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(12,629 posts)
Fri Jul 16, 2021, 04:59 PM Jul 2021

Somewhat serious - how long does it typically take...

To correct a social security/ birth certificate discrepancy?
Background - slacker soon to be ex-son in law's parents did not coordinate when they signed him up for a social security number. The birth certificate had a hyphenated maternal/paternal last name, and his father's parents took guardianship of him immediately, didn't use the birth certificate but used his hospital discharge papers with the paternal last name only to get his SSN. He was able to get through 26 years of school and get a driver's licence and jobs (mostly under the table) without presenting his birth certificate.
He says he tried getting a Real ID when he let his drivers license renewal lapse for a year, and the system finally caught up with him. His DL and SSN are now flagged and he can't use either, or file his taxes (would be for the first time in his life), or get a job, or as he finally admitted, a COVID shot, even though he still has his expired DL and his old SSN card, and I know people who got shots with expired licences.

Supposedly, he put in the paperwork for the official name change on the BC last November, got the updated BC in January and now he says he's filed to the name change with the Government back in February and is just waiting on Social Security to update his file or something like that to get the SSN flag taken off.

I don't think name changes at Social Security takes that long, and the whole SSN flag issue seems suspicious. AKA changes and Marriage name changes don't take 6 months or longer, nor have I ever heard of someone being flagged when they're in the middle of such name changes.

Since his whole family are well-off GOP/Trumper types with a nasty streak of "laws don't apply to us" (i.e., Orange County Republicans), I suspect the entire story is a lie, and he's just being the sorry slacker his family raised and never put in any paperwork.
So I'm asking, is 6 months a legit amount of time to wait on a name change reconciliation with Social Security?

Would someone's SSN be flagged and unable to be used just trying to get a driver's license renewal? When spouse's DL expired and he waited too long, they gave him a choice between regular old DL or a RealID, and didn't make a fuss about his documents.


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Somewhat serious - how long does it typically take... (Original Post) haele Jul 2021 OP
I'm calling bs on the original SSN flag. Phoenix61 Jul 2021 #1
My thoughts exactly. haele Jul 2021 #3
Oh, man. What a mess. He's lost out on years of contributing to... brush Jul 2021 #2


(16,991 posts)
1. I'm calling bs on the original SSN flag.
Fri Jul 16, 2021, 05:11 PM
Jul 2021

DL isn’t going to talk to the SSN office and neither is the bureau of vital statistics. From what I’ve read it looks like you have to apply for a name change in person. I have no idea what covid did to that whole process but 6 months seems extreme. I didn’t see anything about it being “flagged” during the process.


(12,629 posts)
3. My thoughts exactly.
Fri Jul 16, 2021, 05:51 PM
Jul 2021

He had a good groundskeeper job for about 14 months at a tourist venue before COVID, they laid him off, and not only did he collect EU, he got the federal and state add-on for 6 months. Now he's living rent free in one of his family's many "condos" they live off, pretty much feeling sorry for himself because the birth certificate thing has ruined his ability to get a job.

Which I question because of the previous job he had for around 14 months.
But he probably played his bro and white privilege cards, as his high school buddy got him that job; now that buddy is no longer there, he has to actually produce paperwork.

It's sad, he was a basic good but clueless kid when he got together with the kidlet in her senior year
But over the years, he seems to have inherited his paternal family's easy comfort to go to gaslight or grift when faced with unpleasantness.



(53,724 posts)
2. Oh, man. What a mess. He's lost out on years of contributing to...
Fri Jul 16, 2021, 05:19 PM
Jul 2021

(FICA) deductions himself and having them matched by his employer, which determine his Medicare and Social Security benefits when he reaches retirement age.

He needs to gather all the birth documents...hospital records, birth certificate, everything he can find an make an appointment with the closest Social Security office to sit down with a rep there to get it straightened out so he can start accruing benefit points or he many never be able to get Medicare of Social Security checks when the time comes. It seems he's lost time but he needs to legitimately on record asap to start accruing.

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