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Coventina

(27,120 posts)
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 02:30 PM Apr 2017

Do Millennial Men Want Stay-at-Home Wives?

Using a survey that has monitored the attitudes of high school seniors for nearly 40 years, the sociologists Joanna Pepin and David Cotter find that the proportion of young people holding egalitarian views about gender relationships rose steadily from 1977 to the mid-1990s but has fallen since. In 1994, only 42 percent of high school seniors agreed that the best family was one where the man was the main income earner and the woman took care of the home. But in 2014, 58 percent of seniors said they preferred that arrangement. In 1994, fewer than 30 percent of high school seniors thought “the husband should make all the important decisions in the family.” By 2014, nearly 40 percent subscribed to that premise.

A different survey found a similar trend, in this case concentrated mainly among men. In 1994, 83 percent of young men rejected the superiority of the male-breadwinner family. By 2014 that had fallen to 55 percent. Women’s disagreement fell far less, from 85 percent in 1994 to 72 percent in 2014. Since 1994, young women’s confidence that employed women are just as good mothers as stay-at-home moms has continued to inch up, but young men’s has fallen. In fact, by 2014, men aged 18 to 25 were more traditional than their elders.

Such slippage in support for gender equality may have been a factor in the 2016 election, even though voters 18 to 30 were more likely than any other age group to vote for Hillary Clinton. An analysis of exit polls by Kei Kawashima-Ginsberg of Tufts University reveals that millennial support for a white woman in 2016 was 10 percentage points lower than their vote for a black man in 2008. Furthermore, the gender gap among young people was larger than in previous elections. While 63 percent of young women voted for Mrs. Clinton, only 47 percent of young men did so.

The political scientist Dan Cassino suggests that the increased support for male leadership in home life among 18- to 25-year-olds may reflect an attempt to compensate for men’s loss of dominance in the work world. Youths surveyed in 2014 grew up in the shadow of the financial crisis, which accelerated the longstanding erosion of men’s earning power. During the 2016 primaries, when Professor Cassino asked voters questions designed to remind them that many women now earn more than men, men became less likely to support Mrs. Clinton. Perhaps a segment of youth is reacting to financial setbacks suffered by their fathers. Indeed, a 2015 poll commissioned by MTV found that 27 percent of males aged 14 to 24 felt women’s gains had come at the expense of men.

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/03/31/opinion/sunday/do-millennial-men-want-stay-at-home-wives.html?em_pos=medium&emc=edit_ed_20170407&nl=the-edit&nl_art=3&nlid=73531149&ref=headline&te=1

