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floriduck

(2,262 posts)
Mon May 18, 2015, 06:16 PM May 2015

After 13+ Years of Love, Friendship and Loyalty

I had to have my Boston Terrier, Casey, put to sleep this morning. Over the years he developed a collapsed trachea, then he lost his eye sight in 2012. Despite that, people always said he acted like he didn't know he was blind. Then more recently he was diagnosed with pancreatitis and that combined with everything else finally got the best of him.

After crying most of the time since returning home, I know I will do better each day but I am lost at this moment.

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After 13+ Years of Love, Friendship and Loyalty (Original Post) floriduck May 2015 OP
I am so sorry irisblue May 2015 #1
My very sincere condolences, floriduck... Cooley Hurd May 2015 #2
... truebluegreen May 2015 #3
I'm so sorry xoxo OKNancy May 2015 #4
Sincere condolences and good thoughts. hifiguy May 2015 #5
I'm so sorry Warpy May 2015 #6
I am so sorry. redwitch May 2015 #7
I am sorry. I know how painful it is to lose a beloved companion animal. It is tblue37 May 2015 #8
Condolences to you, and easy crossings to Casey villager May 2015 #9
I am so sorry sdfernando May 2015 #10
Incredibly diffficult situation. Take comfort in knowing that he knew you loved him. WillowTree May 2015 #11
I'm so sorry, floriduck. femmocrat May 2015 #12
. johnp3907 May 2015 #13
that is SO beautiful renate May 2015 #68
So sorry about your loss, sadoldgirl May 2015 #14
I know how hard that is.... MaggieD May 2015 #15
I'm so sorry. MoonRiver May 2015 #16
Oh god, I'm so sorry CrawlingChaos May 2015 #17
Thank you, Chaos. floriduck May 2015 #20
(((crawling chaos))) here's hoping for the time you all need with your beloved companion. niyad May 2015 #78
Thank you so much niyad CrawlingChaos May 2015 #89
I am sorry Worried senior May 2015 #18
Hugs - very sorry about your loss. nt jonno99 May 2015 #19
((floriduck)) Solly Mack May 2015 #21
I'm so sorry. KT2000 May 2015 #22
Thank you all floriduck May 2015 #23
Moment of silence Hayduke Bomgarte May 2015 #24
I'm so sorry for the loss of your Casey. polly7 May 2015 #25
Aw, so sorry to hear this. Greybnk48 May 2015 #26
I am so sorry. It is just like losing a child. leftofcool May 2015 #27
It sucks, doesn't it? No other way to describe it. It's the worst feeling. MADem May 2015 #28
... RKP5637 May 2015 #29
I am so sorry. Terra Alta May 2015 #30
A dog will break your heart every time JustAnotherGen May 2015 #31
My dog and friend in grade school to Jr High was a Boston Terrier Omaha Steve May 2015 #32
I am so sorry, floriduck MissDeeds May 2015 #33
godspeed, Casey magical thyme May 2015 #34
So very sorry for your loss. AtomicKitten May 2015 #35
Casey... Dont call me Shirley May 2015 #36
Give yourself time, you will learn to manage it. And if you can find another dog to jtuck004 May 2015 #37
My sympathy on your loss of Casey. May all the good memories you have help livetohike May 2015 #38
. myrna minx May 2015 #39
I'm so sorry. I feel your pain, as do most of us here. mountain grammy May 2015 #40
To end his suffering is a great act of love. TNNurse May 2015 #41
Dogs are better people than we are... I hate liars May 2015 #42
Good for you- you gave your dog the final act of love that all responsible pet owners need to do. NBachers May 2015 #43
I'm so sorry. Texasgal May 2015 #44
... Fumesucker May 2015 #45
I am so very sorry for the loss of your faithful companion. DawgHouse May 2015 #46
I'm so sorry ruffburr May 2015 #47
. LWolf May 2015 #48
so sorry for your loss, as well. I don't think we ever truly get over that loss. niyad May 2015 #79
Thank you. nt LWolf May 2015 #88
Hugs to you - so sorry. 840high May 2015 #49
Another loyal, loving companion has crossed the rainbow bridge. Fla Dem May 2015 #50
I'm sorry for the loss of your beloved Casey. onecaliberal May 2015 #51
Lost my old dog yesterday. 13 as well. Still kinda losing it. byronius May 2015 #52
I'm so sorry for your loss byronius cal04 May 2015 #60
So very sorry vankuria May 2015 #53
... 99Forever May 2015 #54
sincere condolences heaven05 May 2015 #55
I'm so sorry. TDale313 May 2015 #56
{{{Floriduck}}} {{{Casey}}} shenmue May 2015 #57
So sorry for your loss floriduck cal04 May 2015 #58
Sorry Floriduck. NaturalHigh May 2015 #59
I am so sorry... Rockyj May 2015 #61
Sorry for your loss vive la commune May 2015 #62
I am so sorry for your loss Lifelong Protester May 2015 #63
i am so sorry for the loss of your friend fizzgig May 2015 #64
This song comforts me. nt roody May 2015 #65
I am sorry you lost your friend. glinda May 2015 #66
We've been there too many times.. hugs to you and yours SoCalDem May 2015 #67
I'm so sorry renate May 2015 #69
Safwe passage, Casey n/t eridani May 2015 #70
I am so sorry, floriduck. brer cat May 2015 #71
I am so very sorry. bigwillq May 2015 #72
I'm so sorry you've lost a family member Triana May 2015 #73
So, so sorry! Are_grits_groceries May 2015 #74
Ahh, so sorry TuxedoKat May 2015 #75
sorry to hear about your loss. unionthug777 May 2015 #76
((((((((floriduck)))))) it is heartbreaking and gutwrenching when we lose our beloved niyad May 2015 #77
Hugs. riqster May 2015 #80
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved Casey. Lunabell May 2015 #81
Very sorry. When I was small we had two Boston Terriers. Beautiful dogs. jwirr May 2015 #82
Fellow Boston lover/owner here. tridim May 2015 #83
My sympathies Liberalynn May 2015 #84
it's so hard...so painful, when our babies need to go... BlancheSplanchnik May 2015 #85
Sad day. secondvariety May 2015 #86
so sorry floriduck Skittles May 2015 #87
 

