DUer 'onestepforward' has passed away.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:49 AM

Electric Monk (13,869 posts)

1. So sorry to hear that. R.I.P.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:52 AM

HangOnKids (4,291 posts)

2. Peace and Love

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:52 AM

JI7 (79,441 posts)

3. i'm so sorry

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:53 AM

silverweb (16,303 posts)

4. Oh, no...

[font color="navy" face="Verdana"]I'm so very sorry for your loss -- and sorry that I didn't really know her.

Thank you for letting us know.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:53 AM

RGinNJ (760 posts)

5. I am very sorry. RIP

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:54 AM

Paulie (8,458 posts)

6. I'm so sorry!

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:56 AM

Mnemosyne (21,363 posts)

7. I am so very sorry, AVA.

Please be kind to yourself.

I know.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:57 AM

nilram (2,285 posts)

8. sorry for your loss, I so enjoyed that post

Last edited Wed May 14, 2014, 12:55 AM - Edit history (2)

So sad for whatever onestepforward could not bear any longer and for your loss.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:00 AM

Behind the Aegis (46,645 posts)

9. I am very sorry for your loss.

In case you didn't know, there is a Bereavement (Group) at DU.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:01 AM

sheshe2 (67,535 posts)

10. I am so very sorry for your loss.

RIP Terri.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:01 AM

BainsBane (44,079 posts)

11. I am so very sorry

What a tragedy. My thoughts are with you and the rest of her family and friends.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:01 AM

polly7 (20,582 posts)

12. I'm so very sorry.

Peace and strength to you and yours.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:02 AM

DesertRat (26,833 posts)

13. I'm so sorry, Gabriel

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Peace be with you.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:03 AM

nadinbrzezinski (154,021 posts)

14. I am sorry for your loss

And if there is anything I can do, even if it is just moral support, do not hesitate to call for it. I am sure most people will not hesitate.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:05 AM

Hoyt (45,390 posts)

15. I am so sorry. I responded to that post of the beautiful fireflies.

I even sent the link to others.

My wife passed away unexpectedly a little over 5 years ago. Please let us know how you are doing.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:07 AM

StarryNite (5,440 posts)

16. I'm so very sorry.

R.I.P. Terri.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:07 AM

Le Taz Hot (22,271 posts)

17. Please accept our deepest condolences

to you and your family for this terrible loss. Please let us know if there is any way in which we can help ease your pain, even if just a little.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:10 AM

Ichingcarpenter (36,988 posts)

18. I'm sorry for your loss .. she will be missed on DU

You can see what she recommended and what she stood for....
I will miss her. RIP

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:11 AM

TexasTowelie (77,740 posts)

19. I'm so sad to read this news about Terri.

I'm also going through a tough period in my life and overdosed. She contacted me via DUmail at the end of last month and we exchanged a couple of messages that provided encouragement to me. She regularly posted on some of my OPs and I admired her as a kindred spirit.

I'm not very far away from your location and would be interested to attend a memorial service for her if any are being held.

Please accept my deepest condolences and pass it along to her family also. I will miss seeing her posts on DU.

I am going to cross-post this in the Texas Group since she was an active participant in that group so that others will see it.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:16 AM

Gravitycollapse (8,155 posts)

20. I don't know what to say. This is devastating. I hope you find respite from this storm...

in knowing that love never dies. It lives within us forever for as long as we give it residence.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:54 AM

nomorenomore08 (13,324 posts)

45. +1

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:22 AM

Fearless (18,417 posts)

21. .

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:22 AM

defacto7 (13,485 posts)

22. I am so sorry you have to walk through this...

What a terrible tragedy and a shock. Please be well. There is so little I can say but as a member of this community and the planet I wish you comfort, strength and the peace to move forward. Look to those fireflies.. follow the beauty of that moment.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:26 AM

denbot (8,111 posts)

23. I am very sorry for your loss.

No words can help. Her last post was passed to my wife, and she saved all the images and now are her wallpaper for both her work and private machines.

Again sorry for your loss.
Peace

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:28 AM

Duppers (20,185 posts)

24. I am also so very sorry.

I know your pain is almost too much to bear right now, so keep reaching out when you can.

As someone else said, please be kind to yourself. You're what we, here, have left of Terri.

{{{HUGS}}}

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:31 AM

Violet_Crumble (35,446 posts)

25. RIP Terri...

I'm so sorry for yr loss, Gabriel...

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:32 AM

intaglio (8,170 posts)

26. There's no comfort I can offer except share the weight

She loved you and us but the hellish illness of depression overcame her. Remember, you shared many good times and that you gave her the greatest gift - extended happiness.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:36 AM

No Vested Interest (4,508 posts)

27. So very sorry. I hope you will continue to find your way here

to DU, where solace is freely given to one's heartache.

I did not know Terri, but clearly she was special, and she will be missed.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:36 AM

RainDog (28,784 posts)

28. my deepest condolences

I'm so sorry, so very sorry to hear.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:39 AM

villager (26,001 posts)

29. What terrible, terrible news

Thank you for posting it here, as hard as that was to do.

Condolences, and please take care of yourself in this tough, tough time

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:39 AM

MADem (135,425 posts)

30. How horrific for you. I rec'd that post--thought the fireflies were quite amazing.

Can't imagine what you are feeling or how you're coping; suicide is something that the people left behind often have tremendous difficulty resolving in their minds. It's just not well understood, and it is terribly painful for family and friends. I am so sorry for your loss.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 11:23 AM

awoke_in_2003 (34,582 posts)

161. As did I...

I haven't seen fireflys since I moved to Texas.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:48 AM

mazzarro (3,443 posts)

31. So sorry about this - may she rest in peace

It is a tragedy that her DU family was not able to help her in her time of distress. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the rest of the family and friends.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:49 AM

barbtries (23,599 posts)

32. i am so sorry

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:50 AM

eridani (51,903 posts)

33. Sorry that you are going through this

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:53 AM

Solly Mack (79,176 posts)

34. I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm sorry for your loss.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:02 AM

Hekate (63,451 posts)

35. I'm so very sorry for you loss, AVA. May you find peace and healing for your pain...

... and may Terri rest in peace.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:07 AM

tofuandbeer (1,314 posts)

36. God. I'm sorry. Hold on dear Gabriel.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:15 AM

spooky3 (25,284 posts)

37. My sympathy to you.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:16 AM

davidpdx (22,000 posts)

38. Damn I really am sorry to hear that

I didn't know her unfortunately. We seem to be having a lot of deaths on DU lately.

I know how she feels and have been there on the edge way too many times. It makes me sad to hear about her passing.

I hope someone will at the end of the year put together a photo montage of all the people we lost so we can be reminded. I always don't catch these types of notices and I'm sure many other's don't either unless they are here a lot.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:24 AM

murielm99 (26,671 posts)

39. I am so very sorry.

Please stay in touch with us. I don't know what else to say. Maybe we can be of some comfort to you.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:29 AM

LibDemAlways (15,139 posts)

40. I am very saddened by this and hope that

memories of better days will help to sustain you and bring you comfort during this sad time and in the days, weeks, and months ahead. Sending sincere condolences and wishing you strength and peace.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:30 AM

MissDeeds (7,499 posts)

41. Oh my god

This breaks my heart. I am so sorry for you and your loss, and for the pain that dear "onestepforward" could not overcome. You both will be in my thoughts in the coming days.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:30 AM

area51 (8,791 posts)

42. I'm so sorry.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:36 AM

KT2000 (18,645 posts)

43. Oh no -

I remember that post. So very sad and I am so sorry for your loss.

