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phylny

(8,414 posts)
Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:14 PM Jan 2021

UPDATE: My 93-year-old father is very close to death from congestive heart failure.

Last edited Mon Jan 11, 2021, 05:17 AM - Edit history (1)

Thank you to this virtual family/friend group. My father died this morning. He was under hospice care at my brother’s home and died at home as he wanted to. We had access to medication and professional advice to help him with anxiety, pain, and other issues.

Thank you so much.

Original post:

I’m here with him and my brother. It’s been a horrible few days for him. Please send prayers and good vibes for a peaceful passage.

This has been so hard to witness.

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UPDATE: My 93-year-old father is very close to death from congestive heart failure. (Original Post) phylny Jan 2021 OP
Love to you and your family, phylny. sheshe2 Jan 2021 #1
I'm so sorry. I'm glad you have your brother with you. nt Phoenix61 Jan 2021 #2
Hard and so very very full of love being with your father at this time. LizBeth Jan 2021 #3
((phylny)) blm Jan 2021 #4
Prayers for him, you and the rest of your family. TigressDem Jan 2021 #5
... Nevilledog Jan 2021 #6
warmest hugs dear phylny! halobeam Jan 2021 #7
Sending Dad, you and your brother 💖💖💖💕💕💞💞 MLAA Jan 2021 #8
I am so very sorry. July Jan 2021 #9
I'm so sorry, so very sorry renate Jan 2021 #10
I know you've seen this coming, but there's really no preparing. I'm happy you both are able to be Karadeniz Jan 2021 #11
May your father find peace soon and so sorry for you and your brother. Kaleva Jan 2021 #12
I'm sorry StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #13
.... spanone Jan 2021 #14
I'm sorry phylny MustLoveBeagles Jan 2021 #15
I'm so sorry for you and your family. sinkingfeeling Jan 2021 #16
... alwaysinasnit Jan 2021 #17
I'm sorry for your family. nt live love laugh Jan 2021 #18
Yes it's an awful thing to witness Farmgirl1961 Jan 2021 #19
I am sorry, but you are there and that will be DeminPennswoods Jan 2021 #20
So sorry. healthnut7 Jan 2021 #21
I'm very sorry, phylny. brer cat Jan 2021 #22
Sending prayers and a hug. hamsterjill Jan 2021 #23
Lost my dad last February Dem2 Jan 2021 #24
I am so sorry for your situation. I hope your family finds peace. nt okaawhatever Jan 2021 #25
Sounds awful, but he's lucky to have you there DFW Jan 2021 #26
If your father is not receiving adequate pain control and Maru Kitteh Jan 2021 #27
Sending good vibes and sincere prayers for your Dad FakeNoose Jan 2021 #28
so very very sorry diva77 Jan 2021 #44
Strength to you all. So sorry. electric_blue68 Jan 2021 #29
I'm so sorry, phylny. crickets Jan 2021 #30
You are in my thoughts!!! CaptainTruth Jan 2021 #31
Peace to father, and all who love him. denbot Jan 2021 #32
I went down that road in 2009 PlanetBev Jan 2021 #33
.. Demovictory9 Jan 2021 #34
❤️✿❧🌿❧✿❤️ Lucinda Jan 2021 #35
I am sorry for what he and you are going through. Gore1FL Jan 2021 #36
Holding you and those you love in my heart. n/t TygrBright Jan 2021 #37
I am so sorry. It is a blessing to your father that you and your brother Tanuki Jan 2021 #38
Blessings and peace to you blogslut Jan 2021 #39
Hopefully you're all asleep now, but so good that you can be together. Hortensis Jan 2021 #40
I'm so very sorry. catbyte Jan 2021 #41
Heartfelt wishes for peace and comfort for you all. JudyM Jan 2021 #42
I've done exactly what you're doing. Dem2theMax Jan 2021 #43
This message was self-deleted by its author Grasswire2 Jan 2021 #45
Seriously? Not now, please. phylny Jan 2021 #46
I am so sorry, phylny mnhtnbb Jan 2021 #47
Thank you. phylny Jan 2021 #48

TigressDem

(5,125 posts)
5. Prayers for him, you and the rest of your family.
Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:19 PM
Jan 2021

You are doing the hard thing, but it is good he has you all with him so he passes with love surrounding him.


halobeam

(4,874 posts)
7. warmest hugs dear phylny!
Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:20 PM
Jan 2021

