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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsMy boss slapped my hand Tuesday
you, my DU family, have kindly read and commented on my posts here. Mainly, my toxic job, mental health, and future attempt to get SSDI ( please make it easier to get, Mr Biden. Disabled Americans are counting on you).
Anyway, I was helping her with some PC wires, she told me to watch a service desk, I started moving towards said desk, and she impatiently smacked my left hand. This has never happened in my 25 years of working at various places in my field.
Going up the chain of command or HR will not have a good outcome for me. I've decided to request FMLA third time, in 2.5 weeks. Let the chips fall where they may. I am applying for SSDI and have a lawyer for when I'm turned down.
For my sanity, I need to remove myself from this toxic situation.
Karadeniz
(23,235 posts)XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)but this tore it for me
Walleye
(34,735 posts)Good luck with your SSDI. A toxic work environment is absolute hell
XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)it's awful
Walleye
(34,735 posts)CurtEastPoint
(19,101 posts)Not that your moving to it deserves a slap.
XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)she meant move to a desk to help people. She was assigned there, but moved away to fix a PC. I thought she meant move to the desk in her place, but she meant answer the phone. Not sure why she cared.
EDIT: TYPO
CurtEastPoint
(19,101 posts)Joinfortmill
(16,146 posts)Write down what occurred, date it, and give it to your attorney. Later, once you are out of the situation, you may want to proceed with a grievance.
raccoon
(31,401 posts)XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)I can document whom I told
Humanist_Activist
(7,670 posts)chances are the company she works for will not put their neck out for an employee who assaults another.
Lettuce Be
(2,339 posts)TNNurse
(7,083 posts)ThatJustHappened
(78 posts)Get it on the record
Even if the police, HR, and whomever calls it an exaggeration
If you file a report then it is on the record and they cannot:
-- retaliate by firing, demoting, etc
-- refuse a FMLA
-- ignore the entire episode
You may be able to sue for damages.
They may see the light and change their ways.
They may offer you a buyout/severance package.
You must get the law on your side. Hiring an attorney on retainer is a good start. Filing a police report is even better. Ask your attorney about it. They will most likely back you 100% in filing a police report.
Also file an OSHA report. Get the Feds involved.
Alice Kramden
(2,362 posts)Shocking that it was literally a physical strike - that is beyond the beyond!!! No, absolutely - no one should be treated that way. How terrible!
Buckeyeblue
(5,658 posts)And follow that up with a lawsuit. I'm not sure they could do much to you if there was a criminal investigation going on.
XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)I'm going to try to never go back
Warpy
(113,032 posts)That is not how adults treat each other and it's not even a good idea to treat kids that way, unless it's a dangerous item you need to get them away from quickly.
Just who the hell does she think she is?
XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)we got it all at my job
Warpy
(113,032 posts)Good luck on your SSD.
onethatcares
(16,543 posts)was there any conversation related to what happened like, you saying, "Why did you do that?" "What was that all about?" ?
and what was her response?
XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)I have a problem with self-esteem and assertiveness. She's a weird person.
onethatcares
(16,543 posts)50 years ago I suffered from the same and no one could hear me speak in social situations.
One of my bosses said he couldn't tell what I was saying without leaning forward, so.... on the drive home and on the drive to work
I began to holler "NO". With the windows closed I would yell, "NO". It took a little while but finally I could hear my own voice in meetings with others.
Try it.. It's free and it exercises your vocal chords. Go for it even if you don't have a car or vehicle. If you're doing it in your home and someone asks, just tell them you're practicing lines for a play. Cause that's all life is.
Good luck.
AllaN01Bear
(22,806 posts)but with lots of experience on the system, always appeal. even if they say not , you have the right to appeal. i tried some of the high priced attorneys and had to appeal every decision myself . they only take first and second attempts only. good thing i had a good local team on the ground and in the trenches fighting for my initial bought. remember , appeal.
XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)I do plan on appealing. My lawyer said apply online, then, when denied, they step in. He said I'm disabled and his firm will represent me. He also works with my psychiatrist, as in, they don't work in the same office or are colleagues, but the lawyer helped other patients of his
AllaN01Bear
(22,806 posts)XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)Skittles
(157,747 posts)I cannot even imagine.
XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)Celerity
(46,154 posts)So sorry you are being mentally and physically abused.
luckone
(21,646 posts)good luck to you
take care
do it
honestly, you should confront her about smacking you - that is ridiculous
stollen
(496 posts)Don't sell yourself short.
I would report her hitting you. Parlay it with why you need time off if you haven't already. She's a bully and needs to be stood up to.
sprinkleeninow
(20,530 posts)XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)like rats, we turn on each other
sprinkleeninow
(20,530 posts)I was 'flag' shamed and 'lawn' shamed.
As a practicing 'Believer', I had to let it go in a spirit of humility.
Unfortunately, it came from someone who is a vet. Plus it's pretty apparent they are MAGA. So I chalked it up to that. You just never know. People become pitted one against another, contentious, thanks to the damage that was and still is given license to do.
2naSalit
(91,757 posts)From what I learned when I did it, you don't need an attorney until the second denial. After the first, that takes 90 days, you need to ask for a medical review. If you are denied after that, which takes another six months, is when you get an attorney.
Personally, I never had to deal with the second denial because I was granted disability after the six months of waiting. In fact, they called me on a Saturday to tell me so. I didn't need an attorney or go to court to fight for it which people tell me is unusual.
marble falls
(61,488 posts)... and do the 'come here' thing. I quit after the last time, when I was tired, and I had to stop myself from biting that finger.
It's just not worth taking it from anyone.
yonder
(9,986 posts)including the bird, does it for me. Just doesn't work, never has and I've never been shy about letting whomever know.
marble falls
(61,488 posts)2naSalit
(91,757 posts)You could file a complaint against her for creating a hostile working environment.
XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)sprinkleeninow
(20,530 posts)May it all be resolved perfectly in your favor! 💛
XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)BobTheSubgenius
(11,750 posts)That is absolutely OUTRAGEOUS behaviour!!! From whom would that be an acceptable act?
If you can't "get them", get out...by all means!
XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)when I ask for FMLA
BobTheSubgenius
(11,750 posts)iluvtennis
(20,685 posts)still got my unemployment as the employment judge who moderated the case ruled in my favor over the company. It was very joyous.
***You can win also*** and get the unemployment to tide you over until you can get SSDI approved.
XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)and, after 90 days, I'm going for my employer LTD insurance for money while I await ssdi. It's going to be a long haul, but I need to get out of there
iluvtennis
(20,685 posts)dsc
(52,550 posts)so I wouldn't necessarily assume it is a no. Good luck in any case.
XanaDUer2
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XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)Laffy Kat
(16,502 posts)Every inch of our clinic except the restrooms and examination rooms is under surveillance. If so, you could have the incidence pulled for review. I'm so sorry that happened to you; what a horrible boss.
XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)AwakeAtLast
(14,236 posts)This person should not be around other employees, especially subordinates!
We're there any witnesses? I'm so sorry this happened to you!
gldstwmn
(4,575 posts)is completely unacceptable. I'm so sorry that this happened to you.
XanaDUer2
(13,330 posts)I took yesterday off due to stress