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Demovictory9

(32,647 posts)
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 03:58 AM Aug 2021

when dropping someone off at night, do you wait for them to get inside before driving off?

https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/lifestyle-buzz/i-am-ghosting-woman-shares-video-of-red-flag-when-date-is-dropping-her-off-at-home/ar-AANTPuE?ocid=msedgntp

A woman's doorbell camera captured her date driving away before she got inside her house. She called it the "red flag number two" of the evening and pledged to ghost him.


The woman shared a video of the "red flag" to her TikTok account, @Jadealyzaee, on Saturday, and it's been viewed 6.7 million times and liked 1.2 million times since.

"Red flag number 2, I am ghosting," she can be heard saying in the video.

The video sparked discussion in the comments section about what could happen if someone leaves before their date gets into their home safely, as well as other red flags.

Some were just as floored that her date failed to wait for her to get inside, with some noting they do for anyone they're driving home late at night. "Some of y'all's parents didn't raise you properly," a commenter wrote. "You always wait for the person to get into the house regardless of who it is."

"I even wait for my homies to get inside," another said
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yes, for both genders
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yes, for females only
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when dropping someone off at night, do you wait for them to get inside before driving off? (Original Post) Demovictory9 Aug 2021 OP
My parents taught me that's what to do. n/t Mister Ed Aug 2021 #1
I usually drop them off. smirkymonkey Aug 2021 #2
It seems rude to just drive off. IcyPeas Aug 2021 #3
Suppose their key breaks in the lock? More than rude. Dangerous to person left on the door step Bernardo de La Paz Aug 2021 #8
Always yonder Aug 2021 #4
Of course... Mike Nelson Aug 2021 #5
or maybe you are dropping off multiple people at the same location Demovictory9 Aug 2021 #9
A buddy with a drinking problem almost died from hypothermia because of that. Another brewens Aug 2021 #6
he is lucky... others have died in their own yards on a cold night Demovictory9 Aug 2021 #10
YES! Buckeye_Democrat Aug 2021 #7
Her date did not walk her to the door? Sherman A1 Aug 2021 #11
There went an hour going down the TikTok rabbit hole. Geez. rainin Aug 2021 #12
I voted No Tbear Aug 2021 #13
Have to be honest, never waited for a dude. Jon King Aug 2021 #14
I wait until the body sinks completely into the creek before leaving Effete Snob Aug 2021 #15
Driving off like that tells you a lot about a person. madaboutharry Aug 2021 #16
Yes, but also in the day time as well. Fla Dem Aug 2021 #17
On the rare occasion when I don't actually walk them to the front door? Yes. Aristus Aug 2021 #18
 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
2. I usually drop them off.
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 04:16 AM
Aug 2021

Run over them, back up over them again for good measure, and then peel out so that I look really cool driving off.

I like to make an impression on my dates.

Bernardo de La Paz

(49,328 posts)
8. Suppose their key breaks in the lock? More than rude. Dangerous to person left on the door step
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 05:38 AM
Aug 2021

They might be mugged before they can call somebody inside, if there even is somebody inside.

Mike Nelson

(10,054 posts)
5. Of course...
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 04:44 AM
Aug 2021

... anyone. Unless there is some other reason (you can't see the door and they're gonna call you, for example). If not, you don't really like the person. This woman's date probably decided that was the last date. Maybe she raved about The Donald during dinner.

brewens

(13,893 posts)
6. A buddy with a drinking problem almost died from hypothermia because of that. Another
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 05:13 AM
Aug 2021

buddy bartender used to look out for him. He and his wife ran the place we liked to drink at the most. Charlie would be getting too drunk an Brad the bartender would trade him one last drink for his keys.

That was the deal one Halloween about 25 years ago. Brad drove Charlies car home and his wife followed. They got him home and as soon as they drive off, Charlie falls and hits his head. It's a chilly rainy night too. I live about half a mile away and about four AM, I hear this knocking and yelling my name, "please let me in!" I open the door and he's shaking so hard he can barely stand.

I wonder how close he came? He had to have been out for about an hour from what Brad said. The dude thought he was going to make it to work later (at the liquor store of all places) but couldn't make it.

Buckeye_Democrat

(14,881 posts)
7. YES!
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 05:22 AM
Aug 2021

Especially after I was dropped off at my home by a friend's mother when I was a kid, who had took me to a public swimming pool with them, and I realized the doors were locked and my parents weren't home. I just waited on the porch for about an hour, so it wasn't really a big deal. But my annoyance over their apparent miscommunication, and the friend's mother quickly leaving after letting me out of the car, taught me to always wait until the person actually gets inside their residence.

Sherman A1

(38,958 posts)
11. Her date did not walk her to the door?
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 06:15 AM
Aug 2021

Just dropped her off? Yeah, that is a definite drop him like a rock 🪨 moment.

Tbear

(488 posts)
13. I voted No
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 06:51 AM
Aug 2021

Because one does not merely wait in the car for their date to safely go inside. A gentleman will get their ass out of the car and escort their date to the door and see them in.

How else do you get a good night smooch / hug / handshake?

Jon King

(1,910 posts)
14. Have to be honest, never waited for a dude.
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 07:01 AM
Aug 2021

Thinking back since the day I got my license the day after my 16th birthday....girls and ladies, always held the door and afterwards walked them to their door. Boys and men, never held a door open, after hanging out they just got out of the car on their own, later dude, see you.

Not saying it was right, but thinking back, it was what it was.

 

Effete Snob

(8,387 posts)
15. I wait until the body sinks completely into the creek before leaving
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 07:46 AM
Aug 2021

Just kidding.

I go to the door with them. Then, I go inside, look around, check all the rooms and closets, see what’s inside the drawers and the refrigerator, and then I’ll pop over to the neighbors to ask a few questions about anything they may have seen lately.

madaboutharry

(40,285 posts)
16. Driving off like that tells you a lot about a person.
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 07:58 AM
Aug 2021

They are thoughtless. This is how they are in the world and they will behave thoughtlessly in other situations as well.

“What you see is what you get, and what you get is the way it’s going to be.”

Fla Dem

(24,298 posts)
17. Yes, but also in the day time as well.
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 10:12 AM
Aug 2021

Live in a relatively safe area, but I just like to make sure they got in the house ok. I know, they come in and out all the time without my concern, I guess that's just the way I am.

Aristus

(66,864 posts)
18. On the rare occasion when I don't actually walk them to the front door? Yes.
Tue Aug 31, 2021, 10:51 AM
Aug 2021

Courtesy, after all, is courtesy.

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