
(8,254 posts)don't do loans
BlueWaveNeverEnd
(8,254 posts)BlueWaveNeverEnd
(8,254 posts)debm55
(25,797 posts)Last edited Thu Apr 20, 2023, 09:11 AM - Edit history (1)
break them. My neighbor had a power painter, We didn't ask to borrow as we would be responsible for it if broken. So we painted our white picket fence by hand in July.My thing is if I don't have the money for it, I don't need it. I don't need a 100 watch when a cheaper one will do. Just me though. We have let us others borrow. But we don't. Only thing we every borrowed was money for the house and our cars. And I might forget about giving it back. Which I would hate to do.
LudwigPastorius
(9,312 posts)He was one of those guys who said, "Yeah...I'm pretty sure I gave them back to you."
I learned my lesson, at least, and only loaned out copies of rare music after that.
debm55
(25,797 posts)wasn't honest with me. I would have understood that the dress ripped and she felt the need to through it away. I could have fixed it. But my friend was like that --always talked poor, but spent bought things at Tiffany's, Sax, and Neiman Marcus.
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