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PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 04:42 PM Aug 2013

An ode to Dookus/MonkeyFunk/RudyNJack

I haven't posted in a few months but I felt compelled to share the news that one of the DU originals who became a good IRL friend to me and many others has passed. He died suddenly this morning.

Some reading this will remember my friend as a shit-stirrer and he was. He was also ferociously hilarious, unendingly compassionate and incredibly wise. And I miss him. Remember the Laura Branigan wars? Or when he ran for pope? Or Veep? He always had such high goals.

To borrow some words of some friends I've shared this grief with today: You know how you meet someone in person once and you feel like you've known them forever? Sometimes once is all you get. Cherish that. Tell people that you like them. Or even that you love them. Tell them why you appreciate them as friends. It will save you regret later. Nobody likes regret.

So please join me, if you will, in toasting my friend. Our friend. I love you, Shawn. I am a better person for having known you.




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An ode to Dookus/MonkeyFunk/RudyNJack (Original Post) PeaceNikki Aug 2013 OP
Very Sorry To Hear That, Ma'am The Magistrate Aug 2013 #1
Oh no. closeupready Aug 2013 #2
RIP - nt Ohio Joe Aug 2013 #3
While I was never lucky enough to meet him in person, I felt like I knew Dookus as as friend Rowdyboy Aug 2013 #4
RIP Cali_Democrat Aug 2013 #5
I remember him all... Cooley Hurd Aug 2013 #6
(((((((Dookus))))))) WillyT Aug 2013 #7
RIP Dookus alittlelark Aug 2013 #8
So sorry to hear this. hrmjustin Aug 2013 #9
I so hate reading this. Solly Mack Aug 2013 #10
Thank you. He did. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #13
Oh, damn. :( Solly Mack Aug 2013 #16
Wow. sendero Aug 2013 #129
Oh my. Thanks for that. senseandsensibility Aug 2013 #186
Dookus underpants Aug 2013 #11
. one_voice Aug 2013 #12
I am so sorry for your loss, PeaceNikki. Lars39 Aug 2013 #14
Thank you. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #17
He was a DU original. RIP. Gormy Cuss Aug 2013 #15
Yup. nt RiffRandell Aug 2013 #24
He was a great person Susang Aug 2013 #18
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #19
A fitting response, susang Richardo Aug 2013 #165
I remember him. I'm so sorry for your & his family's loss... Hekate Aug 2013 #20
I fell in love with this ritual when I saw it Hydra Aug 2013 #21
Fuck. REP Aug 2013 #22
he lived in the same house the whole time I knew him PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #31
Here's the skunk thread REP Aug 2013 #46
For Shawn IntravenousDemilo Aug 2013 #77
We weren't extremely close but he pm'd me when he knew RiffRandell Aug 2013 #23
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #30
i remember him, sad to hear this JI7 Aug 2013 #25
Ah Shit! HangOnKids Aug 2013 #26
Safe Passage, Shawn enigmatic Aug 2013 #27
I have a funny thread memory to share Orrex Aug 2013 #28
thanks for that. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #29
That's a great thread memory. Fran Kubelik Aug 2013 #58
lotta old names in that thread hfojvt Aug 2013 #88
He will be missed. Bat Boy Aug 2013 #32
indeed. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #36
Such a lovely tribute for a good guy..gone too soon SoCalDem Aug 2013 #33
I am very, very sad to hear that. Bonobo Aug 2013 #34
He spoke well of you. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #35
My heart is broken with you. Bonobo Aug 2013 #45
I remember Dookus. I remember MonkeyFunk. terrya Aug 2013 #37
He was very much looking forward to meeting you and the others as well. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #38
terrya! Richardo Aug 2013 #163
Richardo! terrya Aug 2013 #177
His name was Dookus. rug Aug 2013 #39
He was combative and opinionated Fenris Aug 2013 #40
aw, you... PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #42
Oh man... hunter Aug 2013 #69
... Richardo Aug 2013 #162
To Shawn. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2013 #41
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #43
Back atcha. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2013 #48
... Richardo Aug 2013 #143
Hi Richardo! greatauntoftriplets Aug 2013 #144
We have lost way too many good DUers over the years. QC Aug 2013 #44