truebluegreen

(9,033 posts)
3. ...
Mon May 18, 2015, 06:19 PM
May 2015


We all know they are only with us for a (too) short time, but nevertheless the loss can be overwhelming. So sorry, floriduck.

OKNancy

(41,832 posts)
4. I'm so sorry xoxo
Mon May 18, 2015, 06:19 PM
May 2015

Those of us who have lost beloved pets know the heartbreak.
I still think of my Jack Russell. It's been six years and I still get weepy.

Really corny, but.... https://rainbowsbridge.com/Poem.htm

 

hifiguy

(33,688 posts)
5. Sincere condolences and good thoughts.
Mon May 18, 2015, 06:22 PM
May 2015

Very few things in life are as hard as saying goodbye to a dear furfriend. Pass gently, Casey.

Warpy

(112,691 posts)
6. I'm so sorry
Mon May 18, 2015, 06:22 PM
May 2015

Sometimes I think it's harder to lose four footed family members than it is to lose people.

redwitch

(15,029 posts)
7. I am so sorry.
Mon May 18, 2015, 06:22 PM
May 2015

It is so hard to lose these beloved creatures who stand by us through so much. A friend of mine just lost her doggie today and is also devastated. My heart is with you both.

tblue37

(65,936 posts)
8. I am sorry. I know how painful it is to lose a beloved companion animal. It is
Mon May 18, 2015, 06:23 PM
May 2015

especially hard when you have to make the decision to have him put to sleep. I hope you will find another loving friend soon.

 

villager

(26,001 posts)
9. Condolences to you, and easy crossings to Casey
Mon May 18, 2015, 06:23 PM
May 2015

Losing the four-legged family members is no easier than losing the two-legged ones...

sdfernando

(5,208 posts)
10. I am so sorry
Mon May 18, 2015, 06:26 PM
May 2015

you lost a family member and that is devastating. Hope you remember and cherish all the wonderful memories and love you were freely given.

CrawlingChaos

(1,893 posts)
17. Oh god, I'm so sorry
Mon May 18, 2015, 06:36 PM
May 2015

floriduck, my heart goes out to you in no small way. It really is the worst. It tears you up completely.

All I can say is I'm right there with you. My dog has terminal cancer and we're taking it day by day. We're hoping for a couple more months with him before his quality of life declines.

The bond you form with a dog is like nothing else... shit, I'm gonna start crying. I'm just really, really sorry. I wish I could say something to ease your pain but I don't have the words. As much as we wish we could walk around the pain we have to walk through it. I'm so sorry.

Big big hugs to you. I know we'll both get through it somehow but I know what you mean about feeling lost.

 

floriduck

(2,262 posts)
20. Thank you, Chaos.
Mon May 18, 2015, 06:56 PM
May 2015

I pray that your inevitable experience allows you more special and loving days with your best animal.

Worried senior

(1,328 posts)
18. I am sorry
Mon May 18, 2015, 06:46 PM
May 2015

for the loss of you beloved Casey.

