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LiberatedUSA

(1,666 posts)
Sat Oct 9, 2021, 01:02 PM Oct 2021

Are you out of the loop on what kids tease about?

So am I. I have not set foot in a high school, as a student, in damn near 25 years.

So could some of you help us out here. It seems the shooter was bullied for having nice things. I know a friend who’s daughter was bullied for being too thin.

Is it a situation where the kids just flat look for something to tease about now, if no thing is apparent? I remember kids being teased for being poor or fat. Is it reversed now or just you can’t win? Skinny girl gets made fun of for her weight; so does the fat one. Rich kid gets shit for fancy clothes, poor kid gets bullied for welfare clothing, and the quiet ignore-me-style kid gets bullied for the crime of attempting to Teflon their way through school?

I was a Teflon student myself. Never bullied. Got along with the preps, geeks and stoners alike. Maybe that isn’t allowed now. Gotta be bullied for something sorta outlook.

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Are you out of the loop on what kids tease about? (Original Post) LiberatedUSA Oct 2021 OP
is this in reference to an actual event? CurtEastPoint Oct 2021 #1
The latest school shooter was bullied for being rich. LiberatedUSA Oct 2021 #2
What I am asking for is a link to a story, please. CurtEastPoint Oct 2021 #3
Oh, ok. LiberatedUSA Oct 2021 #4
Anything different will do Sympthsical Oct 2021 #5
Form a group. Igel Oct 2021 #6
Maybe non-wealthy kids are entering XanaDUer2 Oct 2021 #7

Sympthsical

(9,042 posts)
5. Anything different will do
Sat Oct 9, 2021, 01:22 PM
Oct 2021

If someone sticks out, they can be a target. Or sometimes for no reason at all. It could literally be anything.

High school has ever been thus.

Igel

(35,282 posts)
6. Form a group.
Sat Oct 9, 2021, 02:44 PM
Oct 2021

Establish group norms.

The group always thinks it's correct and possibly moral. And has ways of policing in and out.

All that's left is to try to exert control and make sure everybody knows that you think your group's bestest.

The person most at risk in that situation isn't those in other groups (unless the groups are vastly unbalanced). The person most at risk is the individual--a group of one, with no solidarity, support, or Greek chorus saying how great and good and right the person is.

The individual could try to be a loner, but the thing about groups, esp. once they've invested emotions in their goodness and purity, is that they can't tolerate others acting like they have any right to dignity.

Kids in my school, decades back, mocked those who wore really shabby clothes. But if somebody came in decked to the 9s and wasn't already popular (thus permitted to violate the norms, at least sometimes) they were just as mocked. "You think you're better than we are?"

To some extent there is a point there--it's possible to really provoke envy through conspicuous consumption. When this one high school girl got her license and the next day at lunchtime a red Porsche showed up in front of the school wrapped in a big white and gold ribbon with the girl's nickname as the license plate number, it was really unthinking.

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