Cross easy, Dookus. You'll be missed. nolabear Aug 2013 #47
Checking in for the first time in a very long while to say goodbye. RandomKoolzip Aug 2013 #49
I almost forgot what your name here was. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #50
Yeah, me too. Took me hours to remember my password. RandomKoolzip Aug 2013 #51
He did...and no one was faster on the draw with a smart, and many times hysterical mtnester Aug 2013 #73
Nice tribute, RKZ Richardo Aug 2013 #161
My first login to DU in years, to pay my respects to one of our best. asthmaticeog Aug 2013 #52
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #53
... Fran Kubelik Aug 2013 #56
... Richardo Aug 2013 #160
... Richardo Aug 2013 #159
Well hey there. asthmaticeog Aug 2013 #175
you'll be seeing me soon Richardo Aug 2013 #176
Still waiting... PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #178
blocked during the day Richardo Aug 2013 #181
Ah, gotcha now!! PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #182
It's been so long since I logged into DU, I couldn't even remember my screen name Fran Kubelik Aug 2013 #54
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #61
He was a funny and big hearted person who had a huge presence. You could not get away with shit...he mtnester Aug 2013 #55
you got it. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #65
I am so sad about this. MuseRider Aug 2013 #57
This saddens me. flvegan Aug 2013 #59
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #63
Wow. Fran Kubelik Aug 2013 #67
Brilliantly stated. Thank you for sharing. Beware the BeastMan Aug 2013 #99
Nicely said, flvegan Richardo Aug 2013 #158
The lounge was never the same without him nobodyspecial Aug 2013 #60
Dookus LWolf Aug 2013 #62
yes. tucker passed a couple years ago. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #64
I remember LWolf Aug 2013 #66
A complicated and smart and loving human being FamilyCircus Aug 2013 #68
Don't post much anymore but needed to check in johnnie Aug 2013 #70
This message was self-deleted by its author CreekDog Aug 2013 #71
RIP Monkeyfunk CreekDog Aug 2013 #72
Thank you all for sharing kind words and memories of him PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #74
Safe passage to Shawn. Call Me Wesley Aug 2013 #75
... Richardo Aug 2013 #157
Well, well, Call Me Wesley Aug 2013 #171
A toast to Dookus/MonkeyFunk! Heidi Aug 2013 #76
... Richardo Aug 2013 #156
!!! Heidi Aug 2013 #184
dang, I liked that guy :-( ucrdem Aug 2013 #78
He was a good friend to us EstimatedProphet Aug 2013 #79
... Richardo Aug 2013 #155
I'm heartbroken TheProphetess Aug 2013 #80
As always, you put it much better than I could. EstimatedProphet Aug 2013 #82
I don't know TheProphetess Aug 2013 #83
As far as I'm concerned... Bat Boy Aug 2013 #125
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #84
... Richardo Aug 2013 #153
I remember him as MonkeyFunk. sufrommich Aug 2013 #81
He touched so many lives prolesunited Aug 2013 #85
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #92
During the heat of the primary wars, there were many casualties. cbayer Aug 2013 #86
This was it. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #94
OMG, you found it! cbayer Aug 2013 #97
i will miss him too La Lioness Priyanka Aug 2013 #87
I know.... PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #96
... Richardo Aug 2013 #154
.. La Lioness Priyanka Aug 2013 #172
I mostly remember him for this hfojvt Aug 2013 #89
I can't hope to add anything dolo amber Aug 2013 #90
I linked his family here and also wrote my own personal 'eulogy' and sent it. Here's a snip PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #91
Awesome dolo amber Aug 2013 #100
... Richardo Aug 2013 #152
I just had to rejoin to pay my respects... Beware the BeastMan Aug 2013 #93
. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #95
Love seeing these names. Bat Boy Aug 2013 #126
Cross gently Puglover Aug 2013 #98
RIP Dookus, What a wonderful tribute to see DUers who have not been here in a long Autumn Aug 2013 #101
Indeed, Autumn. I am still waiting for a few others to show their ugly mugs. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #112
So many good ones. And arwalden Autumn Aug 2013 #114
Ah, yes. Screaming Lord Byron days. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #115