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Do Millennial Men Want Stay-at-Home Wives? (Original Post) Coventina Apr 2017 OP
My children are a little older than that, but none of them wants what we did. greymattermom Apr 2017 #1
I don't think you can generalize MichMary Apr 2017 #2
I've been the "stay-at-home" parent GWC58 Apr 2017 #14
True, true MichMary Apr 2017 #15
I'll be 59 in May. GWC58 Apr 2017 #25
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Apr 2017 #56
So Essentially Me. Apr 2017 #3
I would argue the underlying issue isn't misogyny but is economic mythology Apr 2017 #12
Not Sure I Can Agree Me. Apr 2017 #19
Well, MichMary Apr 2017 #18
That's A Good Point Me. Apr 2017 #20
Utter Bullshit taught_me_patience Apr 2017 #21
One of the options people now have is telecommuting/working from home Zing Zing Zingbah Apr 2017 #45
Yep. Misogyny, along with racism, are the basic forces behind most of the horrible things happening Squinch Apr 2017 #28
Millennial men know what they want??? Gman Apr 2017 #4
Relatively few millennials are teenagers anymore, so I hope they know what they want. n/t Coventina Apr 2017 #7
I wasn't referring to teenagers. Gman Apr 2017 #42
This is a strange article... cbdo2007 Apr 2017 #5
Yup. MichMary Apr 2017 #11
beware small sample sizes nt geek tragedy Apr 2017 #6
Can millennial men AFFORD stay at home wives? smirkymonkey Apr 2017 #8
Very good questions. n/t Coventina Apr 2017 #9
I suspect that when reality hits, they will change their minds, but it is telling of something that Squinch Apr 2017 #29
that's not the point; it's not an economic survey, it's about attitudes, and there has clearly been TheFrenchRazor Apr 2017 #52
And one that works. Lochloosa Apr 2017 #10
Do millennial women want to be stay-at-home wives? Iggo Apr 2017 #13
! Me. Apr 2017 #16
bingo!. . . n/t annabanana Apr 2017 #31
Thank YOU! smirkymonkey Apr 2017 #33
My late husband was a stay at home dad TNLib Apr 2017 #17
Do Millennial Men Want To Eat, or Pay the Heating Bill This Month? NickB79 Apr 2017 #22
If my wife wanted to stay home, it would be a deal breaker for me taught_me_patience Apr 2017 #23
Utter bullshit, MichMary Apr 2017 #24
good thing we're not married then taught_me_patience Apr 2017 #35
Not really MichMary Apr 2017 #54
+1 EL34x4 Apr 2017 #36
You don't have to want this arrangement, but lots of wrong in your post. kcr Apr 2017 #32
I'm married with two kids taught_me_patience Apr 2017 #41
I have noticed that too. Zing Zing Zingbah Apr 2017 #46
If the dad is a stranger in his own home WHILE he's there, that's his own fault. kcr Apr 2017 #58
Obviously you made the correct choice for you and your spouse GulfCoast66 Apr 2017 #47
Just what decade do you think we're in? kcr Apr 2017 #57
oh boo hoo..... samnsara Apr 2017 #26
Most of us married men want klook Apr 2017 #27
Pretty much an unaffordable "luxury" these days. annabanana Apr 2017 #30
Yes, having a sexually predetermined unpaid maid is great Warpy Apr 2017 #34
Who cares what they want? MuseRider Apr 2017 #37
If this article is to be believed, it is troubling that young men are decreasingly in favor of Coventina Apr 2017 #38
It sure is and I hope we have raised our daughters right MuseRider Apr 2017 #39
I was a stay at home mom for just over 10 years GreenEyedLefty Apr 2017 #40
This 29 yr old male does not. retrowire Apr 2017 #43
I was a teenager in the 94 Zing Zing Zingbah Apr 2017 #44
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Apr 2017 #49
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Apr 2017 #48
Could it partly be a longing for a choice? Longing for what they cannot have? GulfCoast66 Apr 2017 #50
yes, it's plain old misogyny, despite all the rationizations and justifications here and elsewhere; TheFrenchRazor Apr 2017 #51
I hope my daughter never chooses this path. Adrahil Apr 2017 #53
Everyone wants the illusion that it's ALL about choice. kcr Apr 2017 #59
I will always love and support my daughter. Adrahil Apr 2017 #61
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Apr 2017 #55
These studies are more often than not flawed and lack nuance kcr Apr 2017 #60

greymattermom

(5,754 posts)
1. My children are a little older than that, but none of them wants what we did.
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 02:40 PM
Apr 2017

We had two high intensity jobs and three kids. One of the biggest issues now is the cost of daycare vs. what new college grads can make, and some of those new college grads are in their 30s. Another issue for them is the quality of food you can make if you have a little time vs. what you have to eat if you're in a hurry. My children who either want or have kids have a spouse who works part time. The other child doesn't want kids and has a high intensity job.

MichMary

(1,714 posts)
2. I don't think you can generalize
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 02:42 PM
Apr 2017

My son stays home with two little kids while his wife is the family breadwinner. It works for them. There are days when it is very hard for her to leave when the little girl is crying for mama, but she loves her job and is respected and well-compensated.

I can also tell you that their kids are healthier than the daycare-tended children of their friends who pick up every bug out there.

I was a stay-at-home mom, and enjoyed it, but not sure I would do the same if I could go back in time.

GWC58

(2,678 posts)
14. I've been the "stay-at-home" parent
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 03:29 PM
Apr 2017

since our sons birth. Being retired, plus SSDI, helped. "Mr. Mom" is a phrase that bothers me Not! My son was born in 2005. I suppose it helped that the both of us were in our 40's when Matthew was born. I can see why people have kids in their 20's/30's.