Peace to you.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:45 AM

Unknown Beatle (2,559 posts)

44. I am so sorry for your loss.

RIP Terri

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:56 AM

Tsiyu (18,186 posts)

46. I am so sorry to hear this

My oldest sons' dad did this as well. I spent a lot of years feeling guilty, thinking I could have done something.

His own dad - who found him - helped me come to terms with that guilt.

It's funny, I was just talking about her firefly thread a few hours ago. My daughter called today and was talking about friends from California being amazed by fireflies. I was telling my daughter about onestepforward's thread and how cool it was, and how from that thread I learned there aren't fireflies everywhere in the US. I could SEE the images she posted so clearly in my head as I was describing them to her.

Then I click on that link to her last post and....just.......wow.

Thank you for telling us about this horrible loss. Please reach out to DU if and when you need someone to lean on. DU is a very supportive place.

We have lost a dear one. I can see that in her eyes.

RIP Terri Lea...

May you find peace

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:58 AM

mahina (12,090 posts)

47. Aloha oe, Onestepforward.

Peace to you, your husband and your ohana.

Sorry to see you go. A hui hou.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 04:00 AM

nomorenomore08 (13,324 posts)

48. I can't imagine the pain of losing her, especially this way. And it both bewilders and frightens me

that someone could take her own life so suddenly and (seemingly) without warning.

Depression is an awful, awful thing. For some it's as deadly as cancer.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 04:00 AM

KC (1,995 posts)

49. Thank you for letting us

know about Terri. This must be so hard for you. She will be missed here on DU!
RIP Terri

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Mon May 12, 2014, 04:00 AM

Cha (260,447 posts)

50. ..

RIP

Teri Lea Gwin~Marquez

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Mon May 12, 2014, 04:05 AM

Jim Lane (11,175 posts)

51. We will miss her. :(

I liked the fireflies but I see she was also the one who posted the baby meerkats last month: http://www.democraticunderground.com/1018602980

I sent that link to a couple people.

Best to you as you try to cope with your loss.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 04:09 AM

The Traveler (5,632 posts)

52. There are no words adequate for this

I am so sorry to hear this news. I wish I had words that were helpful at times like these but I don't. I know this hurts like hell, and it is going to take awhile for that to ease. Keep your friends close. Know you will find lots of support here, too. Take care, bud.

Trav

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Mon May 12, 2014, 04:39 AM

AverageJoe90 (10,745 posts)

53. My sincerest condolences to you, dear AVA. ='(

Terri will be missed by all of us. R.I.P.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 04:45 AM

Joe Shlabotnik (5,604 posts)

54. Oh my. I'm so sorry to hear of this tragedy.

What a loss for all. I sincerely hope that your family finds strength and peace and understanding as you work forward through this incredibly difficult time.

(and her final post was so beautiful too)

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Mon May 12, 2014, 04:51 AM

mnhtnbb (27,128 posts)

55. I am so very sorry to hear this.

I saw the thread she posted about the fireflies and just loved it!
Such magical photos.

While I didn't know Terri, I am so saddened to know that she was dealing
with so much pain that she could only find one way to make it stop. It must
be just utterly devastating for you. Please come here to DU to share your
grief. Sending cyberhugs.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 04:51 AM

AngryDem001 (684 posts)

56. I am so sorry.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 05:11 AM

shenmue (37,787 posts)

57. Rest in peace

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Mon May 12, 2014, 05:18 AM

malaise (215,549 posts)

58. Deepest sympathy to you and yours

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Mon May 12, 2014, 05:19 AM

napkinz (17,194 posts)

59. I'm so sorry ...

{{{{AllenVanAllen}}}}

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Mon May 12, 2014, 06:06 AM

Heather MC (6,912 posts)

60. My Condolences for your loss :-(

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Mon May 12, 2014, 06:10 AM

MerryBlooms (9,345 posts)

61. Oh no, I'm so sorry. Please accept my deepest condolences.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 06:20 AM

livetohike (20,293 posts)

62. My sympathy to you and your family and all who knew and loved Terri. May the good memories that you

have help to ease the sadness of her loss. Please stay with us on DU - our family will miss Terri's posts and are here for you.

Rest in peace Terri

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Mon May 12, 2014, 06:38 AM

theHandpuppet (19,964 posts)

63. My condolences to you and to family

She will be sorely missed but lovingly remembered.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 06:48 AM

Scuba (53,475 posts)

64. My condolences. RIP Terri.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 06:49 AM

maddezmom (135,060 posts)

65. So sorry to hear this

My condolences to you. RIP Terri.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 06:50 AM

Live and Learn (12,769 posts)

66. Arrgh, it is so hard to lose the compassionate and yet

so hard for them to accept and live in this utterly imperfect place.

Thank you for letting us now and my sincerest condolences to you.

On the rare occasion that I am fortunate to see a firefly, I will be definitely think of Terri and be reminded that good souls do exist.

Surviving a spouse, is always hard and losing one to suicide is nearly unbearable. But there is very little one can do to protect these sensitive souls from the world that they cannot bear.

I think DU is a refuge for many perceptive and sensitive individuals. It is extremely unfortunate that even those of like mind and those closest to an individual can't always be enough to shelter one from the sometimes unbearable realities of this life.

Again, my sincerest condolences upon your (and our) great loss.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 06:51 AM

brer cat (13,104 posts)

67. I am so sorry for your loss.

I will never see a firefly again without thinking of Terri. I hope that you find comfort in the memories she left behind.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 06:53 AM

cate94 (1,539 posts)

68. I am so very sorry

for your loss.

May Terri RIP

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Mon May 12, 2014, 06:57 AM

Hoppy (3,595 posts)

69. So sorry.

Be sure to take care of yourself.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 06:58 AM

azurnoir (45,850 posts)

70. Her last gift to DU was incredibly beautiful

may you find the strength and healing to get you through this

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:02 AM

Dorian Gray (10,484 posts)

71. I am so sorry

for your loss, her husband's loss and that she took her own life. Extraordinarily sad.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:08 AM

Cooley Hurd (26,877 posts)

72. I am profoundly saddened to hear of this...

My sincere condolences.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:10 AM

Proud Liberal Dem (20,301 posts)

73. So sorry :(

n/t

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:10 AM

Skidmore (37,364 posts)

74. So very sorry that she has left you and us.

Please accept my condolences and warm thoughts.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:13 AM

B Calm (28,762 posts)

75. I wish I had the words to ease your pain.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:19 AM

PeaceNikki (27,985 posts)

76. I am so very sorry for your loss. Peace and comfort.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:20 AM

Rhiannon12866 (119,207 posts)

77. OMG, I am so profoundly sorry!

Last edited Mon May 12, 2014, 08:07 AM - Edit history (1)

And I remember that post, recommended it early on, thought it was beautiful, as was she. Words fail me, thank you for letting us know and my heart goes out to you...

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:22 AM

Surya Gayatri (15,445 posts)

78. May the Universe give you comfort and ease your pain, Gabriel. I didn't know

Terri here, but the wish is no less sincere. Be sure to take good care of yourself . You are fragile and vulnerable right now.

P.S. Terri appears to be a wise soul. This life is but one step in a much greater journey and she has moved on.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:23 AM

SamKnause (11,744 posts)

79. I wish you the strength to endure this terrible loss.

I am truly sorry.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:23 AM

99Forever (14,524 posts)

80. ..

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:27 AM

whathehell (25,097 posts)

81. I am so sorry for your loss!

How good of you to think of us...Please take care of yourself, it must be so hard for you now.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:28 AM

Lefta Dissenter (6,237 posts)

82. Oh, my.

Words just can't express how sorry I am. I hope you are surrounded with loving people who can support you in this terribly difficult time.

I am so, so sorry.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:29 AM

AllyCat (11,758 posts)

83. I'm so sorry.

Thank you for letting us know. May peace come to your family in time. Godspeed Terri

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:30 AM

stonecutter357 (11,960 posts)

84. .