We've had to put too many beloved pets down over the years and it is one of the hardest things a person has to do. It is sometimes harder than a person.

KT2000

(20,735 posts)
22. I'm so sorry.
Mon May 18, 2015, 06:59 PM
May 2015

Something tells me you both put up a good fight the last few years. It is so hard so I wish you peace.

 

floriduck

(2,262 posts)
23. Thank you all
Mon May 18, 2015, 07:00 PM
May 2015

For your support. I can't tell you how therapeutic it is to have others just know what I am feeling and experiencing.

Greybnk48

(10,310 posts)
26. Aw, so sorry to hear this.
Mon May 18, 2015, 07:06 PM
May 2015

I have two Bostons. They are special little dogs, so much fun. It sounds like you gave Casey a wonderful home. Feel better soon, knowing you took good care of him.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
28. It sucks, doesn't it? No other way to describe it. It's the worst feeling.
Mon May 18, 2015, 07:09 PM
May 2015

Been there more than I care to remember. It takes a while, it does ease, though you never forget.

You have my deepest sympathies.

Omaha Steve

(102,306 posts)
32. My dog and friend in grade school to Jr High was a Boston Terrier
Mon May 18, 2015, 07:23 PM
May 2015

We had relatives that breed them (humanly). We believe it was heart worm in 72 that took him from us. One of our daughters has a brown version. The Boston Terrier is one of the few dogs considered to be Made in America.

K&R!


 

MissDeeds

(7,499 posts)
33. I am so sorry, floriduck
Mon May 18, 2015, 07:28 PM
May 2015

I know it hurts like crazy. Two and a half years ago we had to have our twelve year old bichon put to sleep due to liver failure. He woke us up vomiting on Friday morning, and Monday morning we had to say goodbye. It absolutely broke my heart. He was an angel; sweet, kind, gentle, and showed me loads of love.

His brother and litter mate is nearly fifteen and in declining health. I know what's coming and dread it terribly.

Lots of hugs and healing thoughts as you face the days and weeks ahead. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

 

magical thyme

(14,881 posts)
34. godspeed, Casey
Mon May 18, 2015, 07:36 PM
May 2015


I'm so sorry for your loss, floriduck. Peace and healing to all of Casey's friends and family.
 

jtuck004

(15,882 posts)
37. Give yourself time, you will learn to manage it. And if you can find another dog to
Mon May 18, 2015, 07:50 PM
May 2015

sit with and touch, they will help drain that sadness away, and lick the tears too. If you do that, take chicken treats. Like it's a wake. 'Cause it is.

If you have no place at the ready, a suggestion is some place where the city houses animals before they turn their backs on them is a good place to go. A few of the cities still call these places "shelters".

But anyway, you could do each other some good in your time of need. Calm them, give you some perspective.

Hard at first (take a lot of tissue, don't let the dog eat it), but a week later you will understand why you did it.


Thank you for being a friend to Casey. You will be ok.

livetohike

(22,642 posts)
38. My sympathy on your loss of Casey. May all the good memories you have help
Mon May 18, 2015, 07:50 PM
May 2015

to ease the sadness of his final days. Casey will always be alive in your heart

We lost our dog Murphy two months ago. I'm still crying every day.

TNNurse

(7,036 posts)
41. To end his suffering is a great act of love.
Mon May 18, 2015, 08:05 PM
May 2015

I am so sorry for your loss. My Doggirl was my constant companion during my cancer treatment. Hers was not curable and I did not make her suffer with treatment. We put her down five days after my brother-in-law died in a lawn mower accident on our property. I found him. He was really dreading her loss..he was gone before she was. It was a tough time.

It has been two years. I miss both of them.

I hate liars

(165 posts)
42. Dogs are better people than we are...
Mon May 18, 2015, 08:05 PM
May 2015

I'm tearing up thinking about the loss of our beloved Bandit. Dogs are not only kindred spirits, they are in many ways better than we are.

Sincere condolences.

NBachers

(17,737 posts)
43. Good for you- you gave your dog the final act of love that all responsible pet owners need to do.
Mon May 18, 2015, 08:14 PM
May 2015

As hard as it is, when the time comes, it is your responsibility to act with mercy and compassion. You came through for your friend.

Thank you for doing the right thing, even though it breaks your heart. It's so hard - I know.

DawgHouse

(4,019 posts)
46. I am so very sorry for the loss of your faithful companion.
Mon May 18, 2015, 08:23 PM
May 2015

It's a fundamental flaw in nature that our pets do not live longer.

