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My family is in the midst of a crisis.
We lost mom to COVID-19 and cancer in November. Yesterday, my father travelled from Chicago to St. Louis, he flew in and it was the first time he did anything since mom's passing. Just over an hour ago, I received a frantic phone call from my sister that dad was having symptoms of a stroke.
He is being hospitalized and is alert, but slurred and showing signs of a left side stroke - loss of strength, garbled speech. The h
I am not religious in any way, but I need calming warm thoughts to be able to hold this together right now...
Hugh_Lebowski
(33,643 posts)It's going to be okay
Wicked Blue
(5,832 posts)sprinkleeninow
(20,246 posts)➕Peace be to you and your loved ones.➕
dixiechiken1
(2,113 posts)You are going through an awful lot. May you and your family find strength to persevere.
leftieNanner
(15,084 posts)They key with surviving a stroke is getting medical treatment ASAP! Sounds like your sister did just that.
Sending healing vibes to you Moostache.
spooky3
(34,445 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)I wish the best for your father and hope he recovers soon.
japple
(9,824 posts)Blessings and healing to your father. May you weather this storm together.
Habibi
(3,598 posts)To your family, as well.
Useless in FL
(329 posts)Hopefully he reached the hospital in time for help .... Please be hopeful and support him!
Karadeniz
(22,513 posts)Nevilledog
(51,094 posts)alittlelark
(18,890 posts)niyad
(113,293 posts)Your DU family is here for you. Lean as hard as you need.
KatK
(185 posts)femmedem
(8,201 posts)One of our best volunteers where I work made a nearly full recovery from a stroke. His writing needs proofreading because he'll sometimes choose a phonetically similar word to the one he wanted, but he is living a full, creative life as an architect and photographer. I hope your dad's recovery goes as well.
Stuart G
(38,421 posts)ms liberty
(8,573 posts)gademocrat7
(10,656 posts)Take care. We are with you on this journey.
tiredtoo
(2,949 posts)take some deep breaths and go to your happy place. We are all supportive in these trying times.
BigmanPigman
(51,590 posts)SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)ramen
(790 posts)which can matter a great deal for recovery outcomes. Wishing the best and speediest recovery over your way.
mountain grammy
(26,620 posts)hoping for a quick and complete recovery.
KT2000
(20,577 posts)take a few deep breaths and wait to hear the prognosis. They can do things for strokes now.
pazzyanne
(6,552 posts)The hardest thing to do is to remember to breathe when in crisis. Prayers for healing and peace on thier way to you and your family.
fierywoman
(7,683 posts)liberalla
(9,243 posts)Dreampuff
(778 posts)You may not be a believer, but I am and I will keep you in my prayers that you are protected no matter what the outcome is.
MLAA
(17,288 posts)Response to Moostache (Original post)
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TygrBright
(20,759 posts)FuzzyRabbit
(1,967 posts)And hugs to you both. Since I can't be there with you, give yourself a good hug.
iluvtennis
(19,852 posts)Moostache
(9,895 posts)My dad did suffer a massive stroke tonight, and they performed an emergency mechanical thrombectomy to try to capture and remove the clot from his brain. Surgery was successful and the clot was removed successfully. The surgeon showed me the CAT scans of my dad's brain and the actual clot itself - 15 mm in length. The additional images of the brain scans before and after the procedure were stunning. They told us that his condition is still critical and he will be in ICU for a while, but the acute risk is eliminated as of now.
My dad has actually regained feeling and control of his left arm (at the time he went into surgery he was incapable of moving his arm and could barely lift his foot - he can respond and squeeze his left hand); his speech is coherent and focused although with some issues. We received a very good prognosis and his doctor and surgeon were both very encouraged by his functional recovery and current status. Tonight is going to be sleepless and rough because we are not 100% out of the woods by any measure, but we are incredibly lucky and blessed as well.
Since mom's passing, dad has been living alone. He was in town for a visit today only because he felt it was safe following his vaccination and my sister and I also being vaccinated against COVID. Had he NOT made this trip, had he stayed home alone, he would no longer be with us. My sister was at first racked with guilt while we were in the OR waiting rooms, but we were able to recognize that while no one should EVER have to experience this firsthand, had we not gone through this, an entirely different hell would have awaited us on the other side.
Again, thank you all so very much for the messages of support and healing, I can't possibly express how much it means to hear such kindness and empathy in a world I know is in short supply of both, but I and my family are deeply moved to receive such support and I cannot thank you all enough.
Rhiannon12866
(205,320 posts)Wishing your Dad improvement every day and towards a complete recovery. You were indeed lucky to have him with you so he could receive immediate care. And sending those incomparable healing DU vibes to your Dad and to you for brighter days ahead...
Retired Engineer Bob
(759 posts)Let us hope for a good recovery.
Fla Dem
(23,657 posts)lunatica
(53,410 posts)ancianita
(36,053 posts)Doctors will give you good information that will also calm you. This situation needs time.
Hugs to you, hoping that family hugs will help you through.
Granny M
(1,395 posts)May he be well.
BobTheSubgenius
(11,563 posts)I hope this sounds much worse than it is, and everything is back on the rails quickly.
wryter2000
(46,039 posts)If they got him the new miracle medicine in time, he should be fine.
malaise
(268,980 posts)lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)Damn, that's got to be so hard for all of you.
ananda
(28,859 posts)What a double whammy.
So many multiple whammies for people these days.
Thoughts and vibes for a good outcome.
Trueblue Texan
(2,429 posts)barbtries
(28,789 posts)I hope it goes well for your father.
calimary
(81,238 posts)Here are some virtual hugs:
VERY glad you posted about this, and hopefully got perhaps just a wee bit off your chest at this worrisome time. LOTS of people here care about you and will keep a vigil. This thread is certainly proof!
Please let us know how it's going, and how you're doing.