MichMary

(1,714 posts)
15. True, true
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 03:33 PM
Apr 2017

The women who do dog-knows-what to their bodies to enable them to get pregnant in their 50's, 60's, and even older are crazy! They have no idea what it's like to chase after a toddler, or even to keep up with a teenager.

Response to GWC58 (Reply #14)

Me.

(35,454 posts)
3. So Essentially
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 02:49 PM
Apr 2017

Misogyny is well and alive in the 21st century and white males don't like a playing field where they don't have the advantage.

 

mythology

(9,527 posts)
12. I would argue the underlying issue isn't misogyny but is economic
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 03:26 PM
Apr 2017

Not that the misogyny isn't real, but that it is brought out by the decreased ability to have the same lifestyle as our parents or grandparents. The increasing stratification of our economic society into more have and have not rather than a large stable middle class, the perceived threat of outsourcing and the real threat of automation.

It's similar to how Sweden has seen a decrease in support for the welfare state as immigration has gone up. It's the perceived threat of the other. Sometimes it's a minority, sometimes it's women, sometimes it's the Irish. But root cause is that under stress people will lash out at an other.

Me.

(35,454 posts)
19. Not Sure I Can Agree
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 03:50 PM
Apr 2017

From the above article

"The political scientist Dan Cassino suggests that the increased support for male leadership in home life among 18- to 25-year-olds may reflect an attempt to compensate for men’s loss of dominance in the work world"

I think with the recent emphasis on white people no longer being a majority and the loss of manufacturing jobs etc., white men feel they are losing their standing and thus are angry plus grasping onto anything they think will help them retain/regain the dominance they used to have.

MichMary

(1,714 posts)
18. Well,
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 03:35 PM
Apr 2017

many, if not most, of the millennials were raised by working mothers, and maybe don't want the same life for their own children. Even the best daycare isn't the same as being with your own parents during most of your waking hours.

Zing Zing Zingbah

(6,496 posts)
45. One of the options people now have is telecommuting/working from home
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 07:01 PM
Apr 2017

I think that changes things some for the Millennials.
Regardless of what they would like, most people find that both parents have to work to have enough money for the family.

Squinch

(50,950 posts)
28. Yep. Misogyny, along with racism, are the basic forces behind most of the horrible things happening
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 05:03 PM
Apr 2017

in the world today.

cbdo2007

(9,213 posts)
5. This is a strange article...
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 03:01 PM
Apr 2017

My wife stays home and takes care of the kids but it has nothing to do with gender inequality. It has to do with that when we had kids I had a more advanced job than she did and the amount of housework and child caring was to the point that it was going to cost us too much money for us both to work, yet still have all the stressors of both having jobs. I wouldn't say this has anything to do with who makes decisions, as I would assume those are made equally by both spouses regardless of who works.

I think it's more about sacrifice and lifestyle than gender roles. We have friends who both spouses work and they got on two big trips every year and have all the latest gadgets. We have less money and less gadgets and take less trips (and less elaborate) yet we definitely spend more time with the kids during the week and our stress level is fairly low. These other friends are constantly rushing around and eating fast food for dinner every night because they have to rush from work to home to school to home to work to soccer practice, etc. It just makes things so much simpler for us to have one person who does all of that and one person who works. No need to overthink this.

MichMary

(1,714 posts)
11. Yup.
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 03:25 PM
Apr 2017

I'm a boomer and stayed home. It was just so much easier.

My millennial son and family have a stay-at-home parent (my son) and he is able to take kids to swimming lessons, etc. during the day, so that evenings they are all at home, eating a home-cooked dinner together, while their dual job friends are spending their evenings running around for kids' activities, and grabbing something to eat in between.

It's such an individual thing. I think every family needs to do what's best for themselves, and not worry about what anyone else thinks. The other thing to remember is that $$ has nothing to do with equality.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
8. Can millennial men AFFORD stay at home wives?
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 03:09 PM
Apr 2017

And will millennial women WANT to stay home? Just because the men of that generation prefer it, doesn't mean it's feasible or that it's going to happen.

Squinch

(50,950 posts)
29. I suspect that when reality hits, they will change their minds, but it is telling of something that
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 05:04 PM
Apr 2017

the fifties household is their ideal.

