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http://www.xojane.com/issues/christian-domestic-disciplineAs I posted on another thread, I discovered this "lifestyle" online and find it really troubling. I'm glad to see someone writing about it. I'm torn between whether it truly is only the business of the women who practice this with their spouses or whether it's problematic for women in general which makes it everyone's business. Anything coming out of right-wing Christianity scares me, mainly because I grew up in a Church of Christ where women couldn't even open their mouths to speak. I know what it's like to be made to feel less capable and it took me years to get over that. So, maybe I am biased. Any thoughts?
SamKnause
(13,114 posts)Mindboggling.
I am always amazed at how adapt religious cults are at recruiting and brainwashing new members.
I will never understand women who volunteer to be chattel.
If they are forced against their will (abducted)
If they are keep isolated from the outside world and have no knowledge of it;
but to sit in church after you turn 18 and accept such blatant disregard for your self worth and freedom, is something I will never understand.
Men are not superior to women.
Women are not superior to men.
We are equal, but very different.
No has the right to own or control anyone.
If you haven't seen the documentary 'Jesus Camp', it will chill you to the bone; you can watch it on YouTube.
kickitup
(355 posts)when I was pregnant. I didn't want my children to grow up like that. But, it was very hard to leave. They threatened to ostracize me and that was a scary thought because all of my family went there (and for the most part still do). It's difficult to this day knowing that my mother worries herself sick over the state of my soul and feels as if she is a failure. I used to be very angry but now it just makes me sad.
And, it actually gave me a complex regarding women. For some reason, I was more angry at the women than the men, and basically had a hard time forming friendships with women. Then I went to college, met female professors who I realized weren't my enemy, met male professors who encouraged me to use my voice, and that all helped me realize the small rural church I grew up in didn't and wouldn't define me.
SamKnause
(13,114 posts)I understand why you would by angrier at the women.
I am so very pleased you are doing well !!!!!!!!!!
I am an Atheist and my mother is very religious.
She also worries about my soul, but I don't think she feels like a failure.
I just explained to her that I am at peace with myself and my decisions.
I tell her I do not fear death and for her to not worry about me.
I think she understands.
She still tells me she is proud of me and her love for me has never wavered.
MadrasT
(7,237 posts)There is more difference between individual males when compared to each other, and individual females when compared to each other, than there is between "men" as a group and "women" as a group.
Men and women are not "very different" at all. Every person is unique.
bemildred
(90,061 posts)People that do want to grow up won't like it, or once they decide they do want to grow up, then they will start to not like it. Like teenagers do.
brooklynite
(94,922 posts)Unless you see evidence that some women are compelled to engage in this because "God said so", I wouldn't get worked up about it.
el_bryanto
(11,804 posts)if it is, than it's nobody's business. It is tricky to determine if it is a choice or not, I suppose.
Bryant
L0oniX
(31,493 posts)"In heaven there is neither male or female"