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:36 AM

Ferretherder (1,413 posts)

85. I hope you find the strength you need...

...to carry on without her. I will send all the positive vibes I can muster your way.

So sorry for your loss.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:39 AM

etherealtruth (22,165 posts)

86. I cannot adequately express how sorry I am

There are no words

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:46 AM

myrna minx (22,772 posts)

87. My heart aches for you and yours. She will be missed.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:52 AM

GentryDixon (2,736 posts)

88. I am deeply sorry for your loss.

May you find peace.

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TBF (31,859 posts)

89. I'm so sorry Gabriel -

Thanks for letting us know what happened and I will be keeping you in my thoughts.

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90. OMG.....I'm so sorry.....

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:02 AM

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91. Condolences to you.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:03 AM

GreenPartyVoter (69,747 posts)

92. Oh no! I am so, so sorry!

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:13 AM

Bossy Monkey (15,863 posts)

93. So so very sorry. All condolences. n/t

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:13 AM

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94. I am sorry for your loss. :(

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95. .

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:16 AM

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96. (((...)))

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:21 AM

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97. ....

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:23 AM

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98. may Peace be with you at this very difficult time. nt

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:24 AM

Call Me Wesley (38,187 posts)

99. Safe passage to Terri.

May she be free from suffering. Peace and comfort to you and yours.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:24 AM

BumRushDaShow (67,152 posts)

100. OMG I posted on her last thread

I am not a lounge lizard but her thread bubbled up on the front page showing a photographer's long-exposure pics of fireflies.

I hope her pain is gone now and she has joined the little lightning bugs in the glow of the universe.

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Tue May 13, 2014, 06:44 PM

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252. What a beautiful post.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:26 AM

MuseRider (30,312 posts)

101. I am so very sorry for your loss.

Keep breathing no matter how hard it is.

Sending wishes for peace for both you and Terri.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:28 AM

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102. ((Terri))

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:34 AM

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103. So sorry

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:34 AM

RKP5637 (59,050 posts)

104. I'm very saddened to hear this!

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:47 AM

marions ghost (19,841 posts)

105. Thank you

for sharing her story and yours. So sorry to hear. Glad that DU meant something important to Terri. We all need connections and affinity groups can be found.

It's obvious how much you cared AVA. We feel your grief and shock. Sometimes we don't have loved ones as long as we imagine we will and there's no fault or blame. This is the condition of life as we know it. It is fragile and fleeting. Beautiful and magical, and harsh as jagged rocks.

But now she flies with the fireflies in limitless freedom and joy.

May you find peace and wisdom through this.
Love is all,
marion

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:48 AM

lovemydog (11,833 posts)

106. May Terri rest in peace

and may you, Gabriel, honor her by living with a joyous spirit. Thank you for your post.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:48 AM

yellerpup (12,118 posts)

107. Such tragedy.

My heart goes out to all who loved her.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:48 AM

BarbaRosa (2,582 posts)

108. Oh no

I so sorry.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:53 AM

JustAnotherGen (27,163 posts)

109. Oh

My heart breaks for you.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:54 AM

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110. I'm so very sorry

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:55 AM

66 dmhlt (1,940 posts)

111. May all the fond memories you have of her be a balm in your time of sorrow ...

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:56 AM

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112. So very sorry.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:01 AM

Sissyk (12,665 posts)

113. I'm so very sorry for your loss, AllenvanAllen!

Please surround yourself with family and friends.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:04 AM

rurallib (55,078 posts)

114. she will be greatly missed

condolences from the rurallib family

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:07 AM

City Lights (25,171 posts)

115. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

May you find peace...

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:10 AM

antiquie (4,299 posts)

116. <<<<comfort>>>>

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:14 AM

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117. .

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:21 AM

TeeYiYi (8,028 posts)

118. (((((((Gabriel Marquez)))))))...

I am so sorry.

May she find peace.

TYY

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:24 AM

greatauntoftriplets (171,333 posts)

119. My deepest condolences for your loss.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:27 AM

merrily (45,250 posts)

120. Thank you for letting us know. Also, thank you for the link to her post, which was lovely.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

I don't know what else to say. I wish I did.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:30 AM

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121. So sorry so sad

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:33 AM

matt819 (8,897 posts)

122. Condolences

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Great last post.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:36 AM

AllenVanAllen (3,134 posts)

123. thank you so much everyone. i am so very touched by all of you kind words.

my heart is broken. this world has lost one the most beautiful, kind and caring souls i've ever met. she showed me how to use my wings. she told my how to reach the stars. she inspired me to be brave and open my heart to let in healing light and chase away darkness. she was my greatest teacher and my best friend. she was miraculous, she was magic. she was true depth. she made me a better man. this beautiful girl, i still feel her now. she moves inside me. she will live within me for all of my days. yes, my heart is broken and i'll never be the same but i am so grateful for every moment i had with her. i was so lucky to have shared part of her journey with her. and in my heart i feel her journey is far from over.

i love you my darling wife. i will carry you in my heart forever

this was her favorite song. she adored this version and to me it feels like her theme. it describes her heart. yes, it does so well.

i'll let everyone know information about the visitation on saturday the 17th here in houston texas later on today. thank you guys.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 12:02 PM

toby jo (1,269 posts)

171. Such true and gentle emotions. She was in such good hands…

... a Vincent with her starry night.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:39 AM

Puglover (16,380 posts)

124. I am so sorry Gabriel.

I wish you strength and healing.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:39 AM

Tuesday Afternoon (56,912 posts)

125. I am so sorry to see this. My condolences to you. May she rest in peace.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:41 AM

Evergreen Emerald (12,672 posts)

126. Such a loss.

I enjoyed reading her posts. I am so sorry for your loss. It is heartbreaking. My best to you.

Emmy

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:43 AM

sybylla (7,652 posts)

127. How very difficult for you and her husband.

I had a brother-in-law commit suicide. It's a completely different kind of death to mourn, with different obstacles to overcome. There's still a lot of stigma in our society for suicide. And a ridiculous amount of blaming family and friends who didn't (and couldn't possibly) find a way to stop it.

There are organizations out there to help you and onestepforward's husband and family deal with it all. My local org is called Survivors Of Suicide (SOS) because that's exactly what you need to do - find a way to survive the suicide of a loved one.

If you need someone to talk to who understands and won't judge, message me and I will give you my contact info.

I am so sorry for your loss. May you find comfort in knowing you were a friend to someone who truly needed one.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:44 AM

hrmjustin (71,265 posts)

128. I am so sorry for your loss.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:45 AM

gademocrat7 (7,588 posts)

129. I am very sorry for your loss.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:46 AM

panader0 (20,876 posts)

130. So sorry RIP Terri....

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:46 AM

Beaverhausen (23,571 posts)

131. I'm very sorry for your loss

Condolences to you and your family.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:49 AM

graywarrior (59,440 posts)

132. So so sorry, Gabriel

Peace and love.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:52 AM

William769 (50,830 posts)

133. So sorry to hear this.

May she rest in peace.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:53 AM

sinkingfeeling (42,646 posts)

134. You have my deepest condolences.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:56 AM

Sissyk (12,665 posts)

135. I'd like to leave you with this.

The Dragonfly Story
Once, in a little pond, in the muddy water
under the lily pads, there lived a little water beetle
in a community of water beetles. They lived a simple
and comfortable life in the pond with few
disturbances and interruptions.

Once in a while, sadness would come to the community
when one of their fellow beetles would climb
the stem of a lily pad and would never be seen again.
They knew when this happened; their friend was dead,
gone forever.