"Maddy" remained a close and good FB, and IRL friend to Shawn mtnester Aug 2013 #127
Maddy, I miss her Autumn Aug 2013 #135
I know. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #136
Post removed Post removed Aug 2013 #102
Shawn was an amazing guy and the first person I ever spoke to on the phone after meeting them online HEyHEY Aug 2013 #103
And he even forgave you for having him thrown in the tank. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #105
Yup HEyHEY Aug 2013 #109
I used 2 of his stories in my letter to his family. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #110
Dookus tigereye Aug 2013 #116
yay, you! PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #121
... Richardo Aug 2013 #151
hey old friend! tigereye Aug 2013 #185
That was some all-time hilarity Richardo Aug 2013 #150
Farewell. Call Me Wesley Aug 2013 #104
I think he would have appreciated that. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #106
Batmonkeyfunk! Call Me Wesley Aug 2013 #108
Damn. Raven Aug 2013 #107
A DU original. Thanks, yet sorry, for the post. pinto Aug 2013 #111
thank you. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #113
r.i.p. Blue_Tires Aug 2013 #117
Felt like a punch in the gut when I read PeaceNikki's PM saying "Dookus is gone". Pommie Dinko Cirtbag Aug 2013 #118
And I am so glad that you did, CPD. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #119
I'll try to keep that in mind. Pommie Dinko Cirtbag Aug 2013 #120
Great to see ya here, Pommie. ;) Call Me Wesley Aug 2013 #122
Thanks, Mall We Cesley. Pommie Dinko Cirtbag Aug 2013 #123
... Richardo Aug 2013 #149
Crap, I didn't even see that. trotsky Aug 2013 #173
Nice to see you! Avalux Sep 2013 #195
so sad to lose long time friends and DUers Kali Aug 2013 #124
R.I.P. Shawn malaise Aug 2013 #128
It is good to see the old timers stop in to pay respects - reminds me of the DU of old mtnester Aug 2013 #130
I like when his brother said, "I did you a solid and deleted your browser history". PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #131
Yep - freaking hilarious...as he would want it to be :) mtnester Aug 2013 #132
I wish I could make it to the wake. Stupid time and space. :( PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #133
Ha! That was me. Beware the BeastMan Aug 2013 #134
Goodbye, Daddy Richardo Aug 2013 #137
He would have laughed at that. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #138
I know I did every time I saw it Richardo Aug 2013 #139
... Beware the BeastMan Aug 2013 #140
... Richardo Aug 2013 #142
LOL, despite the sad occasion. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2013 #145
Message auto-removed Name removed Aug 2013 #168
True! greatauntoftriplets Aug 2013 #170
Message auto-removed Name removed Aug 2013 #166
Oh hell to the yes!!! ronnykmarshall Aug 2013 #189
Fair winds and following seas, Dookus. yewberry Aug 2013 #141
Fuck the Amish. Bunny Aug 2013 #146
omg, I'd not seen that one. thanks. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #147
!!! Richardo Aug 2013 #148
The time he told me I won the internet because of a joke I posted is one of my proudest moments. Richardo Aug 2013 #164
A great compliment TheProphetess Aug 2013 #174
Thank you for letting us know. LiberalAndProud Aug 2013 #167
Thank you so much. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #169
Thank you for letting everyone know JanMichael Aug 2013 #179
I hadn't read that thread until today. Good stuff. PeaceNikki Aug 2013 #180
Goodspeed, Dookus. Sock Puppet Aug 2013 #183
What a beautiful thread of remembrance and goodwill. It's a shame auntAgonist Aug 2013 #187
RIP Shawn ronnykmarshall Aug 2013 #188
thanks for checking in, rkm PeaceNikki Sep 2013 #190
I didn't see this until now (9/2); I'm so sad to hear this. MonkeyFunk was Flaxbee Sep 2013 #191
Thank you. PeaceNikki Sep 2013 #197
A sad loss JohnnyLib2 Sep 2013 #192
(((()))) Arctic Dave Sep 2013 #193
I knew him as Dookus way back when... Avalux Sep 2013 #194
Zesty, indeed. Sharp words that could cut like knives or be as comforting as a hug. PeaceNikki Sep 2013 #198
Damn. denbot Sep 2013 #196
know that name somewhere PatrynXX Sep 2013 #199
I certainly remember Dookus from way back in the day... villager Sep 2013 #200
Just saw it and wanted to share my shock and best wishes for those that were close. grantcart Sep 2013 #201