 

TheFrenchRazor

(2,116 posts)
52. that's not the point; it's not an economic survey, it's about attitudes, and there has clearly been
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 07:45 PM
Apr 2017

a shift. the very fact that young people now can hardly afford a single wage earner family seems to make it even more indicative of an underlying shift in attitudes about gender. it's a step backwards definitely, but of course some people (conservatives, mostly) would consider this to be a good thing.

Iggo

(47,558 posts)
13. Do millennial women want to be stay-at-home wives?
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 03:27 PM
Apr 2017

Without the answer to that, I don't give a fuck what their husbands want.

TNLib

(1,819 posts)
17. My late husband was a stay at home dad
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 03:34 PM
Apr 2017

until our child started school and my mother came to live with us. He passed when she was 9 so I'm glad they had that time to spend with each other.

NickB79

(19,246 posts)
22. Do Millennial Men Want To Eat, or Pay the Heating Bill This Month?
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 04:27 PM
Apr 2017

Because good fucking luck doing both in the 21st century without a two-income household, unless you live in a small apartment your entire lives.

What you WANT, and what you HAVE TO DO, to make ends meet, are two entirely different things in life. I WANTED to be a cancer researcher in a prestigious lab; I ended up doing quality control at a dairy plant, because even with a master's degree I'd be making half what I make now (kinda fucked up, isn't it?).

My experience with millennials in my life is that they have no damn clue what the real world is like, for the most part, or what it means to really have to struggle to get by.

 

taught_me_patience

(5,477 posts)
23. If my wife wanted to stay home, it would be a deal breaker for me
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 04:30 PM
Apr 2017

#1) She needs her own life and her own ambitions
#2) It would cause extreme financial stress
#3) I would resent it if one person in the family wasn't working
#4) It's not fair to the working parent. The kids get completely attached to the stay-at-home parent and the other is left out.
#5) Kids need their time away from parents and with other kids too. Daycare is better for kid development than stay at home parenting.

MichMary

(1,714 posts)
24. Utter bullshit,
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 04:41 PM
Apr 2017


#1 There are plenty of ways a person can have ambitions and "her own life" without getting a paycheck for it. Who knows? Maybe city council? Or whatever. Just because someone doesn't get a paycheck doesn't mean they have no ambitions.

#2 Financial stress is relative. Lots of time there are things families can do that will relieve financial stress without a second income. Besides, add up the cost of daycare, working wardrobe, commuting expenses, etc. a second income has to be pretty substantial to make it worthwhile.

#3 Your resentment is your problem.

#4, Seriously? It's better to put a kid in daycare so they don't get overly attached to one parent???

#5. Kids get plenty of time away from their parents, once they start school. Before that, they are healthier and get one-on-one care with a stay-at-home parent, which no daycare center can provide.

 

taught_me_patience

(5,477 posts)
35. good thing we're not married then
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 05:13 PM
Apr 2017

And again, your insistence on saying that daycare is not as good as stay-at-home parenting is a complete insult to working parents.

kcr

(15,317 posts)
32. You don't have to want this arrangement, but lots of wrong in your post.
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 05:10 PM
Apr 2017

For one thing, those who DO go along with this arrangement, and then resent it are the worst. At least you aren't going that route. Kudos to you. But they're resenting it based on all the misconceptions you lay out, which are wrong. Stay at home parents DO work. A lot. And the children aren't more attached to them, unless the parent working outside the home is just a shitty parent who wants nothing to do with their child. Are you suggesting that when both parents work outside the home, children don't get attached to either?

Spouses who resent the person they're married to based on the type of work they do just basically are the types of people who should stay single. Not good relationship material, there.

 

taught_me_patience

(5,477 posts)
41. I'm married with two kids
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 05:32 PM
Apr 2017

I was attracted to an ambitious woman to begin with. If she wanted to be a housewife before we got married, then we wouldn't have gotten married to begin with. I like the fact that she's independent... she can dump my ass if she wanted and carry on. It keeps me on my toes and striving to be a better husband and father. We both work and share kid duties. It's fair that way.


In every single family that I know where the mom doesn't work, the kids are way way way more attached to the mom and the dads resent it really bad.