Then, one day, one little water beetle felt
an irresistible urge to climb up that stem.
However, he was determined that he would not leave forever.
He would come back and tell his friends
what he had found at the top.

When he reached the top and climbed out of the water
onto the surface of the lily pad, he was so tired,
and the sun felt so warm, that he decided he must take a nap.

As he slept, his body changed and when he woke up,
he had turned into a beautiful blue-tailed dragonfly
with broad wings and a slender body designed for flying.

So, fly he did! And, as he soared he saw the beauty
of a whole new world and a far superior way of life
to what he had never known existed.
Then he remembered his beetle friends
and how they were thinking by now he was dead.
He wanted to go back to tell them,
and explain to them that he was now more alive
than he had ever been before.
His life had been fulfilled rather than ended.

But, his new body would not go down into the water.
He could not get back to tell his friends the good news.
Then he understood that their time would come,
when they, too, would know what he now knew.
So, he raised his wings and flew off
into his joyous new life!

~Author Unknown~
from MountainWings.com

It helped my young nephews through the hard time of the loss of their mother. Then, me through the loss of my younger brother even though it was meant, I think, for kids.

Since Terri liked fireflies I figure she would like dragonflies. And you will start noticing them all around you; their beauty, grace, and poise.

Peace to you, AllenVanAllen!

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:57 AM

WillyT (72,631 posts)

136. (((((((onestepforward)))))))

Peace...

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Mon May 12, 2014, 09:58 AM

TorchTheWitch (11,065 posts)

137. OMG how tragic!

I'm so very sorry! I never seem to know the right thing to say in times like these, but both you and her are in my thoughts and prayers.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:04 AM

riverwalker (8,586 posts)

138. so sorry

Gabriel, we are all here for you.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:13 AM

scarletwoman (30,861 posts)

139. I can't imagine the pain of losing a loved one this way.

May you find peace and strength.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:15 AM

mopinko (56,803 posts)

140. it's not your fault. it doesn't mean she didn't love you.

i think a lot of women depressives love so hard it is like an undertow.
and tho this was perhaps a preventable tragedy, that doesnt mean that the tools were in the right hands at the right time with just the right thing to say. nobody knows what that would have been for her.

to you and yours. she was a lovely woman. embrace your broken heart. it is the only one you have.

xoxoxoxoxooxo

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:15 AM

LoisB (1,553 posts)

141. I am so sorry.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:16 AM

valerief (53,235 posts)

142. RIP, Terri. nt

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:20 AM

cyberswede (26,117 posts)

143. Very sorry to hear this.

Condolences to you and your family.

Her last post was beautiful.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:24 AM

2naSalit (44,161 posts)

144. ...

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:30 AM

greatlaurel (1,998 posts)

145. Please accept my condolences.

Thank you for letting us know. Be extra gentle with yourself and take care during this difficult time.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:35 AM

Sheepshank (12,504 posts)

146. sometimes wanting peace is everything

I am so sorry for such devastating news. Gentle hugs to you and the rest of the family dealing with such tragedy.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:36 AM

nolabear (36,568 posts)

147. I am so, so sorry. I hope you find peace.

She was lovely, as were the bits of herself shared here. I hope you'll know your sorrow is echoed by those of us who knew her even a little.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:37 AM

Greybnk48 (8,533 posts)

148. ...

Please accept my sincere sympathy. She will be missed.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:38 AM

magical thyme (14,881 posts)

149. I am so very, very sorry for your loss...

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:39 AM

Tom_Foolery (4,655 posts)

150. So sorry for your loss...

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:40 AM

LiberalLoner (7,584 posts)

151. I am so sorry for your loss.

Not many posts on DU make me cry. This one did.

I am so sorry. May the angels comfort you during this time of grieving.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:41 AM

armed_and_liberal (246 posts)

152. My condolences

Very sad to hear of your loss, I lost a loved one to suicide some years ago and it still hurts.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:42 AM

Coventina (21,793 posts)

153. Hugs to you Gabriel, at this difficult time.

{{{Gabriel}}}

Please let us know how you are doing.

I remember, from my own losses, how long the process of grieving can be.

This community will be here for you, every step of the way.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:42 AM

bigtree (76,803 posts)

154. very sad

. . .

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:42 AM

MoonRiver (34,228 posts)

155. I am so, so sorry for your loss.

R.I.P. Terri

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:44 AM

kairos12 (9,135 posts)

156. No words could express how sorry I am to hear this. My condolences to her entire family.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:46 AM

Amaril (1,265 posts)

157. So very, very sorry for your loss.

Know that we're all here for you, Gabriel.

Rest peacefully, Terri.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:48 AM

CrispyQ (28,501 posts)

158. My sympathies to you & your loved ones.

Rest in Peace, onestepforward. You will be missed.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:49 AM

octoberlib (12,354 posts)

159. My deepest sympathies to you and your family.

I will forever think of onestepforward whenever I see a firefly.

"What we have once enjoyed, we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes part of us." -Helen Keller

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Mon May 12, 2014, 11:12 AM

broadcaster75201 (387 posts)

160. Horribly sad. I am so sorry. n/t

nt

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Mon May 12, 2014, 11:26 AM

MissB (13,192 posts)

162. I am so very sorry

I loved that last post of hers.

I'm terribly sorry for your loss.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 11:33 AM

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163. May she rest in peace

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Mon May 12, 2014, 11:34 AM

Eleanors38 (18,318 posts)

164. My deep condolences. This is so sad.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 11:35 AM

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165. There are no words.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 11:43 AM

cp (2,679 posts)

166. We share your sorrow

Dear Gabriel,
Three of our friends have lost loved ones to suicide. It's a terrible loss.
When you are ready, this is an excellent book:
Suicide survivors : a guide for those left behind, by Adina Wrobleski, Minneapolis, Minn. : Suicide Awareness Voices of Education, 2002. (at most public libraries or http://www.save.org)
Please be kind to yourself and let others give you kindness. We care about you.
cp family

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Mon May 12, 2014, 11:50 AM

niyad (71,029 posts)

167. so very sorry for your loss, gabriel. may you find peace and comfort. and know that

DU is a family, and your family is here for you.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 11:56 AM

elleng (100,074 posts)

168. Oh my goodness.

Thank you for posting, and our thoughts are with you.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 12:00 PM

ScreamingMeemie (68,918 posts)

169. Gabriel, I am so sorry.

I will keep you in my thoughts.

It is hard. So very, very hard. Know that you are not alone.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 12:01 PM

mokawanis (3,819 posts)

170. So sorry to hear this

My condolences to you and to other family and friends.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 12:24 PM

PumpkinAle (1,210 posts)

172. Condolences Gabriel

and may Terri RIP.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 12:24 PM

glinda (14,807 posts)

173. Am sorry for your loss, Gabriel. She

looked and seemed to be an amazing human. So sorry she was sad and could not stay with you or us. This is deeply and sincerely heartbreaking news. What a gentle, lovely and thoughtful soul she seemed to be.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 12:25 PM

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174. Terri!!!!!

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Mon May 12, 2014, 12:26 PM

steve2470 (36,199 posts)

175. my sincerest condolences to you and your family nt

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Mon May 12, 2014, 12:39 PM

Feral Child (2,086 posts)

176. Very sad.

Sincere condolences, Gabriel.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 12:41 PM

locks (1,870 posts)

177. I loved the great pictures of fireflies

as I don't get to see them in the west. She will be sorely missed, I'm sure. Thank you for the post and we will all be thinking of you.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 12:45 PM

Tikki (13,621 posts)

178. We are so very sorry for your loss..

The Tikkis

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Mon May 12, 2014, 12:51 PM

CherokeeDem (3,672 posts)

179. I am so very sorry...

May you and your family find peace in her memory....