It's so, SO unimaginable, yet please believe me, as hard as it is to witness, you will be even more grateful to have been there. Hang in there. You are strong to do this, and he knows he has you and your brother by his side, and that matters. xo

July

(4,753 posts)
9. I am so very sorry.
Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:21 PM
Jan 2021

You and your brother are doing all you can do at this time. It makes a difference.

renate

(13,776 posts)
10. I'm so sorry, so very sorry
Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:22 PM
Jan 2021

It hurts just to imagine what you’re going through. Our hearts are with you. Sending love and prayers

Karadeniz

(22,859 posts)
11. I know you've seen this coming, but there's really no preparing. I'm happy you both are able to be
Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:31 PM
Jan 2021

With him. That's become a rare gift. I can see he had a long life. I hope he was happy, too. Sending helpful thoughts your way.

Farmgirl1961

(1,494 posts)
19. Yes it's an awful thing to witness
Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:54 PM
Jan 2021

My father, age 91, died of CHF and related complications on October 7th, 2020. He was so hoping to stick around to vote (Biden) as he loathed Trump. He was in hospice care for about a week which made a world of difference for us all.

I wish you all the best at this difficult time.

DeminPennswoods

(15,354 posts)
20. I am sorry, but you are there and that will be
Mon Jan 11, 2021, 12:00 AM
Jan 2021

a comfort.

When my own parents were at the end, I was told hearing is the last thing to go, so keep talking and give him permission to let go. That's what I did, but it was hard.

brer cat

(24,821 posts)
22. I'm very sorry, phylny.
Mon Jan 11, 2021, 12:12 AM
Jan 2021

It is hard to witness, but later you will be glad you were with him. Sending you and your family hugs and prayers for a peaceful passage.

Dem2

(8,168 posts)
24. Lost my dad last February
Mon Jan 11, 2021, 12:24 AM
Jan 2021

Also of congestive heart failure. He was only 83.

I'll send good vibes. Can't offer advice because that would require me to think about it.

DFW

(54,920 posts)
26. Sounds awful, but he's lucky to have you there
Mon Jan 11, 2021, 12:27 AM
Jan 2021

And you had him until age 93. I lost my dad at 78.

Tell him some jokes when the suffering takes a relapse, and I hope your presence there is of some comfort to him.

Maru Kitteh

(28,376 posts)
27. If your father is not receiving adequate pain control and
Mon Jan 11, 2021, 12:30 AM
Jan 2021

hospice/comfort care support - PLEASE speak up! This breaks my heart.

Thinking of you.


PlanetBev

(4,104 posts)
33. I went down that road in 2009
Mon Jan 11, 2021, 01:34 AM
Jan 2021

My dad died of congestive heart failure at 88. The last week was very rough. My heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. Please take good care of yourself, as well.

Gore1FL

(21,252 posts)
36. I am sorry for what he and you are going through.
Mon Jan 11, 2021, 01:42 AM
Jan 2021

I remember when my father passed. The three of us local siblings went the the funeral home. We looked out the window watching the traffic drive by and my sister observed, "The whole world has changed, and none of these people know it."

FWIW, I understand that the world is changing. I am so very sorry.

Tanuki

(14,958 posts)
38. I am so sorry. It is a blessing to your father that you and your brother
Mon Jan 11, 2021, 01:46 AM
Jan 2021

can be there for comfort and support. Praying for a peaceful passage for him, free of pain or fear, and for whatever palliative care his situation requires. Many of us have been through the difficult last days of a beloved parent and understand something of what you are going through. As difficult as it is, you will never regret a moment of staying the course and seeing him through to the other side.


Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
40. Hopefully you're all asleep now, but so good that you can be together.
Mon Jan 11, 2021, 01:49 AM
Jan 2021

Best wishes for you all, Phylny.

Dem2theMax

(9,722 posts)
43. I've done exactly what you're doing.
Mon Jan 11, 2021, 02:07 AM
Jan 2021

Hold his hand and talk to him. Even if you think he can't hear you. He can. Your presence will be comforting.

It's the hardest thing to do. But it is such a gift of love at the same time. My heart is with you and your family.



And may your dad have a very peaceful passing.

Response to phylny (Original post)

mnhtnbb

(31,527 posts)
47. I am so sorry, phylny
Mon Jan 11, 2021, 05:19 AM
Jan 2021

My mom died from CHF at the age of 91. My dad was with her as she passed and it was very upsetting for him.

My heart goes out to your family.

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