Zing Zing Zingbah

(6,496 posts)
46. I have noticed that too.
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 07:18 PM
Apr 2017

I know families like this and the dad has a couple jobs while the mom stays home and does home schooling. The kids spend a lot of time with the mom and hardly any time with the dad. Dad is always away working. Dad is like a stranger is his own home when he is there. It is definitely not fair for the man. It is interesting to me that men would even want it that way.

kcr

(15,317 posts)
58. If the dad is a stranger in his own home WHILE he's there, that's his own fault.
Tue Apr 11, 2017, 05:57 AM
Apr 2017

That's a shitty parent. There is nothing stopping him from spending time with his kids. Those are choices he is making.

GulfCoast66

(11,949 posts)
47. Obviously you made the correct choice for you and your spouse
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 07:27 PM
Apr 2017

But others choose differently.

Since many of your statements are your opinions I have not comment, but when you say that day care is healthier that staying at home I am just going to call bullshit. Each situation is different. I would guess your income level allows you to choose a high end day care with lots of child development. And there is little doubt that offers advantages over a parent that lacks the ability to give their child development.

I was raised by a stay at home mother and she was great at making sure that I was prepared for kindergarten. We were not rich nor were my friends, many of whom went to day care. I know I was more prepared for school than many of them and that preparation benefited me till I left school.

Your final comment about the working parent resenting the stay at home parents hits me out of left field. I have never once heard this complaint for any parent I know. And my mother will tell you that the relationship I had with my father was every bit as strong as the one I have with her.

I find being concerned about who is the most popular parent as kind of odd. After all, it is about insuring a well developed child, not some kind of popularity contest.

Have a nice evening.

kcr

(15,317 posts)
57. Just what decade do you think we're in?
Tue Apr 11, 2017, 05:54 AM
Apr 2017

You can see how your outdated notion plays out. Men who have stayed home never get brushed with this. They are lauded as heroes.

Women almost never plan on raising kids as a career these days. Most who end up at home now do so because of cost, in fact. Day care is expensive. At any rate, this myth you're helping to propagate certainly costs them. It's the reason that women who've taken any time off when they have kids have a very hard time returning to work. The myth they weren't ambitious. It's such bullshit.

klook

(12,155 posts)
27. Most of us married men want
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 05:00 PM
Apr 2017

a working wife who earns a massive paycheck so we can get on with our hobbies! Failing that, an heiress or rich widow would also suffice.

Warpy

(111,267 posts)
34. Yes, having a sexually predetermined unpaid maid is great
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 05:10 PM
Apr 2017

and every man should have one.

Unfortunately, too many women saw Daddy follow his dick out of his marriage, leaving Mom to struggle with low paid, dead end work because she'd been a nice, old fashioned gal who'd wanted to stay home and raise a family and take care of her man. Or she realized that they just weren't living very well on one paycheck and she had to go out and scratch for a living to help feed the kids or pay for their schooling.

"Leave it to Beaver" was a sitcom, guys. It just didn't work in real life unless people were very lucky.

My advice to all those nice, "traditional" Millennial men is to inherit a big trust fund or find a way to get rich quick because that is the only way you're going to live your 1950s dream of being a big man with the little woman at home, propping you up.

Coventina

(27,120 posts)
38. If this article is to be believed, it is troubling that young men are decreasingly in favor of
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 05:20 PM
Apr 2017

gender equality.

MuseRider

(34,111 posts)
39. It sure is and I hope we have raised our daughters right
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 05:25 PM
Apr 2017

so they do not get stuck with this. My son's would never want a woman who could not hold her own. They will and have gone to bat for their partners. If their partner wanted to stay home they would try to make that happen but they would never make them do it. Too many women that I know raised daughters who could not or would not stick up for themselves and then there are those that are happy doing whatever it is the chose to do. Not everyone gets those choices but being under the thumb of some man is one you never have to make or allow to happen.

GreenEyedLefty

(2,073 posts)
40. I was a stay at home mom for just over 10 years
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 05:30 PM
Apr 2017

For us it was pure economics. DH is older than me, is a career professional and makes several times more than I do. I could have worked and he would have supported my choice, but every dime of my salary would have gone to pay for day care. So we agreed that I would stay home.