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Mon May 12, 2014, 12:54 PM

nclib (954 posts)

180. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:03 PM

virgdem (1,731 posts)

181. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved wife...

May she rest in eternal peace!

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:05 PM

Lifelong Protester (8,345 posts)

182. My sympathies to you

I am so sorry for your loss-words seem pretty inadequate.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:08 PM

Marrah_G (28,581 posts)

183. I am so sorry

She was beautiful and talented.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:10 PM

joeybee12 (56,177 posts)

184. So very sorry to hear this...I hope she's at peace

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:18 PM

Blue_In_AK (46,436 posts)

185. My sincere condolences.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:19 PM

joanbarnes (1,621 posts)

186. Speechless......deepest sympathy to you and all who love her.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:23 PM

SoCalDem (103,838 posts)

187. She was a beautiful person ..inside and out..she will be missed

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:29 PM

LiberalEsto (22,845 posts)

188. My deepest condolences to you and your family

and remember, we are here for YOU if you need to vent, or need good vibes, or cyberhugs, or just to hang around.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:34 PM

uppityperson (114,281 posts)

189. Oh no. I am so sorry, loved that firefly post and am just so sorry.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:38 PM

ChisolmTrailDem (9,463 posts)

190. Oh my, Gabriel... I am so, so sorry for your loss...

We lost my stepson to suicide last September. Even so, I can't imagine what you must be feeling. All my best to you and your family. Hang in there, Gabriel, and please let us know if you need anything or just want to talk.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 01:45 PM

herding cats (16,246 posts)

191. I'm deeply sorry for your loss

My thoughts are with you.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:16 PM

Worried senior (1,327 posts)

192. I am very sorry for your loss

She was a beautiful person.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:23 PM

angel823 (401 posts)

193. no words

Nothing we can say will help much, probably, but know we are here.

Gabriel, if your profile is up to date, I am close by. If you or your family need anything, please pm me.

Angel in Texas

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Mon May 12, 2014, 02:27 PM

Fumesucker (45,851 posts)

194. Such a beautiful last post

Fitting I think.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:20 PM

Damansarajaya (625 posts)

195. Deepest sympathies.

In these photos, she looks thoughtful and kind.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:24 PM

Liberal_in_LA (44,397 posts)

196. omg. so sad.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:33 PM

louslobbs (2,635 posts)

197. So sorry to hear this. Take care of yourself during this difficult time and remember to breathe.

This is just so sad.
Lou

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:33 PM

MannyGoldstein (34,589 posts)

198. So sad.

Peace to you.

- Manny

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:34 PM

TygrBright (18,257 posts)

199. Oh, Gabriel... so VERY sorry...

Some things you need to know, if you don't know already:

It was her decision. Whatever the specific brain disorder that made life so unbearable for her, it wasn't your "fault" or ANYONE's. It's a complex disease, and sometimes, like now, that fucker wins.

There are people who want to help you: Let them. Even though the pain is still raw and fresh and awful and you may want distance and only the most familiar loved ones, it's BECAUSE that pain is so awful that you and Terri's other dear ones need some help from professionals experienced with this situation. Please seek it out, and accept it.

Be with friends, be with loved ones all you can. Grieve. Do not let the shame and doubt and anger and all the other baggage that goes with suicide derail the process. No matter HOW she died, Terri has died, and you have the loss to deal with.

You have friends here. Terri's friends, your friends. Yeah, it's only an "online community," but you know what? The cool thing about online communities is that we're here, 24/7. A few keystrokes away. We're here during the sleepless nights, the empty times. Use us.

Finally-- this is a bit of wisdom passed on from a family member after her brother (a cousin of mine) killed himself: "It hurt too much for him to be himself here. It hurt too much for my love to reach him, maybe. Now that he's not here, I still have that love, it's all still here, and it's here because of him. He'd want me to do something positive with that love, since he couldn't. It's the best thing I can do for him."

Live.

Grieve.

Love.

respectfully,
Bright

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:36 PM

aikoaiko (31,130 posts)

200. My condolences to you and everyone else who knew and loved her.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:40 PM

get the red out (13,379 posts)

201. I am so sorry

I wish for healing for her friends and family.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 03:57 PM

freshwest (53,661 posts)

202. So sorry to hear this. No words I can say will be enough. Sorry is all I have.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 04:05 PM

Squinch (33,699 posts)

203. I am so sorry.

You and she are in my thoughts. I wish you peace.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 04:14 PM

nashville_brook (20,958 posts)

204. i am so incredibly sorry for your loss

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Mon May 12, 2014, 04:14 PM

TxDemChem (1,879 posts)

205. My condolences to you and your family

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Mon May 12, 2014, 04:48 PM

AllenVanAllen (3,134 posts)

206. my god, once again thank all of you so much.

the outpouring of love and support has touched me so deeply and made it possible for me to start to make it through this terrible loss. i can't thank all of you enough. i wanted to let everyone know we're going to have a visitation for Terri on Saturday the 17th from 2:00 pm to 5:00 pm at Santana Funeral Directors located at 401 Ssgt. Macario Garcia Drive, Houston TX 77011 ph. (713) 921-3000

everyone is welcome. thank you so much.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 04:52 PM

Rider3 (918 posts)

207. My deepest condolences

She was a beautiful person.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 05:20 PM

WheelWalker (7,541 posts)

208. and the wheel turns

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Mon May 12, 2014, 05:29 PM

struggle4progress (109,144 posts)

209. .

hoping your memories of better times will comfort you

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Mon May 12, 2014, 05:32 PM

KBlagburn (550 posts)

210. My thoughts and prayers for you and the family

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Mon May 12, 2014, 05:42 PM

rhett o rick (55,981 posts)

211. My condolences. nm

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Mon May 12, 2014, 05:44 PM

Starry Messenger (32,323 posts)

212. (((hugs)))

I'm very sorry for your loss. Peace to you and your family.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 05:44 PM

silvershadow (10,336 posts)

213. I am so truly sorry for your loss. As a suicide survivor myself, I urge you to reach out

for support wherever you can. There are survivors groups all over the country, hopefully you can find one close. My thoughts are with you.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 05:47 PM

Ohio Joe (15,469 posts)

214. my condolences

RIP

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Mon May 12, 2014, 06:02 PM

angstlessk (11,496 posts)

215. I have no words...except she was a beautiful woman

k&R

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Mon May 12, 2014, 06:05 PM

democrank (10,199 posts)

216. I`m so very sorry.

RIP~

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Mon May 12, 2014, 06:19 PM

JesterCS (1,771 posts)

217. hug So Sorry for your loss n/t

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Mon May 12, 2014, 06:25 PM

countryjake (8,554 posts)

218. All of my sympathies to you, Gabriel

Peace to Terri

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Mon May 12, 2014, 06:35 PM

Ilsa (56,295 posts)

219. She was so lovely. My condolences to your family. nt

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Mon May 12, 2014, 06:45 PM

pacalo (24,714 posts)

220. I'm so, so sorry...

This is heartbreaking.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:07 PM

Boomerproud (4,087 posts)

221. Words cannot convey our sense of mourning for Terri

Gabriel, your two posts have already had a healing effect and you are a remarkable man for even posting in your time of loss. Please let all of DU help you.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:15 PM

alsame (7,784 posts)

222. Deepest condolences to

you and all who loved her

RIP Terri, you will be missed here

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:19 PM

Lisa0825 (14,193 posts)

223. I didn't personally know her or you, but I am so very sorry....

So sorry she was hurting, whatever the reason, and so sorry for the pain you are enduring now. I wish I could give you a hug for real.

