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Thank you to this virtual family/friend group. My father died this morning. He was under hospice care at my brothers home and died at home as he wanted to. We had access to medication and professional advice to help him with anxiety, pain, and other issues.
Thank you so much.
Original post:
Im here with him and my brother. Its been a horrible few days for him. Please send prayers and good vibes for a peaceful passage.
This has been so hard to witness.
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sheshe2
(85,186 posts)Phoenix61
(17,244 posts)LizBeth
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(113,490 posts)TigressDem
(5,125 posts)You are doing the hard thing, but it is good he has you all with him so he passes with love surrounding him.
Nevilledog
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halobeam
(4,878 posts)It's so, SO unimaginable, yet please believe me, as hard as it is to witness, you will be even more grateful to have been there. Hang in there. You are strong to do this, and he knows he has you and your brother by his side, and that matters. xo
MLAA
(17,666 posts)July
(4,757 posts)You and your brother are doing all you can do at this time. It makes a difference.
renate
(13,776 posts)It hurts just to imagine what youre going through. Our hearts are with you. Sending love and prayers
Karadeniz
(22,955 posts)With him. That's become a rare gift. I can see he had a long life. I hope he was happy, too. Sending helpful thoughts your way.
Kaleva
(37,075 posts)StarfishSaver
(18,486 posts)It's good that you're there with him. That will always bring you great comfort.
spanone
(136,797 posts)Peace & Light....
MustLoveBeagles
(12,136 posts)Sending good vibes and virtual hugs to your family.
sinkingfeeling
(51,873 posts)alwaysinasnit
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live love laugh
(13,795 posts)Farmgirl1961
(1,495 posts)My father, age 91, died of CHF and related complications on October 7th, 2020. He was so hoping to stick around to vote (Biden) as he loathed Trump. He was in hospice care for about a week which made a world of difference for us all.
I wish you all the best at this difficult time.
DeminPennswoods
(15,637 posts)a comfort.
When my own parents were at the end, I was told hearing is the last thing to go, so keep talking and give him permission to let go. That's what I did, but it was hard.
healthnut7
(249 posts)brer cat
(25,260 posts)It is hard to witness, but later you will be glad you were with him. Sending you and your family hugs and prayers for a peaceful passage.
hamsterjill
(15,410 posts)Im so very sorry.
Dem2
(8,168 posts)Also of congestive heart failure. He was only 83.
I'll send good vibes. Can't offer advice because that would require me to think about it.
okaawhatever
(9,482 posts)DFW
(55,437 posts)And you had him until age 93. I lost my dad at 78.
Tell him some jokes when the suffering takes a relapse, and I hope your presence there is of some comfort to him.
Maru Kitteh
(28,495 posts)hospice/comfort care support - PLEASE speak up! This breaks my heart.
Thinking of you.
FakeNoose
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diva77
(7,861 posts)glad you are able to be with him
oops - msg meant for phylny
electric_blue68
(15,962 posts)crickets
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PlanetBev
(4,129 posts)My dad died of congestive heart failure at 88. The last week was very rough. My heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. Please take good care of yourself, as well.
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Lucinda
(31,170 posts)Gore1FL
(21,382 posts)I remember when my father passed. The three of us local siblings went the the funeral home. We looked out the window watching the traffic drive by and my sister observed, "The whole world has changed, and none of these people know it."
FWIW, I understand that the world is changing. I am so very sorry.
TygrBright
(20,866 posts)Tanuki
(14,992 posts)can be there for comfort and support. Praying for a peaceful passage for him, free of pain or fear, and for whatever palliative care his situation requires. Many of us have been through the difficult last days of a beloved parent and understand something of what you are going through. As difficult as it is, you will never regret a moment of staying the course and seeing him through to the other side.
blogslut
(38,230 posts)Hortensis
(58,785 posts)Best wishes for you all, Phylny.
catbyte
(34,910 posts)JudyM
(29,431 posts)Love will remain
Dem2theMax
(9,815 posts)Hold his hand and talk to him. Even if you think he can't hear you. He can. Your presence will be comforting.
It's the hardest thing to do. But it is such a gift of love at the same time. My heart is with you and your family.
And may your dad have a very peaceful passing.
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phylny
(8,450 posts)Thanks.
mnhtnbb
(31,612 posts)My mom died from CHF at the age of 91. My dad was with her as she passed and it was very upsetting for him.
My heart goes out to your family.