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Tue Aug 25, 2020, 08:06 PM

I'm ashamed of my race (white)

Too much?

It's how I feel.

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Reply I'm ashamed of my race (white) (Original post)
cilla4progress Aug 2020 OP
unblock Aug 2020 #1
yewberry Aug 2020 #2
Behind the Aegis Aug 2020 #6
cilla4progress Aug 2020 #12
Behind the Aegis Aug 2020 #19
cilla4progress Aug 2020 #20
Behind the Aegis Aug 2020 #22
cilla4progress Aug 2020 #26
cwydro Aug 2020 #25
cilla4progress Aug 2020 #15
DavidDvorkin Aug 2020 #3
Skittles Aug 2020 #13
abqtommy Aug 2020 #4
Bettie Aug 2020 #5
qwlauren35 Aug 2020 #7
cilla4progress Aug 2020 #14
ace3csusm Aug 2020 #8
Solomon Aug 2020 #9
WhiskeyGrinder Aug 2020 #10
Shaddox Aug 2020 #11
cilla4progress Aug 2020 #16
GulfCoast66 Aug 2020 #17
jmg257 Aug 2020 #18
Kaleva Aug 2020 #21
betsuni Aug 2020 #23
Raine Aug 2020 #24
muriel_volestrangler Aug 2020 #27
cilla4progress Aug 2020 #28

Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 08:17 PM

1. I'm not ashamed. I don't feel I have much in common with white supremacists.

I'll try to be sensitive and aware of my privilege, but the shame is all theirs.

To the extent I feel shame, it's for my personal decisions of not doing enough. But I'm not going to feel shame for the actions of others fighting for something I don't believe in just because my skin tone is similar.

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Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 08:35 PM

2. Don't be.

That's not the point, and it's not helpful to anyone.

Understand your privilege-- you didn't earn it, true, but you also didn't ask for it. Call out racism in your life when you see it. Don't expect BIPOC to explain it to you. In conversations about race, listen more than you speak.

Shame doesn't help, and it fuels right-wing talking points about being "proud white" people.

YMMV.

Signed,
just another white woman

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Response to yewberry (Reply #2)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 08:53 PM

6. Brava!

Also, statements like that (the OP) take away from the affected minorities, by, again, making it about white people.

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Response to Behind the Aegis (Reply #6)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 10:06 PM

12. This is harsh.

I didn't say it as a statement.

It's my truth.

I admitted it knowing I would get blowback.

But I still thought I was safe here.

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Response to cilla4progress (Reply #12)

Wed Aug 26, 2020, 12:25 AM

19. It may be harsh, but it, too, is truth.

How are you "unsafe"? There was nothing even resembling a threat in my post. What was in my post was very specific to your comment.

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Response to Behind the Aegis (Reply #19)

Wed Aug 26, 2020, 03:43 AM

20. Safw to speak my truth and fear

without judgment! Without suspicion.

Oh nevermind....

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Response to cilla4progress (Reply #20)

Wed Aug 26, 2020, 04:04 AM

22. Then feedback is not what you wanted.

So, yes, continue, by all means.

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Response to Behind the Aegis (Reply #22)

Wed Aug 26, 2020, 11:54 AM

26. Ok.

I'm ashamed of my race (white). I'm ashamed of NA genocode. I'm ashamed of slavery and structural racism. I'm ashamed of colonization. I'm ashamed of white supremacy and supremacists. I'm ashamed of my white privilege. I'm ashamed of what is going on rn in the streets of Kenosha.

Though I have not directly participated ‐ they are done for my benefit as a white person.

See. Not so hard.

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Response to cilla4progress (Reply #12)

Wed Aug 26, 2020, 04:37 AM

25. Oh, come on now.

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Response to yewberry (Reply #2)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 10:09 PM

15. Thank you

for sharing your wisdom, non-judgementally!

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Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 08:37 PM

3. That makes no more sense than being proud of your white race

You don't deserve blame or praise for what other people who share your skin color have done.

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Response to DavidDvorkin (Reply #3)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 10:07 PM

13. THANK YOU

yes indeed

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Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 08:46 PM

4. There's only one race, and that's The Human Race. This is scientific fact, Jack. Any differences

in skin color, eye/nose shape are local ethnic adaptations. Prisons throughout the world hold real
criminals of all ethnic groups. I hate the history of many white people who have done evil but I'm not
one of them. I'm proud to call my black and brown brothers and sisters members of my human family.
Together we can make our family function in a positive manner again! We accomplish this be refusing
to be a "racist"/ethnic/gender/ageist bigot. Now let's get to it!

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Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 08:51 PM

5. I kind of feel like I need to find a way to work

on the problems in the white community.

Sadly, I don't speak to most of the horrible ones in my life anymore.

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Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 08:54 PM

7. I will remind you.

Biden is white. Warren is white.

You stand among a race of people that include both good and evil.

Don't be ashamed.

Just decide to live up to a high personal standard... and fuck everybody else.

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Response to qwlauren35 (Reply #7)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 10:08 PM

14. This is helpful.

Thank you.

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Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 08:54 PM

8. Dont Be ashamed of your race, its who you are as a person that makes you regardless

of color skin...Be proud of being a good moral person and stand for right from wrong Kind of like Captain America...

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Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 08:57 PM

9. Lol. You didn't need to add the white in parenthesis. We understand how you feel.

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Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 08:58 PM

10. Don't waste your time being ashamed. Work to dismantle white supremacy instead.

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Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 09:00 PM

11. It is too much. I'm a brown guy. Just be a good person. That is all we can do.

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Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 10:11 PM

16. Appreciate the generosity

in the comments here. And suggestions!

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Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 10:12 PM

17. Ashamed? Really. I am only ashamed of things I have personally done

Or not done.

I my opinion that makes as much sense as being proud of being a white person. Iím only proud of my personal accomplishments or those of my wife.

But hey, to each their own. You feel like you feel.

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Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Tue Aug 25, 2020, 10:36 PM

18. Yep - too much. Nt

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Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Wed Aug 26, 2020, 03:48 AM

21. That assumes that races have certain unique negative traits.

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Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Wed Aug 26, 2020, 04:22 AM

23. Europeans came to this country and either inadvertently or on purpose wiped out the native

populations, dragged people over from Africa like animals to do the work for them, cut down forests and killed off the buffalo and plowed up the prairies, made money and property and fame a religion. There's a sort of cultural poverty, an anti-intellectual selfish greediness that happened in America. It's embarrassing.

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Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Wed Aug 26, 2020, 04:34 AM

24. There's no sense in feeling shame about something other then a wrong that you

yourself committed. 🤔

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Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Wed Aug 26, 2020, 02:32 PM

27. The good news is that 'race' is not a useful classification

The bad news, for people like me (White Anglo Saxon Protestant, by upbringing if not current religious group) is that it's my culture and heritage that is more responsible for attitudes like Trump's and his supporters than just about everyone else. OK, at least at my country and ancestors were on the right side in WW2, but "at least we weren't the Nazis" is weak stuff.

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Response to cilla4progress (Original post)

Wed Aug 26, 2020, 02:54 PM

28. I appreciate the dialogue here.

I knew my post would be controversial. I also value DU as a place where we can expose our fears, vulnerabilities, and yes, even shame.

Thank you for your great reflections and ideas!

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