My younger kids are 14 and 17 now and I have been back to work for 7 years. I miss being home, especially when I have to get them to their activities and such. I am fortunate to have an employer that supports a healthy work-life balance and I can work a flexible schedule.

My oldest is 26 and married and she has said that she plans on staying home with their kids.

retrowire

(10,345 posts)
43. This 29 yr old male does not.
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 06:50 PM
Apr 2017

In this day and age, it's far more productive for both of us to be employed and active.

Zing Zing Zingbah

(6,496 posts)
44. I was a teenager in the 94
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 06:53 PM
Apr 2017

The stats seems to correspond with what I have observed. I would have never guessed back then that the country would become more conservative 20 years later.

Response to Zing Zing Zingbah (Reply #44)

Response to Coventina (Original post)

GulfCoast66

(11,949 posts)
50. Could it partly be a longing for a choice? Longing for what they cannot have?
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 07:34 PM
Apr 2017

Because my mothers generation chose to either work or stay home as they preferred. And that was true up till the 80's. And more and more women chose to work.

With decreasing wages that is a choice many people do not get to make and most young couple I know feel that both spouses must work just to provide a reasonable standard of living.

Of course the reality is that there were always lots of women forced into the work force due to economic reality. But it was much easier to have a one income family and still live a decent life.

 

TheFrenchRazor

(2,116 posts)
51. yes, it's plain old misogyny, despite all the rationizations and justifications here and elsewhere;
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 07:37 PM
Apr 2017

the reality is that these things go in cycles because younger women forget (or never knew) that equal rights for women doesn't just happen, and isn't just achieved one time and then lasts forever; it must be constantly demanded and fought for, or it will be lost. there were backsliding, younger women in Susan B. Anthony's day, who thought that women's rights and gone quite far enough, and now it was time to sit back and relax (even though women didn't even have the right to vote at that time.) it's disappointing but not surprising how many people here try justify this attitude of younger men by saying "it's all good, they'll "allow" their wives to work when the see how much money they need." younger women are fools if they think that this takes the place of truly being respected as an equal.

 

Adrahil

(13,340 posts)
53. I hope my daughter never chooses this path.
Mon Apr 10, 2017, 07:52 PM
Apr 2017

I want her to be able to live independently any time she chooses too. IMO both young men and women should be capable of independent living

But of course, ultimately everyone needs to make their own choices.

kcr

(15,317 posts)
59. Everyone wants the illusion that it's ALL about choice.
Tue Apr 11, 2017, 06:37 AM
Apr 2017

That people never end up in situations outside of their own choosing. We are all set on our paths that we wanted, completely and fully of our own volition. There are no outside forces and systems and social pressures. That would be nice, wouldn't it?

We're going to get the spouse we want, if we want one. The job we want, after the education we receive and the great parenting, of course. Then, if we want kids, they're going to be healthy and smart and easy to raise. Everything will work out! And you see those other people in different circumstances and well, when it doesn't. They should have just made different choices! They weren't smart enough/ambitious enough/weren't of the right political persuasion. Obviously! Those stay at home moms and their stupid, backward choices. How unfortunate.

These threads are particularly disappointing to see on DU. And if your daughter does end up a a stay at home mom? Try to go easy on her.

 

Adrahil

(13,340 posts)
61. I will always love and support my daughter.
Tue Apr 11, 2017, 07:31 AM
Apr 2017

But I hope she aspires to leaving a mark on the world, and not to ever feel trapped in a situation for financial reasons. I know it will insult some, and I am sorry for that. I do disagree with the choice of staying home. But I do respect the right to make that choice.

Response to Coventina (Original post)

kcr

(15,317 posts)
60. These studies are more often than not flawed and lack nuance
Tue Apr 11, 2017, 07:11 AM
Apr 2017

If there is any truth to it, the reasons are probably because of the rise in income inequality and social media.

The reality is the vast majority of households that have a stay at home parent do so for economic and logistical reasons. The days where the woman stayed home because that was her place are long gone. All the handwringing over women being unambitious and not wanting that for our wives/daughters and all the judging of stay at home moms is sexist and outdated. The fact is more men are making that choice for the reasons I gave above. And the truth is most parents, men and women, would love more time with their kids. Our capitalist system makes that hard. Time for more progressives to get with the times on this issue.

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