I'm Here To Tell You That Online Dating Sucks

[ProudLib72]

Yes it does. It's a scam, so watch out!

This is what I have learned from my very deep immersion into the online dating world... all as part of my sociological experimenting I assure you!

[SHRED]

1. What's the scam part?

False advertising?

[ProudLib72]

8. You sign on just to look

Then they send you a message that someone likes you. You have to pay to be able to read the message. Then it turns out that the message was some bot they use to target people just like you who want to simply look around.

There's more, but that's how they get you.

[woody44]

2. Wasn't for me

met my husband of 13 years now that way

[ProudLib72]

9. I met my wife of 11 years through an online dating site

Our divorce became final two months ago.

[TlalocW]

3. I don't know about a scam, but I'll tell you I've had little luck

I'm grandfathered into Match.com. I joined it in the late 90s when it was free. Twenty years later, I've never had a date from it. However, I'm willing to admit that it's me. I'm a childfree atheist living in the midwest. I've gotten notices from people interested in me, but they've either had kids or were scams - the latter I'll play with to waste their time. Last one was a very attractive "woman from Africa" who just happened to use to live close to me before she had to return home to Ghana. I kept "her" on the line for a couple of weeks until we declared our mutual love for each other at which point, I asked "her" for money so I could fly to Ghana to marry her.

Never heard from "her" again.

TlalocW

[brush]

5. Sounds like you were just as much a scammer as she was if you did that.

[ProudLib72]

10. Oh man, that's a great story!

The reverse Ghanan Prince.

[fNord]

4. Hi.....

I’m a smuggled Czech 20 year old girl, or a 35 year old man in my moms basement.....either way, if you go to my website and enter your credit card number I’d love to let you buy me dinner.....


Something like that?

[ProudLib72]

11. Lots and lots of fake people

Really lovely girls, all very young seem to "like" me. Their pictures all have "Text me: 970-443-6545" or some number. No way am I going to text a number like that! This sort of thing happens at least twice a day.

[backtoblue]

13. LMAO

[brush]

6. Depends on the site. I've had some good results. Results on the free ones, not so good.

[ProudLib72]

14. I've been a full member on:

JDate, Zoosk, and Match.

JDate is where I met my ex. Back then it was a different place. It has since gone way downhill. I give Match 3 out of 5 stars due to volume and ease of searching/messaging. Zoosk is seriously funny, though. I love their "Carousel". That's literally what it is, a carousel of profile pictures with absolutely no information other than age. But it's a hoot looking at the pictures. Personally, I like the women who make funny faces for the camera. I find it endearing. Too bad they all live 537 miles away!

Edit: There is one picture that keeps popping up in which the woman is wearing a shirt that says, "PIT OF MISERY". I think she may just be the one!

[brush]

15. The two I've been on mostly feature people in my city. There are others of course...

if you're interested enough in someone from out of town.

[vercetti2021]

7. I just had no luck

Mean hey what's not to love about a manic depressive with high levels of anxiety and panic attacks?

[ProudLib72]

12. If you just open up and be honest, I'm sure there is someone out there for you

[vercetti2021]

25. Very much so!

Reason I haven't had a date in 9 years

Think online dating is bad. It isnt so much the scam part. It's just going in knowing yeah this might not work lol. Especially when you're a heavy set guy.

[backtoblue]

16. Hmmmm...

Last edited Tue Apr 30, 2019, 01:36 AM - Edit history (1)

Love it. Made alot of money that way...

[calguy]

17. I've visited a few out of curiosity

I'm happily married and definately not in the market for dating. But out of curiosity I've browsed a few sites and it's funny that there were the exact same photos of the exact same people on many of those sites. And yes, they flooded my email telling of all the women who were just dying to meet me, if only I bought a membership.

[Cartoonist]

18. Here's one scam

Not unique to dating sites.
Once you become a paid member, they don't let you quit easily.

[ProudLib72]

26. That's true too

I was trying to get off of one site, and they kept offering me a bunch of incentives to stay. You have to watch out that you aren't set up for automatic renewal each time.

[rusty quoin]

19. Wow, big response.

[DetlefK]

20. I remember a particular female online-dating profile:

She was very attractive and sexy, in her mid-thirties, and her turn-off was when a man is being cheap.

I guess, her hobby is "mining for precious minerals".

[ProudLib72]

28. That's not nearly as bad as the one I just read the other day

Woman in her 30s whose big turn on was tattoos. She wrote that, if you didn't have any tattoos, you shouldn't bother messaging her. Plus, if you had a tattoo machine, she had plenty of free real estate. Sounded to me like she wanted to get some free tattoos. Mining of precious metals with a fetish.

[safeinOhio]

21. Step away from the computer...

Found my love by getting out and following my values. Join political orgs, hobby groups and attending events where folks with the same interest go. Second, don't fall in love so damn fast. Everything worthwhile takes time.