((((((((((HUGS))))))))))

I wish there were something I could say that could help, but I know it's impossible. I hope that knowing so many people care is at least some small comfort to you.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:30 PM

AAO (3,300 posts)

224. I'm so sorry, Gabriel. Thank you, for letting us know.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:31 PM

msanthrope (37,549 posts)

225. I am so sorry for your loss. I wish you peace and calm. nt

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:33 PM

randys1 (16,286 posts)

226. Never see fireflies again without thinking of her, and I dont know her, new here...so sorry

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:39 PM

snacker (3,532 posts)

227. Hugs to you...

I'm so sorry. Peace.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 07:47 PM

Curmudgeoness (18,219 posts)

229. How tragic! I am so sorry for your loss.

I really enjoyed her last post.....may fireflies light her way.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:08 PM

calimary (59,480 posts)

230. OMG! I just saw this. DAMN.

I can't tell you how sorry I am to hear this. I'm so sorry! Thank you for posting this so we know. After awhile when one doesn't see a post from them, one does start wondering. I'm so sorry. Be at peace, at last, Terri Lea. And Gabriel - you have all our prayers and sympathies. You do not mourn alone.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:18 PM

xfundy (5,105 posts)

231. The pain that exists in the mind dwarfs physical pain.

I've been there. I'm so sorry she couldn't go on and be there for you.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:23 PM

Jefferson23 (30,099 posts)

232. Your beautiful wife, I am so sorry. n/t

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:46 PM

appal_jack (3,813 posts)

233. Condolences to you, Gabriel.

Condolences to you, Gabriel. I am so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful last post onestepforward gave us all.

As Mary Mother Jones said long ago, "Pray for the dead and fight like hell for the living."

-app

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:47 PM

NRaleighLiberal (51,335 posts)

234. .

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:48 PM

Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin (53,982 posts)

235. How sad

My condolences to her family.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:49 PM

Terra Alta (5,158 posts)

236. sorry for your loss.

She was beautiful. May she rest in peace.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:51 PM

go west young man (4,856 posts)

237. My sincere condolences....

her photography is amazing. A little dedication to an artful spirit who has flown to the sky. Peace to you.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 08:52 PM

ClusterFreak (2,901 posts)

238. I am so terribly sorry for your loss.

Your tribute to your late wife is very moving and inspirational.

I hope you find peace in the days, months and years ahead.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:09 PM

FourScore (9,704 posts)

239. This is just too sad. I am so sorry for your loss Gabriel...

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:48 PM

renate (12,892 posts)

240. That is so sad, and I am so very sorry

What a terrible loss, and I am so sorry for your pain as well as for hers.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 10:58 PM

cordelia (2,174 posts)

241. I am so very, very sorry.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 11:01 PM

Autumn (38,881 posts)

242. I'm so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful soul she was.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 11:02 PM

BlancheSplanchnik (19,659 posts)

243. I wish we could heal your pain....

Please seek out support and compassion. You need that now and for the long haul. I am so so sorry.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 11:05 PM

senseandsensibility (13,273 posts)

244. I am glad that you reached out to DU

There are many words of wisdom and comfort on this thread, most much more eloquent than anything I can add. I know that you are experiencing enormous, unimaginable pain. Please don't blame yourself. It's good that you are sharing your pain, and I hope that you find peace.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 11:08 PM

Kaleva (25,589 posts)

245. From now on, whenever I see fireflies, I'll think of onestepforward.

So very sorry for your loss.

RIP Terri.

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Mon May 12, 2014, 11:14 PM

LeftyMom (49,212 posts)

246. I'm so sorry for your loss. She was lovely.

If she had a cause she supported where you'd like donations sent in her honor, can you please let us know?

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Tue May 13, 2014, 12:21 AM

Triana (22,666 posts)

247. OMG. I am so sorry AVA.

She was beautiful. That long-exposure firefly post was one of my favorites! I shared it outside of DU because it was beautiful and fascinating.

My heart goes out to you.

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Tue May 13, 2014, 12:30 AM

noiretextatique (27,238 posts)

248. my deepest sympathies

may she rip

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Tue May 13, 2014, 12:10 PM

ladyVet (1,587 posts)

249. I'm so sorry. My thoughts with you and your family.

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Tue May 13, 2014, 06:00 PM

AllenVanAllen (3,134 posts)

250. all of you are wonderful

this is why terri loved her DU family so much. i am more moved and touched than my words can convey. thank you. thank you so much.

"You thinking of me a year before we met"

i have this pic on my work table in my studio and it always ticked the shit out of me.

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Tue May 13, 2014, 06:09 PM

warrprayer (4,734 posts)

251. Farewell onestepforward

and thanks for making this such a great place

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Tue May 13, 2014, 09:27 PM

yaddle (2 posts)

253. She was magic, she will be missed <3

<3

“I learned about the sacred art of self decoration with the monarch butterflies perched atop my head, lightning bugs as my night jewelry, and emerald-green frogs as bracelets.”

― Clarissa Pinkola Estés

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Tue May 13, 2014, 10:11 PM

3catwoman3 (15,263 posts)

254. You speak so eloquently of the many ways your wife...

...touched your life, and what a special person you found her to be. To be able to do this at such a stressful time tells me that you must be an equally remarkable person. I hope you find the strength you need, both within yourself, and from those around you.

You may find people speaking of closure, and making suggestions about how to achieve it. Many of us who have adjusted to life after the loss of a beloved person feel that closure is an elusive and probably non-existent state. We do not "get over" such losses. Rather, you learn to adjust to a new existence. There will still be reasons to cherish your own life and to take joy in things, but perspective will be forever altered.

People will want to help, and will want to know how they can. Tell them not to be afraid to share their memories. People often hesitate to do this for fear of making you sad. Knowing the affection with which your wife is remembered by others who loved her can be helpful.