Rowdyboy

(22,057 posts)
4. While I was never lucky enough to meet him in person, I felt like I knew Dookus as as friend
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 04:46 PM
Aug 2013

He has been missed....

senseandsensibility

(16,261 posts)
186. Oh my. Thanks for that.
Sat Aug 31, 2013, 11:09 AM
Aug 2013

And I'm sorry for the loss of your friend and a fellow DUer. He had great taste in music.

Lars39

(26,081 posts)
14. I am so sorry for your loss, PeaceNikki.
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 04:54 PM
Aug 2013
All of DUs loss, really. I have always regretted not being able to apologize to Dookus. He was right and I was too ignorant and hardheaded at the time to understand.

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
17. Thank you.
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 05:04 PM
Aug 2013

Just know that he wasn't one to hold grudges. Especially over DU spats.

Well, *most* of them anyway. And I don't recall hearing about your spat with him so I am sure he didn't in that case.

But, FTR, he never called anyone on DU the "C" word. Ever. Despite what someone claimed.

Susang

(11,520 posts)
18. He was a great person
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 05:11 PM
Aug 2013

I still can't believe he's gone. I'm singing "Gloria" right now for you Dookus!

REP

(21,691 posts)
22. Fuck.
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 05:42 PM
Aug 2013

I think we were neighbors-ish (now; I recently moved to the area he at least used to live). I helped him with an injured skunk ages ago, so while weren't friends, I think we were friendly. I still have his "Barrel of Monkeys" post somewhere.

I'm sorry for your loss.

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
31. he lived in the same house the whole time I knew him
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 06:32 PM
Aug 2013

So you probably were still neighbors (ish).

That's the reason I wanted to post the news here... To share memories of his humor and kindness.

Thanks.

RiffRandell

(5,909 posts)
23. We weren't extremely close but he pm'd me when he knew
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 05:51 PM
Aug 2013

my husband's cancer might have come back and he was having a scan.

So thoughtful....he was incredibly witty and made me laugh so much.

Peace Shawn.

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
30. .
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 06:29 PM
Aug 2013

Thanks for sharing that memory, it is a testament to the compassion and empathy that was the real him.

I do hope all is well with you and that your husband's scan was clear.

enigmatic

(15,021 posts)
27. Safe Passage, Shawn
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 06:08 PM
Aug 2013

I love Dookus/MonkeyFunk's post; I remember reading a thread by him a number of years ago about mortality and it was one of the best threads ever here.

This really makes me sad.

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
88. lotta old names in that thread
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 11:59 AM
Aug 2013

that are not here any more. (at least not under the same name, some people come back like Dookus did).

Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
34. I am very, very sad to hear that.
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 07:20 PM
Aug 2013

Shawn was a smart, sweet person.

After initially butting heads, we came to be FB friends.

We were from the same home town and he knew my family.

Shit, that is so sad.

terrya

(45,617 posts)
37. I remember Dookus. I remember MonkeyFunk.
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 07:29 PM
Aug 2013

When I joined Democratic Underground years ago, I found this guy named Dookus. SO incredibly smart and funny. I was sort of in awe of him, actually.


I didn't get to know Shawn in real life. We corresponded a few times. Talked some on Facebook. I dearly wished I got to know him better. There was an opportunity to meet him in person later this year. That didn't happen. I'm very, very sad that I didn't get to meet him.


He was a good guy who went way, way too soon. This is a fine tribute, PeaceNikki.

RIP, Shawn.

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
38. He was very much looking forward to meeting you and the others as well.
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 07:34 PM
Aug 2013

Let's as many of us as possible be sure to get together soon in his memory. I am so sad, terry.

Fenris

(30,414 posts)
40. He was combative and opinionated
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 07:38 PM
Aug 2013

And one of the sweetest and most sincere people I've ever met. It was an honor to call him a friend. When we finally got together offline this past June it was - like you said - like meeting someone I'd known all my life.

That's how I'll remember him in my mind: getting smashed on Spanish wine and playing Patsy Cline on the jukebox at a dive on Capitol Hill.

And reliving the past decade or so, with him laughing and fondly recalling the time HEyHEY (whom he loved) called the police to do a welfare check on him and got him busted for possession.

I remember him being kind to animals, and how hard he took the loss of his beloved Tucker.

I remember how much he cared for my wife and checked on her when she was battling cancer. (Was it him that organized the bouquet for her? I want to say it was but I don't want to insult anyone else.)

He was a happy man when I saw him for the first and last time. He deserved it. I just wish he could have stayed around longer.

RandomKoolzip

(18,536 posts)
49. Checking in for the first time in a very long while to say goodbye.
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 08:13 PM
Aug 2013

Dookus was one of the good ones. I remember him cracking me up in the early days of 2003-2004-2005. His spats with others was legendary and I don't remember him ever being on the wrong side of any of them. He was loved and admired and I'll miss him. He made DU better.

RIP, sir.

mtnester

(8,885 posts)
73. He did...and no one was faster on the draw with a smart, and many times hysterical
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 04:31 AM
Aug 2013

(and always spot on) response.

asthmaticeog

(15,705 posts)
52. My first login to DU in years, to pay my respects to one of our best.
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 08:31 PM
Aug 2013

Goodbye, Shawn. On the off chance we were wrong and the woowoos are right and there's an afterlife, I can think of a couple of DU people who it'd be pretty fuckin' funny if you haunted them. Hit me up, however that's done.

asthmaticeog

(15,705 posts)
175. Well hey there.
Fri Aug 30, 2013, 05:48 PM
Aug 2013

It's nice to see you're still somewhere to be found online, good sir. More pleasant circumstances next time, though, OK? Are you still a social-networking refusenik or can you be found on FB again?

