Should there be a separate Forum for Sex Play/Talk?

[2banon]

I've been noticing a lot of discussion on sexual issues here recently.. Don't know if it's seasonal or trendy now? Lot's of subject headings decrying or defending something related.

Seems like there should be a separate Forum for this, like Religion, Guns etc.

Just curious, anyone else think the same?

17 votes, 0 passes | Time left: Unlimited
	The Subject on Sex Matters (issues of concern or just whatever) should have it's own Forum
	12 (71%)
	Nah, let GD continue to be the "go to" forum to engage in these discussions
	3 (18%)
	Other
	2 (12%)
	0 DU members did not wish to select any of the options provided.
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[Erich Bloodaxe BSN]

1. Sure. Put it over on Discussionist. nt

[hlthe2b]

2. ^^This^^

[el_bryanto]

4. That's quite a good suggestion. nt

[2banon]

7. So, your vote is "other"?

I presume?

[MADem]

30. First response, and best response--I agree entirely.

It'll boost the traffic over there, can't hurt. And it will clean up this place.

I think all Fifty Shades and Sex Threads should go over there.

I just saw the trailer for that stupid movie, and it said it wasn't coming out until VALENTINE'S DAY 2015....does that mean we're going to have to put up with these threads for another half year?

Gaaaah!

[Rex]

3. You mean like a romper room for adults?

Did that back in the AOLchat days. Lost the shirt.

[2banon]

5. Yes..LOL

[Rex]

9. DUchat...mns looking for a fns to have meaningful relationship with.

No cats.

[Scuba]

6. Nah, leave it in the Propaganda Debunking group.

[2banon]

8. Is that really a group? LOL!

[NuclearDem]

48. *Despunking

[Loudly]

10. What are you wearing, Jake from State Farm?

[RKP5637]

15. LOL!!!!!!

[MADem]

33. "She sounds HIDEOUS!!!"

The Commercial...for anyone who has not seen it:

[NuclearDem]

49. ...

[laundry_queen]

61. HAHA!

[get the red out]

11. I'm not offended by sex talk

But it would probably be easier on people who wanted to participate for them to have their own group.

[2banon]

12. exactly. not offended, but seems like..

maybe should be engaged in a more private setting.. . perhaps.

[2banon]

17. Hmm. was that supposed to be a personal slam on me?

[LanternWaste]

23. Hedonists on one side, prudes on the other... and both as likely to be as imaginary as not.

Hedonists on one side, prudes on the other... and both as likely to be as imaginary as not.

[NuclearDem]

50. Hedonism? I apologize for nothing!

[FSogol]

14. Dear Penthouse Forum, I never thought it would happen to me, but there I was in DU GD when...

[clarice]

16. Clarice says...GO for it. nt

[mahina]

19. Haven't seen them, haven't been here much, but a forum for singles would be nice.

[2banon]

20. :)

[moriah]

22. Online dating profiles really need a political leanings thing along with "smokes" "drinks", and...

... "has kids/doesn't want any"....

[moriah]

21. I'd be fine with it -- or fine with the old "No Sex Threads" rule.

Either way, GD won't be filled with people making value judgments about other people's sex lives, which can tend to get me livid enough to overshare.

[BainsBane]

24. The way you framed the question

tells me you have no understanding of at least half of the debate. Create a group like that if you want. I won't participate, which I'm sure many will see as a plus.

[2banon]

39. You're right. I don't know what is at issue, and guess what? I don't care!

And I don't care to see these headings in GD. I don't want to see my crafts discussions posted on GD, I'm happy that there are forums, for my music posts, appalachian discussions, crafts, foods in separate forums which I am subscribed to.. When I want to see discussions on those topics, I'm happy there's a special forum for those topics. The philosophical or sociological underpinnings of Sex Matters ought to have it's speial place just like Religion for instance, or books and lit. whatever. my opinion.

[BainsBane]

40. I suggest you use trash by keyword then

because you may be uninterested in gender violence, but many of us are, principally because it affects the lives of so many of us.

[2banon]

43. that's a different discussion, entirely

[TDale313]

57. It's really not.

That's pretty much what the issue was around these 50 Shades threads. Is the book glorifying/eroticizing sexual violence/abuse and is that a problem if it is. And whether thinking there were larger issues at stake equalled wanting censorship. And yes, that drifted into some general discussions about BDSM, and how the books portrayed or didn't portray that. This wasn't just fun porn talk.