255 replies	Author	Time	Post
DUer 'onestepforward' has passed away. (Original post)	AllenVanAllen	May 2014	OP
So sorry to hear that. R.I.P.	Electric Monk	May 2014	#1
Peace and Love	HangOnKids	May 2014	#2
i'm so sorry	JI7	May 2014	#3
Oh, no...	silverweb	May 2014	#4
I am very sorry. RIP	RGinNJ	May 2014	#5
I'm so sorry!	Paulie	May 2014	#6
I am so very sorry, AVA.	Mnemosyne	May 2014	#7
sorry for your loss, I so enjoyed that post	nilram	May 2014	#8
I am very sorry for your loss.	Behind the Aegis	May 2014	#9
I am so very sorry for your loss.	sheshe2	May 2014	#10
I am so very sorry	BainsBane	May 2014	#11
I'm so very sorry.	polly7	May 2014	#12
I'm so sorry, Gabriel	DesertRat	May 2014	#13
I am sorry for your loss	nadinbrzezinski	May 2014	#14
I am so sorry. I responded to that post of the beautiful fireflies.	Hoyt	May 2014	#15
I'm so very sorry.	StarryNite	May 2014	#16
Please accept our deepest condolences	Le Taz Hot	May 2014	#17
I'm sorry for your loss .. she will be missed on DU	Ichingcarpenter	May 2014	#18
I'm so sad to read this news about Terri.	TexasTowelie	May 2014	#19
I don't know what to say. This is devastating. I hope you find respite from this storm...	Gravitycollapse	May 2014	#20
+1	nomorenomore08	May 2014	#45
.	Fearless	May 2014	#21
I am so sorry you have to walk through this...	defacto7	May 2014	#22
I am very sorry for your loss.	denbot	May 2014	#23
I am also so very sorry.	Duppers	May 2014	#24
RIP Terri...	Violet_Crumble	May 2014	#25
There's no comfort I can offer except share the weight	intaglio	May 2014	#26
So very sorry. I hope you will continue to find your way here	No Vested Interest	May 2014	#27
my deepest condolences	RainDog	May 2014	#28
What terrible, terrible news	villager	May 2014	#29
How horrific for you. I rec'd that post--thought the fireflies were quite amazing.	MADem	May 2014	#30
As did I...	awoke_in_2003	May 2014	#161
So sorry about this - may she rest in peace	mazzarro	May 2014	#31
i am so sorry	barbtries	May 2014	#32
Sorry that you are going through this	eridani	May 2014	#33
I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm sorry for your loss.	Solly Mack	May 2014	#34
I'm so very sorry for you loss, AVA. May you find peace and healing for your pain...	Hekate	May 2014	#35
God. I'm sorry. Hold on dear Gabriel.	tofuandbeer	May 2014	#36
My sympathy to you.	spooky3	May 2014	#37
Damn I really am sorry to hear that	davidpdx	May 2014	#38
I am so very sorry.	murielm99	May 2014	#39
I am very saddened by this and hope that	LibDemAlways	May 2014	#40
Oh my god	MissDeeds	May 2014	#41
I'm so sorry.	area51	May 2014	#42
Oh no -	KT2000	May 2014	#43
I am so sorry for your loss.	Unknown Beatle	May 2014	#44
I am so sorry to hear this	Tsiyu	May 2014	#46
Aloha oe, Onestepforward.	mahina	May 2014	#47
I can't imagine the pain of losing her, especially this way. And it both bewilders and frightens me	nomorenomore08	May 2014	#48
Thank you for letting us	KC	May 2014	#49
..	Cha	May 2014	#50
We will miss her. :(	Jim Lane	May 2014	#51
There are no words adequate for this	The Traveler	May 2014	#52
My sincerest condolences to you, dear AVA. ='(	AverageJoe90	May 2014	#53
Oh my. I'm so sorry to hear of this tragedy.	Joe Shlabotnik	May 2014	#54
I am so very sorry to hear this.	mnhtnbb	May 2014	#55
I am so sorry.	AngryDem001	May 2014	#56
Rest in peace	shenmue	May 2014	#57
Deepest sympathy to you and yours	malaise	May 2014	#58
I'm so sorry ...	napkinz	May 2014	#59
My Condolences for your loss :-(	Heather MC	May 2014	#60
Oh no, I'm so sorry. Please accept my deepest condolences.	MerryBlooms	May 2014	#61
My sympathy to you and your family and all who knew and loved Terri. May the good memories that you	livetohike	May 2014	#62
My condolences to you and to family	theHandpuppet	May 2014	#63
My condolences. RIP Terri.	Scuba	May 2014	#64
So sorry to hear this	maddezmom	May 2014	#65
Arrgh, it is so hard to lose the compassionate and yet	Live and Learn	May 2014	#66
I am so sorry for your loss.	brer cat	May 2014	#67
I am so very sorry	cate94	May 2014	#68
So sorry.	Hoppy	May 2014	#69
Her last gift to DU was incredibly beautiful	azurnoir	May 2014	#70
I am so sorry	Dorian Gray	May 2014	#71
I am profoundly saddened to hear of this...	Cooley Hurd	May 2014	#72
So sorry :(	Proud Liberal Dem	May 2014	#73
So very sorry that she has left you and us.	Skidmore	May 2014	#74
I wish I had the words to ease your pain.	B Calm	May 2014	#75
I am so very sorry for your loss. Peace and comfort.	PeaceNikki	May 2014	#76
OMG, I am so profoundly sorry!	Rhiannon12866	May 2014	#77
May the Universe give you comfort and ease your pain, Gabriel. I didn't know	Surya Gayatri	May 2014	#78
I wish you the strength to endure this terrible loss.	SamKnause	May 2014	#79
..	99Forever	May 2014	#80
I am so sorry for your loss!	whathehell	May 2014	#81
Oh, my.	Lefta Dissenter	May 2014	#82
I'm so sorry.	AllyCat	May 2014	#83
.	stonecutter357	May 2014	#84
I hope you find the strength you need...	Ferretherder	May 2014	#85
I cannot adequately express how sorry I am	etherealtruth	May 2014	#86
My heart aches for you and yours. She will be missed.	myrna minx	May 2014	#87
I am deeply sorry for your loss.	GentryDixon	May 2014	#88
I'm so sorry Gabriel -	TBF	May 2014	#89
OMG.....I'm so sorry.....	a kennedy	May 2014	#90
Condolences to you.	riqster	May 2014	#91
Oh no! I am so, so sorry!	GreenPartyVoter	May 2014	#92
So so very sorry. All condolences. n/t	Bossy Monkey	May 2014	#93
I am sorry for your loss. :(	Demo_Chris	May 2014	#94
.	meegbear	May 2014	#95
(((...)))	handmade34	May 2014	#96
....	spanone	May 2014	#97
may Peace be with you at this very difficult time. nt	xchrom	May 2014	#98
Safe passage to Terri.	Call Me Wesley	May 2014	#99
OMG I posted on her last thread	BumRushDaShow	May 2014	#100
What a beautiful post.	GentryDixon	May 2014	#252
I am so very sorry for your loss.	MuseRider	May 2014	#101
((Terri))	blm	May 2014	#102
So sorry	ctsnowman	May 2014	#103
I'm very saddened to hear this!	RKP5637	May 2014	#104
Thank you	marions ghost	May 2014	#105
May Terri rest in peace	lovemydog	May 2014	#106
Such tragedy.	yellerpup	May 2014	#107
Oh no	BarbaRosa	May 2014	#108
Oh	JustAnotherGen	May 2014	#109
I'm so very sorry	laundry_queen	May 2014	#110
May all the fond memories you have of her be a balm in your time of sorrow ...	66 dmhlt	May 2014	#111
So very sorry.	raouldukelives	May 2014	#112
I'm so very sorry for your loss, AllenvanAllen!	Sissyk	May 2014	#113
she will be greatly missed	rurallib	May 2014	#114
I'm so very sorry for your loss.	City Lights	May 2014	#115
<<<<comfort>>>>	antiquie	May 2014	#116
.	warrior1	May 2014	#117
(((((((Gabriel Marquez)))))))...	TeeYiYi	May 2014	#118
My deepest condolences for your loss.	greatauntoftriplets	May 2014	#119
Thank you for letting us know. Also, thank you for the link to her post, which was lovely.	merrily	May 2014	#120
So sorry so sad	alfredo	May 2014	#121
Condolences	matt819	May 2014	#122
thank you so much everyone. i am so very touched by all of you kind words.	AllenVanAllen	May 2014	#123
Such true and gentle emotions. She was in such good hands…	toby jo	May 2014	#171
I am so sorry Gabriel.	Puglover	May 2014	#124
I am so sorry to see this. My condolences to you. May she rest in peace.	Tuesday Afternoon	May 2014	#125
Such a loss.	Evergreen Emerald	May 2014	#126
How very difficult for you and her husband.	sybylla	May 2014	#127
I am so sorry for your loss.	hrmjustin	May 2014	#128