Fran Kubelik

(4,225 posts)
54. It's been so long since I logged into DU, I couldn't even remember my screen name
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 08:36 PM
Aug 2013

But this is where I met Dookus/Shawn/Monkeyfunk, so it seems like it's where I should take a minute to pay respects.


I loved you, Shawn. Your kind beautiful thoughtful soul made the world a more beautiful place.

mtnester

(8,885 posts)
55. He was a funny and big hearted person who had a huge presence. You could not get away with shit...he
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 08:36 PM
Aug 2013

refused to allow that. Smart as a whip. He got you riled up, but WANTED smart conversation from you...he DEMANDED it.

I am a longtime Internet/DU/FB/Elsewhere friend, and am still stunned.

I now have more emails that suddenly became priceless.

MuseRider

(34,018 posts)
57. I am so sad about this.
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 08:42 PM
Aug 2013

I really missed Dookus when he left. He was obviously a very decent and caring individual.

MonkeyFunk annoyed me

Now I will miss Dookus some more. RIP Dookus.

flvegan

(64,369 posts)
59. This saddens me.
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 08:48 PM
Aug 2013

I'm not around that much, and it's good to see old timers checking in here. Monkeyfunk (that's how I'll remember him) deserves nothing less than that respect.

I don't know that I ever clashed with anyone more here on DU. He brought out the worst in me at times. After a long while of fighting, we talked, and came to terms. I came to like the guy quite a bit, even if he didn't like me much (I don't really know).

Just knowing he's not floating out there in the ether, tells me that the world is a lesser place for it. RIP, sir. I will miss you, believe it or not.

Thanks for posting this.

Fran Kubelik

(4,225 posts)
67. Wow.
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 09:36 PM
Aug 2013

This brought me to tears. It says a lot about both you and Shawn that you were able to reconcile. Much love to you.

LWolf

(46,179 posts)
66. I remember
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 09:09 PM
Aug 2013

when he posted about bringing Tucker home for the first time; I didn't remember his name though.

I'm sorry for our loss.

FamilyCircus

(1 post)
68. A complicated and smart and loving human being
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 09:50 PM
Aug 2013

I regret that I will never meet him in this life, but glad I knew him at all. <3 rest in peace wherever you are Dookus! <3

johnnie

(23,616 posts)
70. Don't post much anymore but needed to check in
Wed Aug 28, 2013, 10:08 PM
Aug 2013

He was a DU original and will be missed. I never really had much interaction with him but I know he was loved by many. RIP Shawn.

Response to PeaceNikki (Original post)

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
74. Thank you all for sharing kind words and memories of him
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 05:52 AM
Aug 2013

So many of his friends met him here on DU. A lot of us strayed away, but he's been here almost the whole time... Whether you've known it or not.

So, while this place isn't the same as it was 10+ years ago (is anything, really?), it was almost always part of his day. And, despite all of its warts, it brought a huge group of dozens of us together to form close friendships, a lifelong bond. And for that I am eternally grateful, DU.

Call Me Wesley

(38,187 posts)
75. Safe passage to Shawn.
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 07:17 AM
Aug 2013

May he be free from suffering. Peace and comfort to his family and friends.

It was a delight knowing you.

Heidi

(58,237 posts)
76. A toast to Dookus/MonkeyFunk!
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 07:38 AM
Aug 2013

and peace to all who loved him and were fortunate enough to be loved by him. Dookus/MonkeyFunk!

ucrdem

(15,512 posts)
78. dang, I liked that guy :-(
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 07:52 AM
Aug 2013

In fact I still owe him a couple of responses I never got around to posting

vaya con dios RudynJack! and thanks for letting us know PeaceNikki . . .

EstimatedProphet

(33,430 posts)
79. He was a good friend to us
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 08:21 AM
Aug 2013

When our son was born and had to spend 4 months in the NICU, he was there with words of encouragement. He watched him grow ever since, and even sent a Sit & Spin because that was one of his favorite toys from his own childhood.

My son says "Wuv woo Unca Dook." We will miss him.

TheProphetess

(1,760 posts)
80. I'm heartbroken
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 08:26 AM
Aug 2013

Haven't logged on in years, but I met Shawn here then became friends on Facebook. He was so freaking smart, hilariously funny, and incredibly generous and kind.

One of the first times he really reached out to me was when my very premature son was about a week old and getting ready for a major surgery. I was falling apart and his words were so loving and heartfelt that I felt comforted in his reminder that many people were pulling for us. He allowed me to say the frightening things I had in my head that I couldn't say to family members for fear of upsetting them more.

He continued to follow my son's growth these past 2 years and always sent messages of love and support. He even sent a few gifts for my son and signed the cards "Uncle Dookus". That guy had a heart of gold. He told me once that he had never wanted kids but that my little miracle made him think about reconsidering that decision. He always brightened my day and I truly will miss him immensely.

