Sun Apr 28, 2019, 12:05 AM
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Author | Time | Post |
 You ever ask yourself where the last twenty years went? (Original post) |
backtoblue | Apr 2019 | OP |
| Bayard | Apr 2019 | #1 | |
| backtoblue | Apr 2019 | #4 | |
| AJT | Apr 2019 | #18 | |
| backtoblue | Apr 2019 | #20 | |
| True Dough | Apr 2019 | #2 | |
| backtoblue | Apr 2019 | #3 | |
| AJT | Apr 2019 | #5 | |
| backtoblue | Apr 2019 | #7 | |
| TygrBright | Apr 2019 | #6 | |
| backtoblue | Apr 2019 | #8 | |
| mr_lebowski | Apr 2019 | #9 | |
| backtoblue | Apr 2019 | #11 | |
| Name removed | Apr 2019 | #10 | |
| backtoblue | Apr 2019 | #12 | |
| Name removed | Apr 2019 | #14 | |
| mr_lebowski | Apr 2019 | #13 | |
| Sanity Claws | Apr 2019 | #15 | |
| backtoblue | Apr 2019 | #16 | |
| femmocrat | Apr 2019 | #17 | |
| backtoblue | Apr 2019 | #19 | |
| CTyankee | Apr 2019 | #21 |
Response to backtoblue (Original post)
Sun Apr 28, 2019, 12:12 AM
Bayard (18,107 posts)
1. Frequently
Response to Bayard (Reply #1)
Sun Apr 28, 2019, 12:42 AM
4. It really does
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I look back at those years and it's kind of shocking to me now how much responsibility I had.
I went from a wild and selfish teenager to being responsible for another human. Mortuary school was only a two year degree and it provided a quick entry into a career. I look in the mirror now and I think, oh my god. I cannot believe that I did all of that. Cheers my friend. I hope you are having a good weekend.  |
Response to backtoblue (Reply #4)
Sun Apr 28, 2019, 02:37 PM
18. Yep. I was single with 2 young girls going to junior college
Response to AJT (Reply #18)
Sun Apr 28, 2019, 07:20 PM
20. I'm totally becoming "the dude", girl style
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Sweat pants and t-shirts are my new dress suits.
I don't know how you did it with two kids. It takes superhuman strength to be a single parent, let alone doing it while going to college and working. |
Response to True Dough (Reply #2)
Sun Apr 28, 2019, 12:31 AM
3. I'm not even 40 yet...
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I feel like my career and parenting let me "hide" from the real world.
I always had a reason for not getting out and dating or visiting friends. I was on call for work almost every day for so long. I took the "first call" when someone died, so I had my phone on constantly. Im so freaking awkward. Kinda feel like the old man on Shawshank Redemption who got out and couldn't deal with the outside. 
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Response to backtoblue (Original post)
Sun Apr 28, 2019, 12:49 AM
5. I am in the same situation. I am kind of lost.
Response to AJT (Reply #5)
Sun Apr 28, 2019, 01:11 AM
7. I still gotta get up to get the kid to school
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Sometimes I go back to sleep when I get home.
Im just bored. Bored with absolutely no energy or motivation. |
Response to backtoblue (Original post)
Sun Apr 28, 2019, 01:04 AM
TygrBright (20,147 posts)
6. Oh, hell yes... All the time!
Response to TygrBright (Reply #6)
Sun Apr 28, 2019, 01:34 AM
8. Hey Bright
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An exoskeleton! That's exactly how I feel too.
Ive let "single working mom" and "mortician" define me for so long. I'm completely different now. I've turned into a hairy-legged hippie! 
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Response to backtoblue (Original post)
Sun Apr 28, 2019, 02:55 AM
mr_lebowski (30,988 posts)
9. Trippy concept to me ... probably why I could never have kids and wasn't married til my 40's
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and now ... not terribly shockingly ... divorced in my early 50's.
I never had the capacity to be anyone but ... Mr. L. To do much different apart from 'what I wanted to do'. I admire people who can put 'themselves' aside for years and years, and get lost in responsibilities and child-raising and marriages and such. I never really could. Born an only child (though I had 2 half-brothers, but not til I was 12/14 yo, and I never lived w/them, though I love them dearly), and having moved all over growing up, never in the same place > 3.5 years, ever ... both parents worked ... HARD ... I always felt it was ... just me. Doing what I do. Made it really hard to 'settle down' and I didn't do a great job of it, obviously. I wish I were different. I wish I were more like you, honestly. Be proud of who you are, and what you did with your life. The alternative isn't necessarily better. Trust me. You'll figure what to do ... I know your kinda folk, and that's what you do 
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Response to mr_lebowski (Reply #9)
Sun Apr 28, 2019, 03:27 AM
11. Ah, that's how I envisioned my life...
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The girl I once was, was like that. I really enjoyed exploring EVERYTHING. Just going with the flow and doing whatever I felt like doing. (Usually up to mischief). A gypsy soul.
Honestly, having a kid probably kept me from being too wild. I think I want a piece of that girl back.
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Response to Name removed (Reply #10)
Sun Apr 28, 2019, 04:03 AM
mr_lebowski (30,988 posts)
13. Strange how the Night Moves ... (nt)
Response to backtoblue (Original post)
Sun Apr 28, 2019, 06:36 AM
Sanity Claws (21,288 posts)
15. Congratulations on realizing that you can now have a different life
Response to Sanity Claws (Reply #15)
Sun Apr 28, 2019, 10:04 AM
16. Thank you!
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You're right. Change is good and that's how I need to look ahead. Watch out!
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Response to backtoblue (Original post)
Sun Apr 28, 2019, 10:29 AM
17. First, congratulations on your retirement!
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I taught off and on for almost 40 years. The last position was 20 years in the same district. While I was relieved to be free of responsibility, I did feel lost for a long time.
I have never found another hobby or interest to fill up my days. I just keep muddling through. It’s really great on snowy days though, knowing I don’t have to drive! 
I hope you find your way and now you have time to enjoy your family and other interests. Best wishes to you.  |
Response to femmocrat (Reply #17)
Sun Apr 28, 2019, 07:01 PM
19. Thanks femmocrat!
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I was not ready to retire. I was the first female funeral home general manager in my county. (Not a huge deal, but it's definitely a traditional men's profession)
I actually loved my job. To be able to comfort people in their darkest hour was such an honor. That was what kept me sane and able to endure the physical and psychological challenges daily. Now I'm kinda looking around thinking "now what?". I went from superwoman to disabled so quickly that I didn't have any time to adjust. DU has become a bit of an addiction lately Lol. We'll just muddle on together! |
Response to backtoblue (Reply #19)
Sun Apr 28, 2019, 07:49 PM
CTyankee (61,568 posts)
21. you sound so much like me, dear backtoblue...