[2banon]

66. I see. I thought it was yet another lame tv show..thnx for the insight.

[TDale313]

95. Happy to help if I did.

[Dark n Stormy Knight]

75. Very good, succinct summary of the 50 Shades threads.

Summaries so often are poorly written. I appreciate the good ones.

[TDale313]

93. Thanks

[Tuesday Afternoon]

78. While this is true and a very good assessment of what took place I still think there is nothing

wrong with having a group for these types of discussions/conversations.

I can see where it might go off the rails ... but, if we can reinvent DU into DU3 I don't see where there is the harm in trying something different. Notice the change in Hosting and the change from six to seven jurors ... DU is constantly reinventing it self.

[TDale313]

90. Mixed feelings.

It would depend on how it was handled and what was considered proper for that group. Also, how strict rules would be about topics appropriate there not bleeding into GD would be. What I would hate to see happen would be important issues, especially ones regarding rape or sexual violence, get banished to a sub forum on par with the gungeon. Handled correctly, I've got no major issues with the basic concept.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

100. Yes, I understand and also have mixed feelings about it but, am willing to try and see.

I hate the term "sexual violence" but, I guess consensual BDSM is what it is ....

But, political discussions involving women and the government definitely belong in GD. Yes.

[BainsBane]

60. That's the discussion you missed that you said you weren't interested in. nt

[steve2470]

25. BDSM/50 shades is the subject of the week....

Next week we might be talking about The Granny Peace Brigade or something dumb Kim Kardashian did.

[Coventina]

26. Agreed. This too, shall pass....

[villager]

27. If gun talk -- i.e., "chat about devices made for killing people" -- can have its own forum

Why the hell can't fucking?

[Tuesday Afternoon]

28. amen.

[Eleanors38]

86. The Gun group is already loaded down with penis.

In case no one has noticed.

[villager]

91. are we in danger of agreeing!?

[Eleanors38]

97. But the women! No insults for THEM? Discrimination, I say.

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[villager]

98. since you brought up "penis" -- please proceed!

[Eleanors38]

99. I can't think of an insult fot women with guns...

Not something I relate to. But there are probably 15,000,000+ of them. Something must work.

[MineralMan]

29. We Shall Name It the Porngeon!

Mote it be so!

[4Q2u2]

54. More like

Hand Grenades with Frenemies.

You will need Flame Resistant underwear, for sure it will be a non stop flame fest.

[MineralMan]

56. It's not going to happen, I'm sure, so it's not a worry.

[4Q2u2]

59. True

I think the Admins can see "Bad Idea" written all over it.

[blogslut]

31. It was tried for several years ago.

Someone wanted to have a sex-positive forum. As I explained then, it sounds good in theory but it would ridiculously hard to moderate.

[2banon]

44. I suppose it would be..

point taken.

[rug]

80. Wasn't that the point?

[valerief]

32. Shitty books should definitely be relegated to the Fiction group. nt

[Zorra]

34. "Hide it in a hiding place where no one ever goes;

put in the pantry with your cupcakes ...it's a little secret, just the Robinson's affair.

Most of all, you've got to hide it from the kids.

Koo-koo-ka-choo..."

~ Paul Simon

[2banon]

41. subscriptions to those interest groups put the discussions squarely on your radar.

and they do appear in "latest" threads. Not hidden at all.

[kickitup]

35. Only if it includes a long list of rules about what is acceptable for discussion and

some kind of guide on how to tell when criticism of a book or observations about sexual practices morphs magically into wanting to ban books/trying to control what consenting adults do in the bedroom/making value judgments.

[doxydad]

36. Anywhere but that stupid Discussionist.

YUCK.

[Quantess]

37. Hey, how about a separate forum for books we never read

but have a strong opinion about?

[kickitup]

62. You would have to have sub-forums. One for the people who support the book they

have never read and one for people who criticize it but have never read it, because apparently different rules exist. And then another for people who assume anyone voicing criticism has never read the book because those people apparently have trouble not jumping on a bandwagon of other people crying "book-burner." And one for people who think you have to read every word written in a genre to be able to take issue with certain themes specific to that genre.

[Quantess]

63. Where does "Harry Potter books are converting our children to Satanism" fit into your argument?

[kickitup]

64. I'm sure any criticism voiced against Harry Potter would be regarded as an attempt to burn the book.

Or at least it would here on DU.

[Quantess]

87. Harry Potter books actually have been banned from several school districts

and I am sure they have also been burned.

The whole underlying idea is that certain books are dangerous to read.