I can't wrap my head around the fact that I won't get to read his hilarious status updates anymore. He was one of a kind and I loved him very much.

sufrommich

(22,871 posts)
81. I remember him as MonkeyFunk.
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 08:32 AM
Aug 2013

And I remember that he was very funny and smart. So sorry that he has passed.

prolesunited

(17,925 posts)
85. He touched so many lives
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 11:40 AM
Aug 2013

with his great wit and compassion. I really liked that he spoke his mind. You might not have liked his response, but you always knew where he stood. My condolences to his family and friends. To love and be loved is what is most important in life. He was quite successful. I'm honored that he included me in his circle of friends.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
86. During the heat of the primary wars, there were many casualties.
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 11:50 AM
Aug 2013

Monkeyfunk was one and it made me very, very sad.

I thought monkeyfunk was a treasure and had a wit that few could compete with.

FWIW, I don't think the monkey in your OP was his sig line. I have looked in vain for it.

The image he used was amusing, perhaps mocking, but not angry, IIRC.

I am sorry for your loss and thank you for posting this.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
97. OMG, you found it!
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 01:07 PM
Aug 2013

I looked all over the place. Thanks so much, PeaceNikki. It gave me a sad, but warm, feeling.

And thanks for the picture of Tucker. That dog suits him perfectly.

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
89. I mostly remember him for this
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 12:32 PM
Aug 2013
http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=108490

and the little line of shaking butts at the bottom of his posts.

Plus another time, MonkeyFunk jumped all over me for my attempt at a joke. I think I apologized but cannot remember if he ever accepted it.

Interesting how many people knew/met him in real life.

I feel like he was an old friend, but clearly not as close as he was to some here.

dolo amber

(13,860 posts)
90. I can't hope to add anything
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 12:33 PM
Aug 2013

To the beautiful sentiments expressed here. It's comforting and lovely to see. Shawn was a special guy in so many ways. My heart hurts for those closest to him; I can't even begin to imagine their pain knowing how I, someone who is lucky enough to know he considered a friend, feel from across the country and having never met him IRL. I hope they're aware of the outpouring of love and support they have from Dook's online 'family'.

You left a big Dookie-shaped hole in our hearts, you brilliantly funny, master of the razor-sharp takedown, and unfailingly kind friend. Will always miss you.

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
91. I linked his family here and also wrote my own personal 'eulogy' and sent it. Here's a snip
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 12:49 PM
Aug 2013

We live in interesting times that I am not sure everyone completely understands. Relationships and friendships can be formed with people over the internet who you may never see face to face or whose voice you never actually hear. Those who have never had the privilege of such relationships may not fully understand the depth. But, make no mistake, these bonds, friendships, relationships are just as real as the more traditional. When you communicate with someone almost exclusively through written word, I think that both parties choose their words differently. You have a chance to re-read what you wrote before you hit ‘send’ or ‘post’. You have the opportunity to re-read what the other person wrote to help you understand what they were trying to convey. And, today for me, the greatest gift is that I still have years and years of messages, stories, words of support and some of the funniest shit I have ever heard in my life. Jesus Christ, the man was funny.

93. I just had to rejoin to pay my respects...
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 12:54 PM
Aug 2013

I hope the admins will allow me special dispensation and keep my post up.
Though I never got to meet him IRL, I found Shawn to be a great guy. I first encountered him during the legendary Laura Branigan death thread flame war of 2004. Both of us were amused at the utter absurdity of it all. Yes, he had an eviscerating sense of humor, of which once I was a victim, but I believe it hid a strong sensitivity, as if often the case with us sarcastic types.

Had things panned out, a bunch of us from the old days of DU were to meet, and I would have met him in person for the first time. Our plans collapsed long before Shawn's untimely passing. It saddens me that I will never have that chance.

May you find eternal peace, Dookus. I'll miss you.



Dookus for Saint!

Autumn

(44,543 posts)
101. RIP Dookus, What a wonderful tribute to see DUers who have not been here in a long
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 01:53 PM
Aug 2013

time and who have been missed, sign in to pay respects to a terrific person. Thanks for posting this PeaceNikki.

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
112. Indeed, Autumn. I am still waiting for a few others to show their ugly mugs.
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 03:44 PM
Aug 2013

Where is Al Hedges?
MaddyMcCall?
XNASA?
CanuckAmok?
arwalden?
ChavezSpeaksTheTruth?
CommiePinkoDirtbag?



And one I really have NOT been able to locate now that the Window of Joy has been closed: sundog.