[ProudLib72]

33. I remember writting letters, real letters that travelled through the mail

When I was on a trip, I would buy a bunch of pre-paid air mail stationary to write all my friends back home. Once, when I was in a hostel in old city Jerusalem, I met a girl from South Africa. We sort of hit it off talking. She became my pen pal for a few months.

Social media has killed all that. I miss the days of going through the process and being damned sure you wrote what you wanted to write because of the limited amount of space and time it took for the letter to travel by post. You received a letter, and the fact it was from somewhere far away was tangible. It was penned in that person's choice of ink in that person's own handwriting. Plus, there might be a few little drawings. Email and texting have stolen that personal touch.

[True Dough]

22. Why don't you create the DU Online Dating Group?

The love of your life could be right here among this crowd! And you know you'll be falling in love a fellow Liberal! It's a win-win.

[JustABozoOnThisBus]

23. Isn't that the purpose of February's Valentine hearts? ;) nt

[backtoblue]

24. And trust all you crazy folks?

We're the biggest bunch of anxiety-having people on the net.

First date: So tell me, do you like cornflakes on your chicken? Oh, not so much? I'm outta here!

Next day DU OP: I HATE ONLINE DATING!!!!!!

[True Dough]

38. Isn't there a saying

about "crazy" being good in bed? Or is that just an urban legend?

[backtoblue]

39. Let's ask Siri

She said "Crazy people need love too. Just don't feed them after midnight".

Then "Showing search results for DU dating servrrrvice...........oops.....site....broke....True Dough...........WTF is THAT......

[Callmecrazy]

44. No. It's true...

Who blabbed?

[True Dough]

45. You just chose that name so you could get some hook-ups!

Now it's all crystal clear.

[Callmecrazy]

46. Mostly hang-ups, actually...

[ProudLib72]

29. Hey, you laugh but I actually put in one profile something about being on DU

Yes, this is the best idea ever! But will Skinner go for it?

[True Dough]

37. Why not?

At the DU, Skinner always has "skin in the game"!

[TheFarseer]

27. I've met a lot of women off match and eharmony

Including my wife. I assure you there are many real people on there.

[MrScorpio]

30. Hi, I'm Scorp

My passions are world peace, clean American politics and the search for the perfect frappacino.

[AJT]

32. You're too much of a dreamer.....

Be practical and post your annual income....

[ProudLib72]

34. Annual income is part of the Match profile

I select the lowest because it's true and I don't want to attract the miners of precious metals.

[lindysalsagal]

47. Or your ss number, and tax returns.

[customerserviceguy]

31. It can be scammy

but it can work, too. My lady and I found each other on a website that caters to larger people, who often face heavy disappointment on the mainstream sites (Match.com, eHarmony, etc.) and we saw numerous African scammers trying to take advantage of what they viewed as desperate people.

But, if you cut to the chase, and go for a meeting early on, you nip a scammer in the bud, usually. But, I've seen that backfire, too. An acquaintance of mine who is Mormon went on a dating side for people of his faith, and got suckered into flying a woman and her children from South Africa to the US. As is traditional with many Mormons, they married quickly so they could begin a sexual relationship, and six months later, she had a restraining order against him, keeping him out of his own house.

[ProudLib72]

35. What happened to your friend? Did she get the house?

I understand that's not the point of your post, but I really want to know what eventually happened! That's scary.

[customerserviceguy]

36. Eventually

he was able to clear his name with the courts, and he filed for divorce. That removed her ability to stay in the US, and she either moved back to, or was deported to South Africa. Jim went through hell during that time, I'm glad I was there for him to talk to, as he was for me when I split up from the ex-wife whose home was in Jim's neighborhood.

But, happy ending, he found a nice lady about 2005, and they are very happy together.

[Kaleva]

40. Try Adult Friend Finder for more interesting, non-judgemental, anything goes, kind of people.

So I've heard.

[patricia92243]

41. Met hubby of 10 years on dating site. My daughter also met her husband on a dating site.

[bikebloke]

42. Tried them.

Too many scammers. And the few I eventually met in person, though they seemed fine and normal by profile, there was never any chemistry. No chemistry; no way. In the end, I accepted my fate, and am quite content on my own.

[discntnt_irny_srcsm]

43. In 1993, Gary Kremen saw potential in online dating...

...but the world was yet to be convinced, so he created Match.com. As people weren’t dating online, probably due to it having negative connotations, he worked on a solution to the problem. What Kremen did was get everyone in the company to create a profile on the site. This even included his girlfriend at the time, even though they were in a relationship. Uh oh. I bet you can see his problem already developing.

Well it appears as though his idea worked. This trick helped the company grow the number of users, but it came at a cost Kremen. His girlfriend met another man on the site, and left Kremen for him. But all wasn’t lost. Gary Kremen has said that it was painful, but it showed him that the site worked.

.
https://unrealfacts.com/founder-match-com-gary-kremen-lost-girlfriend-man-met-match-com/