Casey was lucky to have you and you were lucky to have him.

ruffburr

(1,190 posts)
47. I'm so sorry
Mon May 18, 2015, 08:43 PM
May 2015

What can one say to the loss of your best friend and buddy, You will miss his love his slober his snoring his warmth in your arms the tears will come and will pass to a emptiness in soul but when the time is right another friend will come to you , Hopefully you will consider a rescue to pay homage to Casey and his kind. My heart goes out to you I've been there it will get better.

Fla Dem

(25,075 posts)
50. Another loyal, loving companion has crossed the rainbow bridge.
Mon May 18, 2015, 09:02 PM
May 2015

Casey will run and frolic as he did in his youth. Hugs and understanding in your time of lossand grief.

vankuria

(921 posts)
53. So very sorry
Mon May 18, 2015, 09:12 PM
May 2015

I know how hard it is to put your best friend in the world down...I hope you take comfort in your memories and also try to be good to yourself. After we had to put our dog down we decided to make a garden in his memory and it helped us get through the grief...but nothing takes away how much you miss them.

When the time is right I hope you adopt another furry friend, they can't replace what you lost, but they provide a wonderful opportunity to love again. Best wishes to you.

Lifelong Protester

(8,421 posts)
63. I am so sorry for your loss
Mon May 18, 2015, 10:51 PM
May 2015

I almost didn't click this because I knew what the story would be and it's sad. I've been there and know, it is only time that will heal.

fizzgig

(24,146 posts)
64. i am so sorry for the loss of your friend
Tue May 19, 2015, 12:08 AM
May 2015

i had to send my fat cat across the rainbow bridge a few months ago and i was crushed. let yourself grieve, let yourself cry and please accept a big from me.

SoCalDem

(103,856 posts)
67. We've been there too many times.. hugs to you and yours
Tue May 19, 2015, 01:50 AM
May 2015

The ONLY way I've come up with to feel better about these situations is to tell myself that their life would have been so much shorter/bleaker had we not rescued them (all our pets have been rescues),, and we gave them all we had, but mother nature always "wins"..

and the fact that they do not know they are dying..

Veterinary euthanasia is actually quite a blessing. Each time I have held them in my lap or sat on the floor cradling their head as they drifted off..without pain.. There is pain.. OURS ! but even that is a blessing because it reinforces how much we loved them and how much they will be missed..

My 40 year old son still has his dog's collar hanging on a peg in his kitchen.. Blanca died decades ago

No matter how long ago they passed, they are still alive in our hearts..

 

Triana

(22,666 posts)
73. I'm so sorry you've lost a family member
Tue May 19, 2015, 08:46 AM
May 2015

You did do what was best for your Casey. In the end, people sometimes choose to take on the pain so their furbaby no longer has to suffer. That's real love. And sometimes, it really really hurts.



TuxedoKat

(3,821 posts)
75. Ahh, so sorry
Tue May 19, 2015, 10:03 AM
May 2015

for the loss of your beloved Casey. I lost a beloved cat a year ago; I sympathize. Casey will always be in your heart. (((HUGS)))

niyad

(117,660 posts)
77. ((((((((floriduck)))))) it is heartbreaking and gutwrenching when we lose our beloved
Tue May 19, 2015, 11:42 AM
May 2015

companions. be good to yourself, and know that your precious little one is now free of pain, and in the summerland.

those we love never really leave us.

be kind to yourself, and take all the time you need to grieve.

Lunabell

(6,499 posts)
81. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved Casey.
Tue May 19, 2015, 01:22 PM
May 2015

I had a chihuahua with a collapsed trachea. It happens in little dogs. I had to have my beloved Menudo put down too, he was 14.


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tridim

(45,358 posts)
83. Fellow Boston lover/owner here.
Tue May 19, 2015, 01:50 PM
May 2015

I feel your pain.

My Boston is 14+, living with epilepsy which she wasn't predicted to survive past age 2. She has outlived all of my family's healthy Bostons by at least a year.

 

Liberalynn

(7,549 posts)
84. My sympathies
Tue May 19, 2015, 02:21 PM
May 2015

I know how hard it is to say goodbye to a four footed loved one! I do believe that they remain with us in spirit!

BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
85. it's so hard...so painful, when our babies need to go...
Tue May 19, 2015, 02:30 PM
May 2015

I know....

Grief...it's so damn hard.

My heart goes out to you.... ❤

Skittles

(156,742 posts)
87. so sorry floriduck
Tue May 19, 2015, 05:31 PM
May 2015

they take a pieces of our hearts with them

Grieve not,
nor speak of me with tears,
but laugh and talk of me
as if I were beside you...
I loved you so --
'twas Heaven here with you.

by Isla Paschal Richardson

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