Autumn

(44,543 posts)
114. So many good ones. And arwalden
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 03:48 PM
Aug 2013
I lurked on early DU for a long time from my computer at work. First thing I would do is look for his posts. I still think of his Confessional OP and it still makes me laugh.

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
115. Ah, yes. Screaming Lord Byron days.
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 03:53 PM
Aug 2013

Oh, let's not forget Kellanved and SouthoftheBorderPaul.

Good times with good people.

sigh...

Response to PeaceNikki (Original post)

HEyHEY

(45,977 posts)
103. Shawn was an amazing guy and the first person I ever spoke to on the phone after meeting them online
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 02:05 PM
Aug 2013

Aside from being hilarious he cared so much about friends. And anyone who ever had a chance to get to know him outside of the internet could count themselves as lucky. It's hard to believe he's gone and that the world will never get to read one of his wisecracks, indignant rants or thoughtful advice again.

Shawn, you will be missed. Even years from now people will still be talking about you.

And for anyone interested in the details: Yes, I did once call the police to do a welfare check on Shawn, which ended up in his arrest for unfinished community service for some minor infraction years before (Drunk in public or something). He was so gracious about the whole thing instead of hating me.

HEyHEY

(45,977 posts)
109. Yup
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 02:53 PM
Aug 2013

I especially loved his update on "watching two seagulls humping" on the beach whilst picking up trash and cursing my name.

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
110. I used 2 of his stories in my letter to his family.
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 02:59 PM
Aug 2013

"Rosebud's Big Adventure".... "a neighbor comes by to tell me that his son saw my tortoise walking down the street."

and

"The only thing I remember about Cincinnati is gigantic lawns and skyline chili. Plus a groundhog that bit my finger. Her name was Harriet." which ended with "Cunt.", natch.

He was such a great storyteller.

tigereye

(39,919 posts)
116. Dookus
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 04:26 PM
Aug 2013

That's the story I was thinking of when I heard, HeyHey. RIP, Dookus, wherever your spirit is I hope you are having a lot of fun. I guess I really didn't know how kind he was to so, so many people! And I really can't think of too many people who were so progressive, so sharp and funny. Bummed that I didn't get to meet him when my family visited SF a few years back.

Nice to see so many familiar names here, I haven't posted in a while, either.

Call Me Wesley

(38,187 posts)
104. Farewell.
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 02:13 PM
Aug 2013


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118. Felt like a punch in the gut when I read PeaceNikki's PM saying "Dookus is gone".
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 05:59 PM
Aug 2013

Sadly, geography and non-richness made it nearly impossible for us to meet, and what a cool meeting it would be.

He always shared inside nerd stories from Silicon Valley, and the delivery was AWESOME. Well, you know how good he was at dealing some vintage Magnificent Bastardry. What an exceedingly fun person.

The impression he made on all around him (virtually or physically) made him a Winner. Actually the only kind of Winner that matters.

You Won, Dookus. Peace. The right people will miss you.

(By the way, yes, I am exactly who you think I am. I had to come here and pay my respects.)

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
119. And I am so glad that you did, CPD.
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 06:03 PM
Aug 2013


I love ya and I am so glad I got to meet you, too. But that does FUCKING NOT give you permission to leave us.

Call Me Wesley

(38,187 posts)
122. Great to see ya here, Pommie. ;)
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 06:58 PM
Aug 2013

What a great thread this is. An echo of the community this forum once was. It'll faint, of course, but it's so good to see all these names.

I think Shawn would have liked it.

trotsky

(49,533 posts)
173. Crap, I didn't even see that.
Fri Aug 30, 2013, 03:43 PM
Aug 2013

I tend to avoid the main forums these days due to the large volume of senseless noise.

Losing those long-time DU personalities really sucks.

Kali

(54,947 posts)
124. so sad to lose long time friends and DUers
Thu Aug 29, 2013, 08:11 PM
Aug 2013

sorry for the loss of your friend, I remember some funny stuff from MonkeyFunk in the Lounge and we even had a tiny PM exchange once, he was very kind in that.

mtnester

(8,885 posts)
130. It is good to see the old timers stop in to pay respects - reminds me of the DU of old
Fri Aug 30, 2013, 08:56 AM
Aug 2013

There is an event planned in his neighborhood for tomorrow (event posting is on FB)....and there is some hysterical posting for it on FB, such as this gem from the event page:

Is it wrong that I laughed out loud when I saw Shawn's avatar under the "Going" section? Of course it is, he probably would have wanted it that way ( cliche, but true).

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
131. I like when his brother said, "I did you a solid and deleted your browser history".
Fri Aug 30, 2013, 09:02 AM
Aug 2013


Yeah.. anyone interested, wherever you are - Irish Wake at 1:00 PDT tomorrow 8/31. Toasting will be occurring literally worldwide.

