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I wanted him to be mine the moment I saw him, and I got him! Vera (now 90) says as she blushes.72 years of being together (4 years of courting and 68 years of marriage) hasnt weathered their love at all, as Mel (now 95) jokes back, I would have got off sooner with a life sentence!
... they strictly believe that having each other to lean on has been their biggest blessing in life.
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secondwind
(16,903 posts)AnotherMother4Peace
(4,261 posts)Thank you for posting.
tblue37
(65,590 posts)MFM008
(19,848 posts)My parents made it to only 41 years
Before my dad died.
Cracklin Charlie
(12,904 posts)Meant for each other.
Frustratedlady
(16,254 posts)I'll bet that when one dies, the other follows closely. It will just be too hard to be parted.
Dem2theMax
(9,665 posts)They were four months shy of 66 years of marriage when my mom passed away. My dad lasted five months and three weeks before he followed her.
I'm surprised he lasted that long. He was a very strong person. But he was lost without her.
Frustratedlady
(16,254 posts)When Mom had pancreatic cancer, Dad spent each day at the hospital. I would take him down on my way to work and pick him up on the way home. In those days (1982), they kept you for weeks, as long as there was a need. She went in in May and was finally moved to a nursing home in August. He never missed a day.
They had been married just under 60 years and Dad asked me to buy a bouquet for their anniversary so he could surprise her. He proudly carried it to her room and, as he said, "Happy Anniversary!" and showed her the bouquet, we realized she had gone into a coma during the night. That was the only bouquet he bought her in all those years. He usually gave her utilitarian/practical things she could use, not frilly or feminine gifts. I'm sure she knew, but how sad. He was so proud of his bouquet.
Once he finished the legal stuff, he told me he thought he needed to go to the hospital. He had been bleeding, but hid it. Turned out, he had cancer worse than Mom, but he wanted to be sure she was taken care of and kept it to himself. He died 2 weeks later of stomach cancer. Together again!
Dem2theMax
(9,665 posts)I'm reading what you wrote and I'm feeling so sad, and then I get to the end of what you wrote and it was so sweet. 'Together again.'
It would figure that a guy of that generation would want to take care of his girl. My dad was the same way.
They kept quiet about their own aches and pains and made sure their wives were taken care of.
I have to believe that somehow, your mom knew those flowers were there!
I will always be in awe of the kind of love and devotion that your mom and dad had, as well as mine.
In my parents later years, they would often get sick within weeks of each other. I had one in the hospital one time, and six weeks later the other one was in, and the first one had barely recovered.
So I jokingly told them they had to keep their health issues six months apart, so I would have time to get each of them back on their feet, and recover a little bit myself, before we went through the next round of Heaven only knows what.
To this day I swear that's the reason my dad made it to almost six months. He was trying to keep to the deal. And I will forever be grateful. I had barely accepted my mom's death, when Dad passed. I have absolutely no idea how you did it, losing them two weeks apart.
Laffy Kat
(16,402 posts)Where one ends and the other one begins; they are truly as one.
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