[LanternWaste]

65. Or making fun of Sarah Palin's new channel line-up without having watched it...?

Or making fun of Sarah Palin's new channel line-up without having watched it...?

[Trillo]

38. I'm not sure, so I haven't voted yet.

Has anyone else noticed that the 50 Shades threads started up about the same time as the Israeli actions? I'm wondering if it's all been just a big distraction, keep your thoughts on the genitals instead of the bombs and aggression in Israel and Palestine.

[2banon]

46. I've noticed that the Media is trying hard to change the subject

Not that THAT is news, but it seems like they're really pushing forward really lame stories up front to get all "excited" about, but burying the Israeli bombings of Gaza way late after a few stories following "the commercial break" in between weather and sports. That's what's I'm noticing in the media.

[Quantess]

55. Really? You think it's a dirty ploy to distract everyone?

It's not just Harry Reid saying we need to give Israel more money for defense?

[PeaceNikki]

42. Only if it's called "The Grotto"

a few here may get that....

[steve2470]

45. or "Plato's Retreat" :p nt

[In_The_Wind]

101. I have fond memories of Plato's Retreat.

[steve2470]

102. hmmm curious but I'm not going to pry lol nt

[In_The_Wind]

103. I was there in the early '70s.

Still have the black Teeshirt and membership card.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

77. Heard about it (before my time) And yes, that would be fine by me. Call it The Grotto. -

I am trying to decide how the SoP for the group would read and ... brings a whole new meaning to the term, Hosts.

[Aristus]

84. I GET IT!

I miss it...

[Tierra_y_Libertad]

47. Considering that sex is frequently a political issue...discussion of it seems apropos for GD.

[2banon]

69. hmm. how so? oh you mean as in the LGBT community?

[Tierra_y_Libertad]

83. As in abortion, homosexuality, civil liberties, health, economics.

[2banon]

92. Sure.. I'm thinking more along the lines of "pillow talk" stuff

you know, more intimate stuff, the sort of thing I'd consider as private. between the parties involved.

[NuclearDem]

51. After DUrk?

[2banon]

67. ok. i give up.. what does "DUrk"? stand for?

[NuclearDem]

73. After dark, but with DU instead of DA.

[2banon]

94. LOL! I thought maybe it was to rhyme with "Jerk"..

[bluestateguy]

52. Yes, with a proviso that people who are known to be prudes are told to KEEP OUT

nt

[CBGLuthier]

53. As long as the cat and the gokart threads can have a different place too.

GD is pretty damn useless any more.

[1StrongBlackMan]

58. Why does DU even NEED ...

Forum, separate or otherwise, for Sex Play/Talk?

I'm pretty certain there are other sites where Sex Play/Talk is not interrupted by political talk.

[2banon]

68. I dunno. apparently it's a subject that has certain appeal to some DU members,

which I wasn't aware of..before this past week.

OTH,,craigslist (I think) has forums for sex talk.. dunno for sure, though. i think I've noticed similar headings in the past.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

79. Then you are in favor to going back to the old DU2 policy of =

No Sex Threads Allowed. End of subject. End of Discussion. The End.

is this what you think best?

[1StrongBlackMan]

81. If you're talking about sex talk ...

for sex talk's sake, i.e., Not related to a larger gender issue, yes ... I'd have no problem with the move.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

82. Agreed and understand the difference but, I can see the subject derailed very easily, which is why

I voted for a group. Thanks.

[LWolf]

70. There's no good reason

that I can think of that discussion of sexual issues should need a dungeon.

[WillyT]

71. Yes !!!

It would be like an IP, with a Sexual Gungeon...



Of course... it might become the most popular forum on DU... taking energy away from GD...



Like that's a bad thing...

[Eleanors38]

88. HA! That's why controllers love the Gungeon: Penis.

The pro-2A women kinda get left out, though.

[bluedigger]

72. I thought that was what "Cooking and Baking" was for.

[NightWatcher]

74. Yippie, a sex dungeon. Just like the one at the ice cream man's house

I've said too much.

[Xolodno]

76. I voted....

yes...but don't think it should end there....


Let the Hedonist, Swingers, BDSM, Sexually liberated, etc. have their own forum.....BUTT...I mean but, also let the Prudes, Vanillas, Bashful, etc. have their own as well.

[aint_no_life_nowhere]

85. I'd never go there

Almost nothing is as boring to me as other people's sex lives.

[Reter]

89. That would be amazing, let's do it

n/t

[davidpdx]

96. No, we are all adults

If people don't like it, then they can use the trash thread button.

[2banon]

104. hmm