I am very sorry for your loss.	gademocrat7	May 2014	#129
So sorry RIP Terri....	panader0	May 2014	#130
I'm very sorry for your loss	Beaverhausen	May 2014	#131
So so sorry, Gabriel	graywarrior	May 2014	#132
So sorry to hear this.	William769	May 2014	#133
You have my deepest condolences.	sinkingfeeling	May 2014	#134
I'd like to leave you with this.	Sissyk	May 2014	#135
(((((((onestepforward)))))))	WillyT	May 2014	#136
OMG how tragic!	TorchTheWitch	May 2014	#137
so sorry	riverwalker	May 2014	#138
I can't imagine the pain of losing a loved one this way.	scarletwoman	May 2014	#139
it's not your fault. it doesn't mean she didn't love you.	mopinko	May 2014	#140
I am so sorry.	LoisB	May 2014	#141
RIP, Terri. nt	valerief	May 2014	#142
Very sorry to hear this.	cyberswede	May 2014	#143
...	2naSalit	May 2014	#144
Please accept my condolences.	greatlaurel	May 2014	#145
sometimes wanting peace is everything	Sheepshank	May 2014	#146
I am so, so sorry. I hope you find peace.	nolabear	May 2014	#147
...	Greybnk48	May 2014	#148
I am so very, very sorry for your loss...	magical thyme	May 2014	#149
So sorry for your loss...	Tom_Foolery	May 2014	#150
I am so sorry for your loss.	LiberalLoner	May 2014	#151
My condolences	armed_and_liberal	May 2014	#152
Hugs to you Gabriel, at this difficult time.	Coventina	May 2014	#153
very sad	bigtree	May 2014	#154
I am so, so sorry for your loss.	MoonRiver	May 2014	#155
No words could express how sorry I am to hear this. My condolences to her entire family.	kairos12	May 2014	#156
So very, very sorry for your loss.	Amaril	May 2014	#157
My sympathies to you & your loved ones.	CrispyQ	May 2014	#158
My deepest sympathies to you and your family.	octoberlib	May 2014	#159
Horribly sad. I am so sorry. n/t	broadcaster75201	May 2014	#160
I am so very sorry	MissB	May 2014	#162
May she rest in peace	Gothmog	May 2014	#163
My deep condolences. This is so sad.	Eleanors38	May 2014	#164
There are no words.	progressoid	May 2014	#165
We share your sorrow	cp	May 2014	#166
so very sorry for your loss, gabriel. may you find peace and comfort. and know that	niyad	May 2014	#167
Oh my goodness.	elleng	May 2014	#168
Gabriel, I am so sorry.	ScreamingMeemie	May 2014	#169
So sorry to hear this	mokawanis	May 2014	#170
Condolences Gabriel	PumpkinAle	May 2014	#172
Am sorry for your loss, Gabriel. She	glinda	May 2014	#173
Terri!!!!!	Iggo	May 2014	#174
my sincerest condolences to you and your family nt	steve2470	May 2014	#175
Very sad.	Feral Child	May 2014	#176
I loved the great pictures of fireflies	locks	May 2014	#177
We are so very sorry for your loss..	Tikki	May 2014	#178
I am so very sorry...	CherokeeDem	May 2014	#179
I'm so very sorry for your loss.	nclib	May 2014	#180
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved wife...	virgdem	May 2014	#181
My sympathies to you	Lifelong Protester	May 2014	#182
I am so sorry	Marrah_G	May 2014	#183
So very sorry to hear this...I hope she's at peace	joeybee12	May 2014	#184
My sincere condolences.	Blue_In_AK	May 2014	#185
Speechless......deepest sympathy to you and all who love her.	joanbarnes	May 2014	#186
She was a beautiful person ..inside and out..she will be missed	SoCalDem	May 2014	#187
My deepest condolences to you and your family	LiberalEsto	May 2014	#188
Oh no. I am so sorry, loved that firefly post and am just so sorry.	uppityperson	May 2014	#189
Oh my, Gabriel... I am so, so sorry for your loss...	ChisolmTrailDem	May 2014	#190
I'm deeply sorry for your loss	herding cats	May 2014	#191
I am very sorry for your loss	Worried senior	May 2014	#192
no words	angel823	May 2014	#193
Such a beautiful last post	Fumesucker	May 2014	#194
Deepest sympathies.	Damansarajaya	May 2014	#195
omg. so sad.	Liberal_in_LA	May 2014	#196
So sorry to hear this. Take care of yourself during this difficult time and remember to breathe.	louslobbs	May 2014	#197
So sad.	MannyGoldstein	May 2014	#198
Oh, Gabriel... so VERY sorry...	TygrBright	May 2014	#199
My condolences to you and everyone else who knew and loved her.	aikoaiko	May 2014	#200
I am so sorry	get the red out	May 2014	#201
So sorry to hear this. No words I can say will be enough. Sorry is all I have.	freshwest	May 2014	#202
I am so sorry.	Squinch	May 2014	#203
i am so incredibly sorry for your loss	nashville_brook	May 2014	#204
My condolences to you and your family	TxDemChem	May 2014	#205
my god, once again thank all of you so much.	AllenVanAllen	May 2014	#206
My deepest condolences	Rider3	May 2014	#207
and the wheel turns	WheelWalker	May 2014	#208
.	struggle4progress	May 2014	#209
My thoughts and prayers for you and the family	KBlagburn	May 2014	#210
My condolences. nm	rhett o rick	May 2014	#211
(((hugs)))	Starry Messenger	May 2014	#212
I am so truly sorry for your loss. As a suicide survivor myself, I urge you to reach out	silvershadow	May 2014	#213
my condolences	Ohio Joe	May 2014	#214
I have no words...except she was a beautiful woman	angstlessk	May 2014	#215
I`m so very sorry.	democrank	May 2014	#216
hug So Sorry for your loss n/t	JesterCS	May 2014	#217
All of my sympathies to you, Gabriel	countryjake	May 2014	#218
She was so lovely. My condolences to your family. nt	Ilsa	May 2014	#219
I'm so, so sorry...	pacalo	May 2014	#220
Words cannot convey our sense of mourning for Terri	Boomerproud	May 2014	#221
Deepest condolences to	alsame	May 2014	#222
I didn't personally know her or you, but I am so very sorry....	Lisa0825	May 2014	#223
I'm so sorry, Gabriel. Thank you, for letting us know.	AAO	May 2014	#224
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish you peace and calm. nt	msanthrope	May 2014	#225
Never see fireflies again without thinking of her, and I dont know her, new here...so sorry	randys1	May 2014	#226
Hugs to you...	snacker	May 2014	#227
Message auto-removed	Name removed	May 2014	#228
How tragic! I am so sorry for your loss.	Curmudgeoness	May 2014	#229
OMG! I just saw this. DAMN.	calimary	May 2014	#230
The pain that exists in the mind dwarfs physical pain.	xfundy	May 2014	#231
Your beautiful wife, I am so sorry. n/t	Jefferson23	May 2014	#232
Condolences to you, Gabriel.	appal_jack	May 2014	#233
.	NRaleighLiberal	May 2014	#234
How sad	Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin	May 2014	#235
sorry for your loss.	Terra Alta	May 2014	#236
My sincere condolences....	go west young man	May 2014	#237
I am so terribly sorry for your loss.	ClusterFreak	May 2014	#238
This is just too sad. I am so sorry for your loss Gabriel...	FourScore	May 2014	#239
That is so sad, and I am so very sorry	renate	May 2014	#240
I am so very, very sorry.	cordelia	May 2014	#241
I'm so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful soul she was.	Autumn	May 2014	#242
I wish we could heal your pain....	BlancheSplanchnik	May 2014	#243
I am glad that you reached out to DU	senseandsensibility	May 2014	#244
From now on, whenever I see fireflies, I'll think of onestepforward.	Kaleva	May 2014	#245
I'm so sorry for your loss. She was lovely.	LeftyMom	May 2014	#246
OMG. I am so sorry AVA.	Triana	May 2014	#247
my deepest sympathies	noiretextatique	May 2014	#248
I'm so sorry. My thoughts with you and your family.	ladyVet	May 2014	#249
all of you are wonderful	AllenVanAllen	May 2014	#250
Farewell onestepforward	warrprayer	May 2014	#251
She was magic, she will be missed <3	yaddle	May 2014	#253
You speak so eloquently of the many ways your wife...	3catwoman3	May 2014	#254
.	meegbear	May 2014	#255