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
133. I wish I could make it to the wake. Stupid time and space. :(
Fri Aug 30, 2013, 09:15 AM
Aug 2013

He was a magnet for awesome people. I have become close with one of his close friends and would love to be around more of them.

Response to greatauntoftriplets (Reply #145)

Response to Richardo (Reply #137)

Bunny

(19,515 posts)
146. Fuck the Amish.
Fri Aug 30, 2013, 12:10 PM
Aug 2013

They won't read this anyway.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x1469788

Farewell, Shawn. I butted heads with Dookus (but liked you anyway), loved MonkeyFunk, and really disliked RudyNJack (matter of fact, I didn't even know that was you.) Safe passage.

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
147. omg, I'd not seen that one. thanks.
Fri Aug 30, 2013, 12:24 PM
Aug 2013

Yeah... His online persona could sometimes be tough to take. But he was a true gem of a human being...

Richardo

(38,391 posts)
164. The time he told me I won the internet because of a joke I posted is one of my proudest moments.
Fri Aug 30, 2013, 02:43 PM
Aug 2013

Miss you, Shawn.

LiberalAndProud

(12,799 posts)
167. Thank you for letting us know.
Fri Aug 30, 2013, 02:45 PM
Aug 2013

DU is poorer for his absence. I always looked forward to his posts here, even thought I wasn't privileged to know him IRL. I'm so sad to read of his death.


p.s. In the spirit of your thread, PeaceNikki, I *like* you. a lot. Your posts are missed.

JanMichael

(24,818 posts)
179. Thank you for letting everyone know
Fri Aug 30, 2013, 07:27 PM
Aug 2013

wonder if somewhere...there is a big DU meetup....or if he is running into some pissed off Amish....

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
180. I hadn't read that thread until today. Good stuff.
Fri Aug 30, 2013, 07:31 PM
Aug 2013

"oh right
It should be "fucketh the Amish", no?"


oh, how i miss him.

auntAgonist

(17,252 posts)
187. What a beautiful thread of remembrance and goodwill. It's a shame
Sat Aug 31, 2013, 12:59 PM
Aug 2013

that we wait till folks have left us before we express the admiration and love we have for them.

RIP Shawn, you will be missed.

I was so happy to know him here and on FB.

Condolences to his friends and family.


much love.

kesha

ronnykmarshall

(35,356 posts)
188. RIP Shawn
Sat Aug 31, 2013, 06:12 PM
Aug 2013

I had limited access on my vacation but I did hear about Shawn.

He was one of my best DU pals. He always made me laugh and had my back when all the bullshit went down in the 2008 primary season.

He was one in a million!

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
190. thanks for checking in, rkm
Sun Sep 1, 2013, 10:20 AM
Sep 2013

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Make no mistake, you are also one in a million.

Lord, how he and I dreamt of getting you, him and Arwalden in the same room.

Flaxbee

(13,661 posts)
191. I didn't see this until now (9/2); I'm so sad to hear this. MonkeyFunk was
Mon Sep 2, 2013, 08:21 PM
Sep 2013

such a funny and fun DUer.
I'm sorry you lost such a good IRL friend, PeaceNikki. I'm sorry he's gone.

Avalux

(35,015 posts)
194. I knew him as Dookus way back when...
Mon Sep 2, 2013, 09:20 PM
Sep 2013

very sad he's no longer with us and I will miss him; he definitely added zest to DU. Godspeed Shawn.

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
198. Zesty, indeed. Sharp words that could cut like knives or be as comforting as a hug.
Tue Sep 3, 2013, 05:48 AM
Sep 2013

He's missed by many in the virtual and real worlds.

Thanks.

PatrynXX

(5,668 posts)
199. know that name somewhere
Tue Sep 3, 2013, 09:12 AM
Sep 2013

Dookus that is. at least here. I don't trust people well enough to get to know their names. We need more shit stirring people around. Keep both us and politicians on our toes. Not sure if I'd call myself one although I'm in the minority thinking we must do something to Syria. Oddly Most Democrats and most Tea Party members are against this. Even got Tea Party newsletters telling other Tea Party members to encourage Dems to tell Obama no . Strange Bedfellows. Instinct tells me if we don't do anything about this now forget congress this will come back to haunt us. So when it happens here... hey we were warned.

Not the only person from mr monkey. know an evilmonkey somewhere. But then again I know another Nikki. Yall take take care. Keep up the humor

 

villager

(26,001 posts)
200. I certainly remember Dookus from way back in the day...
Tue Sep 3, 2013, 01:46 PM
Sep 2013

Rest easy, and condolences to the family...

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